Low mood

[Zed1063]

Morning everyone, feeling quite low today so thought I would say good morning to all you guys, knowing you will make me feel better! Sometimes it is knowing someone is out there and I am not alone. My Ectopic beats are bad today, so the anxiety begins, so the beats get worse, so the anxiety gets worse! Then the mind takes over and I think I am going to die! Scarry and upsetting.! Sorry but just feel very alone at the moment and know what a pick my up this site is. I guess it is something I need to live with. Yes I do have a lot of personal stress at the moment and I have no way of getting out of it but hoping I can stop worrying about it so much as this is not doing my heart any good. Any advice on how to cope with the beats?

[Helly75]

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down ,many of us are in the same boat ,me included . I've went from someone you couldn't squeeze a tear out of to crying every day of the week ! Anxiety can be a driver to make symptoms worse but as I will repeatedly tell my Dr's or anyone else the symptoms happen first then I get anxious/upset not the other way round ! I try to slow my breathing & tell myself nothing bad is going to happen . Please have a hug 🫂 from me & remember you're never alone with this ,take care xxxx

[scentedgardener]

You are having a rotten time, I'm so sorry.Can't offer advice on ectopics, and stress is somthing we can't always avoid.

If we can't change the stress maybe we can change the way we deal with it. Have you ever tried meditation? I think you can buy recordings that will guide you through it. My other thought ws Anxiety UK. You can google the number, if you have difficulty getting it I've probably got a note of it somewhere, but it could take me a while to find it.

They are a charity and you may have to leave a message, and they will get back to you. They are lovely and can probably offer you some tips on better ways to cope. Hope your day gets better, habg on in there

[Czech_Mate]

Sorry to hear that you 're feeling down. They say that happiness is inside us, but sometimes it can be hard to find it. On days like this it's important to be grateful for every little success and not to beat ourselves up about things. It WILL pass.Start slowly and be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

Cheers. CM

[Heyjude31]

Hello Zed1063, I am so sorry to hear that you are down. I do understand, I have just tried to book an appointment with a GP and due to that experience my anxiety is through the roof! 🤣

Please try and remember to do some breathing exercises, also splashing your face with water can sometimes help with our nervous system and help to calm us down. I hope you are eating okay and managing to keep hydrated in the heat.

Do you have any hobbies to try and distract you and try and get some fresh air even if it’s just stepping outside. Take care, Judi

[Lynxmygingerb]

Thinking of you. It can be a rollercoaster at times. 😢 If you can try and do something that makes you feel happy even for just an hour a a niggly little job that you have meant to do for ages. 😊

[Blearyeyed]

Sorry to hear you are feeling low but you've done the right thing to reach out.Now you know you are not alone . y

You have your Faraway Friends on this forum reaching out to give you a virtual hug.

It helps to sit in a quiet comfortable space with eyes closed when these symptoms happen . If you can do it in a comfy seat near an open window with the sun upon your face, and use deep relaxing breathing when you get this combination of anxiety and heart symptoms.

It can also help to do this every morning for 15-20 minutes to get that boost of fresh air and Vitamin D as a little daily self care to help prevent daily symptoms.

Try and distract your mind as you breath with positive thoughts. Think of us all reaching out to you holding your hand and giving you a hug.

Think of soothing things , like your favourite colours , animals , flowers , the sea or a sunset and imagine you are touching , hearing or smelling those things .

Having a soft tactile blanket or piece of cloth is good to stroke in time with your slow soothing breath too to help with the sensory feelings that help you feel calm.

You can try this technique anywhere at anytime , and just remember you are alive, you are loved, you are understood and you are free. Hugs , Bee 💕🤗🥰🌈🌻🌄

[JessicaRed]

Hi

we are here for you, trying to calm down the anxiety is SUCH hard wwork

your not alone🌈

[Beardie100]

Hello. Get some counselling to help you deal with the anxiety and break the cycle if you can.

Currently, anxiety is not helping

[Zed1063 in reply to Beardie100]

HI

I am having counselling, which cost an arm and a leg but hopefully it will help, trouble is my brave face goes on while there and smiles until I leave! I am so FAKE but don't want everyone worrying about me!

[literacymatters]

Meditation helps. Try Jon Kabat Zinn on youtube.

[Dogloverxthree]

I know exactly how you feel, I’m totally alone depressed and anxious and only have some friends on these sites to write to, and the only thing we can do is keep on keeping on but you are not alone that’s why it was suggested that if any of us that live close to each other we could form a support group and meet up and I’ll be first to start an orderly queue. A note to blearyeyed I saw your post on the dark side Bee thought I had answered it but as per usual I lost it and can’t find my way back in 🥴

[Zed1063 in reply to Dogloverxthree]

HI

Would you like to swap email or anyone else in the group so we can message directly and support each other. I know people say be careful but I am sure we are all genuine people on here, hopefully this is not breaking any rules on here! If not does anyone know how to start a group chat up? I am not that good at IT ........just a thought and thank you for your reply.

[Dogloverxthree in reply to Zed1063]

Hi zed1063 there is an option on here to send personal messages but can’t remember at the moment how !! afraid I am very bad at tech but I will try later, no computers around when I was at school. Hope your feeling better today now that you know you have a lot of support and we really do understand how you feel x hugs

[HHH2017]

Hi, I really hope you are feeling a bit better today.

