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Hi all,

What’s peoples thoughts on this? I’m currently in Spain on holiday with my family. Will I have a few more beers or wine than normal, yes I will. Will I eat a bit more “no good” than normal, yes I will,

I obviously want to be around for as long as possible for my family (I have 3 young kids) but sometimes I feel I need to make memories now and if that means a bit over indulging then so be it.

I know it’s a balance between now and healthy for the future.

Best wishes all.

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Happyrosie profile image
Happyrosie

have a lovely holiday

SlothOnSpeed profile image
SlothOnSpeed

Many people live exemplarily lives and die early. There are no guarantees in life. Do enjoy your holiday.

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Seal59

Enjoy your holiday, sounds great x

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devonian186

Enjoy your holiday. All I would say is keep out of the sun (30c in the shade will equate to 60c in the sun) and drink lots of fluid other than alcohol as well.

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ROBBO36 in reply todevonian186

Thank you. Very hot indeed and most certainly drinking lots of water.

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Farmer87

I literally live how I want in, I do what I like, buy what I like, go away as much as I can drink and eat in moderation when we're away but healthy back home. My wife always tells me off to stop acting as if I'm going to die but only you with a condition understand the behaviour enjoy it while you can is what I go by.

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ROBBO36 in reply toFarmer87

Thank you, I love your outlook on life. Spot on

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CyclingTime

A holiday won't effect things as long as you get on it when you get back home so enjoy your holiday

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Wooodsie

Go for it. I personally enjoy a normal life. Making adjustments to diet and exercise is plenty of compensation. I wouldn't curtail my holiday enjoyment at all, nor should you if you choose not to 🍻🍺🍷🥂

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ROBBO36 in reply toWooodsie

Thank you and that’s certainly the way I see things.

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DWizza

Enjoy it Robbo 🍻👊🏻 stick within limits though , don’t go binge drinking and gluttonous just enjoy the food beer and wine and back to preventative measures when back home …. Don’t know what heart condition you have but I think it’s important to be mindful of not making things worse for ourselves and family. I find booze really does affect me these days , particularly evening beers/wine , it upsets my sleep and I feel rotten the next day after a 2-3 pints so I don’t do it 🤦🏼🤣.

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ROBBO36 in reply toDWizza

Thank you. My days of going clubbing in Ibiza until 7am are well and truly in the past! If I’m out later than 11pm on holiday nowadays it’s a miracle 😂. It’s most definitely all in moderation, well maybe a little extra!

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DWizza in reply toROBBO36

Perfect 👌🏻🤣🤣🤣 sounds like we’re on the same menu 🤣🤣🤣

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Bingo88

Absolutely correct. Have a wonderful holiday making memories because nobody knows how tomorrow can turn out. Our health can change in an instant. Brian

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ROBBO36 in reply toBingo88

Absolutely 100%, thank you.

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Bruce67

Enjoy! Don't go mad and take risks, but you can still enjoy life. No one knows what's round the corner!

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Alfie33

How much was your insurance .because I checked and it was more than the holiday

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ROBBO36 in reply toAlfie33

Think it was about £150 for this single trip, that’s for the whole family.

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Bluedolphin123

I’ve just come home from open heart surgery and after asking the surgeon how to keep my heart healthy he said ‘ Just get on and live your life otherwise what was the point of all of this ‘

Obviously we need to try to balance our lifestyle so we feel well enough to enjoy it so have a great holiday 😊x

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ROBBO36 in reply toBluedolphin123

Those sentiments in my opinion are what’s it’s all about. The balance between your health (which is clearly important) and “living” at the same time. I wish you well on your recovery.

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Bluedolphin123 in reply toROBBO36

Thank you

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BaronFrankenstein in reply toBluedolphin123

Its very easy for your surgeon to say this as he probably hasnt had any cardiac issues.

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Bluedolphin123 in reply toBaronFrankenstein

I guess I’d become so focussed on getting into more fitness and nutrition afterwards which to be fair I’ve always enjoyed with walking swimming yoga etc my whole life that it was just a reminder that this is a second chance to make the most of life. I know if I do , drink or eat things that are not good for me I’ll ultimately pay the price so it’s just not worth it 😂

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BaronFrankenstein in reply toBluedolphin123

Im not saying you shouldn't do what makes you happy, its just in my experience and tgat of my brother especially of hospitals they can sometimes be too flippant or casual. Not really thinking what they are saying or how it may be interpreted. They can either scare you half to death unnecessarily or be so casual that you thinkntgeres nothing at all to worry about when there is.

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Bluedolphin123 in reply toBaronFrankenstein

Absolutely agree with all of that 😊

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Bluedolphin123

I’ve just come home from open heart surgery and after asking the surgeon how to keep my heart healthy he said ‘ Just get on and live your life otherwise what was the point of all of this ‘

Obviously we need to try to balance our lifestyle so we feel well enough to enjoy it so have a great holiday 😊

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FakeNews

Have a fabulous time and enjoy yourself.

