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Claire245
Claire245
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My dad passed away from pneumonia 5 days ago.

My father was a gentleman, generous, intelligent and most of all loving.Over 10 years my father suffered from spondylitis and arthritis in his neck, spine, hips and knees. Eventually he ended up in a wheelchair and could hardly walk. It was a struggle on the family but we got through some tough times. He always put a smile on everyone’s face. He always used to pick me up when I felt low. And gave the best advice when needed. On Sunday 5th of January 2019 he was rushed to hospital with difficulty breathing.Me and my mother stayed with him all through the night and day. By Tuesday 8th January 2019 he passed away at the age of 65. Diagnosis was pneumonia which also killed his father. I feel so broken, he was my rock, my best friend, my life. I was a daddies girl.

I feel so alone right now

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sassy59

My heart goes out to you and your family Claire. How very sad to hear about your dear dad everything is so raw right now.

Deepest sympathies to you and rest assured you did all you could and may your dad now rest in peace. Xxxx

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Caspiana

My dear Claire,

I am very sorry to read this. I can only imagine how very difficult this time must be. He was clearly a wonderful father and greatly loved. I am thinking of you during this sad period. May love be what you remember most.

Warm wishes,

Cas xx 🌹

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Katinka46

So sorry to hear your sad news. He sounds like a wonderful man. Treasure your memories.

Love, hugs and condolences

Kate xx

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Damon1864
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You all have different memories of him, and all the love he had for you all. You will feel lost at the moment but that's understandable, you now need to take care of yourself and help your dear mum. You are definitely not alone we are all here for you, ready to give love and support. You take care and keep in touch, we are always for you. 😥 Love Bernadette xx

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skischool

Dear Claire,so sorry to hear about the passing of your father,you are still daddies girl and i expect your Dad would ask you to also help Mum during this difficult time.

Condolences from Ski's and Scruffy x

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Kitten-kat23

I'm so so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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pegbl

So sorry Claire it's so hard when you lose someone close to you love, my heart goes out to you and your mum . Loving thoughts to you both xxxx

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CELAT06

Dear Claire, so sorry to hear your devastating news, you have my deepest and sincerest condolences, and my thoughts are with you and your family at this very sad time. You will have many lovely memories of being your Daddies girl, hold on to them and hopefully they will help to see you through this very emotional and traumatic time.

Much love and best wishes. Christine. X

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Julier1955

Hi Claire, I’m so sorry for your loss he was so young. You will be feeling low because this has come as a complete shock to you and more so because he was your BFF. My dad was mine too and it took me a little while to appreciate the good times instead of the sadness but it will come eventually. I can’t begin to know your pain right now as mine has long been secreted into a box somewhere in my personal ether perhaps one day I’ll take it out. Stay strong honey for yourself and your mum and just remember wherever his beautiful soul has gone to, you can rest assured he will not be far from your side guiding you. I’m not a religious person but I do believe that and I have always had it in mind for myself. I’m happy to chat whenever you like but please don’t be a stranger, there are enough of us on here to life your spirits when you are low.

Lots of love & hugs

Julie x

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cofdrop-UK

Dear Claire

I as so very sad for you sweetheart to hear of the passing of your beloved Dad. He must have been a wonderful, loving Dad to have such a caring daughter like you Claire and he must have been very proud of you as you were of him.

Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family.

We are here if you want/need to talk.

With love

Cx

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Artichokes

I'm so sorry to hear that Claire. Please know that I, and a lot of others, will be thinking of you. Xxx

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newlands

So very sorry to hear your sad. News take care

Dorothy

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jmsutt73

Oh, my..you touch my heart. I, too, was a daddy's girl. The youngest of 9 children, when I was born, my dad was older, was not working long hours so much as he was with the older children. We were very close. Time will make it better, but the missing will not ever completely leave. As it shouldn't for a dear dad. ❤️ With care, Jan

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megshafer

Claire, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.

Meg

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So sorry for your loss Claire.

Dad passed away from pneumonia and heart failure in Dec 2017. It was hard. Time and happy memories help.

My deepest sympathies xx

Fran

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Hacienda

Dear Claire, I am so sorry for you losing your Beloved Dad. You will always be his Girl and You Know in your Heart that will always be this way. Your Memories are your Keepsake of your wonderful Dad. Sending Love & Gentle Hugs xxxx

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iceoteck

So sorry to hear that hope you are okay xx

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Patty24

Dear Claire, I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a big loss...your lovely dad will never leave your side.He will be with you every step you take.I feel your pain and I know the special connections we feel with our wonderful dads..I only had one parent from the age of 5 as my mam passed away at 39.My dad went to Heaven in 2002.I talk to him everyday.Take care and know that your dear dad is no longer in pain but he is with you in heart and spirit.God bless.Pat

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Rayswife

I am very sorry for your loss. It is very hard to lose someone you love so much. You will always miss him but the extreme pain will ease with time. My thoughts will be with you at this sad time. Sending hugs.