I sometimes get an irregular & very fast heart beat, it is very scary. Even more so in the middle of the night I find! Something that has helped me is listening to music through headphones. Hubby suggested it and it does makes me focus, without thinking, on a different beat. Might be worth a try?

[Smitty1956]

Hi, Zed1063,

I am so sorry that you are suffering with ectopic beats and anxiety. I know how awful anxiety can be as I suffer with it pretty much everyday.

In fact, I feel over the last 2-3 weeks that my anxiety has gotten worse. I have been thinking about asking my doctor to increase the dosage of my medication, but I don’t know how that will go.

I don’t have any suggestions on how to cope with the ectopic beats. I also have those some days, and I am usually just afraid. Some days, I just feel afraid of everything. Well, that sounds depressing, and I don’t mean to sound like that.

You are definitely not alone! The people on this site are supportive and friendly, and they honestly care about how you are doing. Hopefully, some others will come along soon to provide some cheer.

I hope that you can soon feel better—less stressed and anxious. Perhaps my new motto might help: “Don’t let the hard days get you down.” I’m trying to remind myself of this each day.

I hope that your day gets better with loads of smiles and good wishes! ❤️

[Bingofox007]

Bless ya. The number of times I find myself on this forum when I’m feeling down or anxious and scared. That’s what we’re here for. Here for each other. All been in that boat at some time or other and sometimes that boat feels like the Titanic! I find listing things helps. Listing anxieties or things that need doing, that may be causing the stress, usually bills that need paying or companies that I need to ring that will take 50 minutes on hold! It seems to individualise the problems rather than making them a whole so can tick them off one by one. Cup of tea down the garden, or sitting at open window if no garden, fresh air, getting lost looking at photos and info on line of favourite things, mines foxes! Favourite music on, maybe a bit loud, having a cry to music that brings back memories, it helps at times. Anyway, just know we are all here for you. Take care 🦊x

[Zed1063]

Thku

[Em1380]

Hey Zed. I hope today is a better day for you.

So many of us are in the same boat, you are not alone.

Why do ectopics make us feel like we’re about to die! Ugh! It’s vile. I get them often and they can stop me in my tracks so I know exactly how you feel.

I’ve not found a concrete way of dealing with them yet however a few times when they’ve been constant and not calming down I’ve done a 5 minute jog around my living room (often at 2am) Soon after the ectopics settled down and went.

Could be worth a go.

I also recommend looking up Dr Sanjay Gupta and find his YouTube video on magnesium and ectopics.

And like lots of they guys have already said, try to take your mind off of the ectopics, keep yourself busy and you might not notice them as much.

If they’re unbearable absolutely book in to see your GP, that’s what they’re paid for

Have a great day, Em x

[Zed1063 in reply to Em1380]

HI Thanks for your reply, I have seen my GP and A&E and they all say I have to live with them, they happen 24/7 and I get so worried which then makes them worse! I know my anxiety makes them worse and they make my anxiety worse so round and round I go!

I really don't know if they are cause to worry, I am told they are not and won't do any harm it is just they make me feel so awful and sick.

[Dogloverxthree in reply to Zed1063]

May I ask how old you are and are you alone, don’t worry if you don’t want to say

[Zed1063 in reply to Dogloverxthree]

I am just 60 and yes I live alone

[Em1380]

yep I completely understand. The sensation doesn’t feel right at all but they ARE harmless. The heart is still doing everything it needs to do. If it was dangerous A&E/your GP would have told you.

If you’re on any meds you could always ask to review them if they’re not having an impact.

I’m on bisoprolol and it’s not doing what I’d hoped so I’m thinking about asking what else is out there. But trying to get rid of them naturally by being more active, eating better and taking magnesium, fingers crossed.

I also find talking about it all helps, which you’re doing here. Have you got someone at home that you can talk to when you’re feeling rough?

Try to reason with yourself (it will pass)

Keep busy.

Do more of what you love 💕

[Jetcat]

Hi zed, I suffer with these horrible things too. I have done for over 30 years. They affect my mental health more than my afib does to be honest.! Try not to worry too much about them.? Easier said than done don’t I know.!!

I get them for 2 weeks solid sometimes and they are all day long and sometimes 4 missed beats a minute.! Then they calm to 2 a minute then back to 4 a minute,! Over the years Iv had ECG, ECHO,X-RAY,stress tests the lot and it’s all come back nothing to worry about.👍

[Zed1063]

Thank you for your reply. Mine continue and I don’t get a break they hospital say nothing to worry about but they are horrible and make me so scared of everything. Then I just sit and worry which makes them worse! I really don’t know what to do

[Dogloverxthree in reply to Zed1063]

It’s all very well for these doctors to say don’t worry about it, but they are not experiencing it they may not be causing us any damage but it’s not easy to convince our brain of this, and just need to keep chatting with our friends on here when there’s nobody at home to help with the anxiety. Just keep posting

[TAVIshock]

All I can find to say is that you have my complete understanding and sympathy from the same boat. And, added to this that as anxiety - as you know- is driven by heart conditions it is hard to disperse by rational thought alone. We must all try to hang on in there.

warm good wishes

Tavishock

[Zed1063 in reply to TAVIshock]

Thku