My mum has terminal pneumonia with sepsis that has not responded to antibiotics. She is on syringe driver morphine, hyoscine for the secretions and midazolam sometimes to rest. Daily her chest crackles/bubbles are worsening (in both lungs) but she continues to hang in and has pretty much full awareness. Does anyone know how long this will last pls? We were told 24 hours 1 week ago and it's tearing me apart seeing her suffer like this.
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Dear Flo, I see that you are a newcomer and welcome. I am very sorry to hear that your Mum has terminal pneumonia. You have all my sympathies. I cant help, myself - it is impossible to put a date on terminal illness. It is so hard to watch a loved one slipping away so every moment has to be appreciated.
Do you have a family around you? The support of your GP, social services or pastoral care if it is wanted. I presume your mother is in hospital. You will be in my thoughts. I am sure that you will be getting advice from other people in this forum. Sincerely, Pergola x
Hello Flo1971 .
I am very sorry about your mum. I know how it feels. I went through the last week with my dad. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I cannot say how long this will take. I know from experience they go when they are ready. On their own terms. Just like birth. Do talk to her about the happy times. She may not be able to respond but she can hear everything. Hearing is the last sense to stop. Let her know it's okay to let go when she is ready to and that you will all be fine. That helped my dad a lot.
I am thinking of you this week. I hope for your peace and for your family's. I have a feeling your mum is at peace already. Although it may not seem so.
Hang in there. Much love to you.
Cas xx 🌹
I am so sorry and feel for you and your mum right now. My experience is with my sister's passing 20.11.11 She died of respiratory failure She was on a diamorphine drip She was awake in the day and I have to say that she was like her normal self that I hadn't seen for years She was in bed, obviously, but I was glad to see she was happy She didn't appear to know she was so near the end (Which would be a godsend for me if it was me - I have severe, End Stage COPD I'd like to go like my sister) We were told the day before, "It could be 2 days to 2 weeks" That evening, the nurse said, "Of course, I'll increase the dose" The next day she stayed asleep and passed away at 1.30pm (If they talk about increasing the dose, don't be shy about asking question)
In spite of everything, I hope the nurses can get the dosage right so you can have your mum a little longer and that she can be happy like my sister was Remembering my sister's happiness in those last hours has been a great comfort to her family and me
I hope this helps I think, with the drugs, your sister is feeling better than you think. I my contribution hasn't upset you
Please accept my very best wishes to you Flo1971