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Alfiebax2

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious father . My heart goes out to you and your family .💔😢

Love and hugs Babs xxx

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Izb1

Sorry to hear your sad news, condolences to you and your mum x

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Whitechinchilla

My heart goes out to you Claire245. Sadly there are no words that can comfort you and your mum right now. Hopefully time will ease your pain.

You have some wonderful memories to hold onto that will give you strength. I wish you peace.

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SquirrelsHolt

Like so many of our members have said already,to loose a parent is so unbelievably upsetting and it will indeed take time,before you can ease your pain. As cofdrop-UK wrote,whenever you feel like talking some more,please come back. Sincere condolences to you and your Mum.

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stamford1234

It's a very sad time for you and your Mum you will have to look after each other. He sounds like a lovely man. Deepest condolences

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Dedalus

Sorry you've lost your darling dad Claire. You'll always have the wonderful memories if him to help you through your grief. My sincerest condolences to you and your family - may he rest in peace x

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Angel1049

Oh Claire, my condolences, you are almost describing my dad. I am here in prayers for you , your family and your beloved dad.

Your friend,

-Angel

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Blue58

Hi Claire. My mum too passed with pneumonia within in a short time at the age of 65 so I really do understand all the emotions you are feeling right now. Please be assured you are never alone although I completely understand why you would feel like that. It is 30 years now since I lost my mum and whilst I still miss her, the pain has gradually been replaced with smiles and even laughter at all the special memories we shared. You too will get there but in the meantime never stop reaching out especially to all those close to you and in time you will all heal together, if not all at the same time but you will get there and you will be so grateful of all the special memories you have. Take care and God Bless x

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Hummingbird2

So Sorry for your loss,I know how you feel I lost my Dad some years ago and you described my dad,I was with him when he passed away.My sympathies to you and your family.

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dickinson1954

Sorry to hear your sad news. Grief hits everyone differently. Don’t be afraid to cry or scream or shout. Look after yourself. X

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Chriskho

Thinking about you at this sad time. Hope you have lovely supportive people around you.

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esther333

My thoughts are with you at this sad time Claire. xx

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Stitcher48

Dear Claire I know thexactly depth of pain you are feeling right now,I lost my daddy in 2014 and like you he was my best friend and the person who loved me most in this world ,I think of him every day and to begin with I thought my heart would never heal I was just broken when he died but gradually the pain eased because of all the wonderful memories he had left me with,the love he had given to me and my sisters and to our children and to our Mammy whom he adored. I realised how truly blessed I was growing up with that love and knowing he was devoted to his family. His second love was football and was still refereeing at the age of 77,he was just a lovely man and now when I think of him I smile and just be so thankful he was my daddy. The terrible pain will ease and you will go on with your life never forgetting how lucky you had a father so loving and kind,there will be days when you will feel sad but think of the love he gave you,I am so sorry for your loss ,and I hope and pray you will get through and remember those sunny happy days you would have had growing up and the wintry ones too,memories of sandcastles and snowballs bring back such lovely memories. Wishing you peace and prayers for this very difficult time.

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Shancock

I am sorry for your loss Claire, pneumonia is such a nasty illness and terribly bad for any elderly or with a pre-existing condition.

My father was 64 when he passed away which was 9 years ago now, it was a terrible shock and I totally understand how hurt you will be feeling now.

Always cherish those memories as we are lucky to have them, remember some people don't have the joy of a loving father.

Everyday I still miss my dad, I miss having a chat on the phone or if something funny happens and I wish I could tell him about it. But you do learn to live with the grief and look back on your wonderful times with a smile.

It's not something you get over but you get better at living with it.

I hope you and your family can be there for each other and I wish you all the best in the future.

Much love x

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Nicholatracy

So very sorry to hear of your loss

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Johnem

Heartfelt condolences Claire, may your beloved dad rest in peace.

John.

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katieoxo60

Sorry to hear of the sad loss of your father. May he rest in peace and hope the best memories help you to come through this sad time.

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jackdup

So very sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

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Ergendl

So sorry for you and your family at this sad time. ((((Hugs)))) and prayers.

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