pregnant but partner doesn't want to keep

[pinkman]

I found out I was pregnant on weekend and we have been together a year he says will have a family etc. after things have settled down with work etc. as he is builder of his own business but I old him I can understand where he coming from e wants to see his child grow up and be the best dad possible but I want to do the right thing and keep the baby but I scared I will loose him I know he loves and right now is not the best time to have a child but haven't got the guts to go through with an abortion any help or views on this anyone

[Judith_lovesjazz]

Hi pinkman- how you are feeling is totally normal and the decision to start a family when you don't feel ready or to have an abortion is a difficult one. Had you talked about starting a family before you found out you were pregnant? It is still early and the news of pregnancy might still be a bit of a shock for your partner so maybe give him a bit of time to think over things some more. Are you able to talk to a close friend or family member about how you are feeling? I often find confiding in a friend is a good way to get things off your chest and to figure out how you feel. Xx

[pinkman in reply to Judith_lovesjazz]

We'll he just doesn't want it though and I scared I loose him and have it regret that or loose baby and keep him and resent him for it and then loose him xx

[Judith_lovesjazz in reply to pinkman]

Has he told you that he will leave you if you do continue with the pregnancy? I'm so sorry that you are going through all this. I think it would be a good idea to talk to a member of your family or a friend and see what they think because being able to talk to a friend can be really helpful when you need to make a difficult decision. They can give you an outsiders perspective. xx

[becca112]

Hello, an unexpected pregnancy can be really difficult thing to come to terms with for a couple and as Judith said it is totally normal to feel concerned. How far along are you into your pregnancy? One of my good friends had an unplanned pregnancy with her husband and she initially felt that she couldn’t have an abortion but in time her and her husband felt it was the right thing for them at that period in their lives. However, every situation is different and what’s important is for you to both think about your own personal lives and whether having a baby is the right thing for you. xx