Well today we have been told that there is nothing more they can do for my dear mum , they will keep her comfortable and pain free for as long as it takes , I’m falling apart I can barely breath at the moment so not been to the hospital since Monday , I nearly called for help on Monday as even with my ambulatory oxygen on I lost my breath just as I got to the main entrance was a struggle to get to the ward and a struggle to get back to my car after so decided it would be better to make sure I am fully recovered before I go again only to get this news today , now all I want to do is go sit and hold her hand 24/7 ., can’t bare it I’m completely devastated love this lady so so much ❤️❤️
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They have told me that many times but for some reason I am still here. I almost wish I would have gone at times. It seems so difficult just getting up. I remember someone saying to me that it is harder for those we leave behind. My husband and I just take it a day at a time, we keep each other going. Don’t be to sad it sounds like you love her just continue and spend what time you have.
Sending love to you at this sad time. The waiting vigil for a loved one is a hard on mind, body and soul. Be as kind to yourself as you are to your darling mum. You have your own health issues, and need support too. The more support you can rally, the more you can support your mum as she eases from this life to another. Reaching out to us is good, but the hospital may have a companions support system in place or at least give you details of where to find the nearest group.
Sorry to hear of your sad news, If spending time with your mum right now is important to you ask the team for help for you to do it if you feel able. They have rooms for you to stay in many hospitals & hospices and people to support the patient and closest relatives, in some cases they can arrange food for you too. My heart goes out to you we are here if you need to talk , take care x
I totally understand.... was in your position too! It’s so strange as when friends were asking how I felt whilst I was nursing her in her last ( turned out 10 days.... she just wouldn’t let go) I described it too as “ I can’t breathe”.... go be with your lovely Mum 24/7.... love her to the end. She will know you’re there... you will find little communications you can use between you even if she can’t talk or move at the end. Touch, smell, voice, love she will feel it all. You are the only one that really knows her and she will appreciate all you do for her. No regrets! ♥️
My heart goes out to you. I've been there with my mom, it was tough. I sat and prayed with her. I said I love you and had to leave . Mom went home and hospice care helped her for her final days. 2 days later my sister called and said ... mom died today. I was lucky I guess as I had her for 56 years and now God has her I'm sure. I took her ashes back to Hawaii where she was born and lived before meeting my dad. It was sweet and still I hurt. She was a great mom, I love her and miss her. Along with my dad and my youngest daughter. I feel alone sometimes but the Lord is with me to give me peace and understanding.
Wishing you peace and love,
Gods blessings to you and your family.
Really feel for you in this situation. If it’s any consolation I hear from many nurses that when someone is ready to go, it’s easier if their nearest and dearest aren’t nearby hoping they will keep on going. When you are poorly yourself you must trust your loved ones to know that too - they won’t want you to feel guilty for them. Please don’t feel bad and affect your own health . Your mum will know you love her and won’t want you to feel so guilty you can’t be with her. She will want you to do what’s best for you, and she will go knowing you love her .
I agree with you but some like my close friend stayed with his dad, held on to him. I went to say to his dad, I could see his time was nearing as his fingertips were blue. It was a sight I saw that has stuck with me for 20 years. I wish I was with my dad when he passed, I was working and couldn't get away in time. I think my dad was waiting for me but I was over 2 thousand miles away. Before I could make plans he passed. I feel sometimes I cheated my dad. He was my hero, couldn't have a better dad. I should stop here as my thoughts bring back the pain
Gods Blessings to all