Cat04 profile image
Cat04

Quality of life versus quantity of live! Enjoy what you have now, you never know what's around the corner. 😊

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TAVIshock

You have answered your own questions. Be as happy as you possibly can, and don't fret how long itwill last.

warm best

Tavishock

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sandandkev

I totally agree,make memories and eat or drink within reason what you like as we don't know when our time is up, hopefully you've got a long well life ahead but make memories as they're important,and I love looking back at mine and hubby's xxx take care and thoroughly enjoy that holiday

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ROBBO36 in reply tosandandkev

Thank you. Very true words.

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BeKind28-

Hello :-)

Life is for living and making memories you are on holiday so have a good time and enjoy yourself :-) x

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ROBBO36 in reply toBeKind28-

Thanks you. Life is for living as you say!

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BeKind28- in reply toROBBO36

:-) x

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Jedi14

I think I would set myself some targets and live within them, making minor allowances for self indulgences, within reason, remember that family is aware of what we do and we don't want them worrying unnecassarily!

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ROBBO36 in reply toJedi14

Absolutely spot on, thank you.

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Jedi14 in reply toROBBO36

Thanks! Just to update you on my own activities. Since the start of my heart problems, this is the first time I have self indulged into listening to music late into the night. Last night I was listening, amongst other music, the BGs "staying alive". Before going to bed 2.30am, my BP shot up, the oppossite effect to what I was expecting?

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ROBBO36 in reply toJedi14

Your life sounds as rock & roll as mines 😂. That Barry Gibb has a lot to answer for!

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RP1944

enjoy your holiday.

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Raft

Hi Robbie, glad you have raised this on the forum. It’s an issue that’s been on my mind for some weeks following my annual heart review where my cardiologists says I would now benefit from the TAVI procedure and I may need a pacemaker. He says if successful it would improve my quality of life for the remaining time available and thus be able to follow my bucket list and enjoy more,hoping the adjustment period still allows me to pursue the bucket rather than kick it!

Unfortunately a diagnosis of a new cancer which is in the early stages means that my heart is not the only determinant of my life expectancy!

So even more reason to get there and enjoy whilst I have the energy as I am 85 years old.

I commend you for your approach and the support you are getting from the Forum

Wish you the very best for a longer future.

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ROBBO36 in reply toRaft

Thank you. I wish you all the best with your health and hopefully your bucket list has a lot of fun exciting things for you to get through. 85 is just a number, sure you have plenty years left!

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Bingofox007

enjoy your holiday, sort yourself when you get home but don’t deprive yourself of fun. Life is for living. We all have to look after our hearts on here but we mustn’t forget to look after our heads. Take care 🦊x

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ROBBO36 in reply toBingofox007

Very true, thank you.

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Nelson71

I heard good advice, be sensible but don’t deprive yourself. The odd blow out every now and then won’t harm you as long as it’s not every day or week.

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Gundoglady

A little bit of what you fancy, does you good xHave a fab holiday x

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Harefieldfan

best wishes to you!!😊

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BobbyB1962

Enjoy your holiday, but don't drink tooo much or you won't remember the memories you want to make! 🤣

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ROBBO36 in reply toBobbyB1962

Absolutely spot on. I’m certainly not having Oliver Reid 7am benders, those ended about 25 years ago 😂

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MWIC

Too bloody true. - Life is absolutely for living - enjoy yourself 👍

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CarerEdi

I think it's a tough balance - if you go too far the other way, with complete ban of any enjoyment from food or drink I think that you may not enjoy yourself. The flip side is, that if you let loose or feel you have to act like nothing is wrong for the benefit of others, that's also bad. My mum has heart failure, I don't want her to have no enjoyment in food which she's always loved. So for me it's occasional indulgence, but introducing some healthier options and trying to exercise, eat more fibre etc to undo some of the bad. For her, she's really struggled mentally with the diagnosis to the point that I feel she's determined to be miserable half the time, harsh but it's been tough caring for someone who was once so positive and has now had a complete character change. Of course I would worry if she basically went on a bender :-) but equally, I cherish so much when she laughs out loud at something and forgets about her disease and I cling on so hard to those moments. Hope you have a good time x

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ROBBO36 in reply toCarerEdi

Thank you. It’s everything in moderation and a little bit more indulgence than normal. The days of me going on a bender well & truly in the past 😂. Wishing you all the very best with your mum

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Bananacar in reply toCarerEdi

True - you won't lie on your deathbed and wish you'd eaten more lettuce !!!!!

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ROBBO36 in reply toBananacar

Ha, that made me chuckle! It will be straight to the Tesco veg aisle when I’m back!

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Silvertail

Enjoy your holiday. 💖No-one knows what tomorrow may bring.

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ROBBO36 in reply toSilvertail

Thanks you, spot on.

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Appleloveme

I agree enjoy your life you have only one, it is a short one and time passes a quickly. Happy memories with your family. They are young but soon grow up too quickly and fly the nest. Make the most of your time with them. Take care.

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ROBBO36 in reply toAppleloveme

Lovely sentiments, thank you.

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Smitty1956

sounds lovely! You are so lucky to be able to afford a vacation and to be able to experience it. I would say, “Enjoy yourself. Make good memories. Live life the best that you can. “

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Bananacar

Have a lovely holiday, you won't regret it.

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Bananacar

How did the holiday go?

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