I'm currently at the train station on our way to Stansted Airport. Mum in her wisdom decided to get the train, from Oxford it's 2h 20mins to drive it's about 1hr and 30. She's already annoying me and I've just found out not only are we sharing a room it's a double so I have to share the bed with her. Yes I know it's one night and I should stop complaining. I'm mostly worried about the connections in London we have to get.
Rant over, I just need to remember this time tomorrow I'll be looking at the sea.
V x
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Taking the train means you don't have the stress of parking the car. Even with pre-paid car parks, numberplate recognition and bus shuttle services, it is still hassle you don't need. I'm sure you'll be fine. As you say, you'll soon be looking at the sea and will be more relaxed. Have a great time away. 😀
It's a shame you seem to have a less than perfect relationship with your mother. You obviously care for her or you wouldn't have agreed to go away with her. If she is so annoying have you ever sat down with her and explained how she sometimes makes you feel. Perhaps use the occasion to find out how she feels about you in an honest exchange. You will no doubt found out she enjoys your company and cares for you a lot. But bear in mind we are all different especially when we have come from different generations, and we all have our annoying habits some of which we admit to, others we are not even aware of, so a little tolerance is sometimes needed which you clearly manage to do. But do remember your Mum is not going to be around for ever as most of us find out at some point in our lives so make the most of it. Finally I do hope you and your Mum enjoy your short break away and are able to look back on it with fond memories.
We have spoken but it's just the way she is. She knows why we havea difficult relationship, I do try to get along with her. Hence the trip to Spain.
I know she isn't going to be here forever and I do love her, she just drives me crazy I think her mother was the same way it's a Spanish things. Very domineering
You need to stop getting stressed it is no good for the heart
Now then this is one night ( hope your Mum does not snore ) but we can do anything just one night and if it feels to much do some deep breathing and think of the end result which is been in Spain
Hello, try and do some of those breathing exercises we are all recommended to do. Imagine yourself in your favourite place and try and relax. As you said tomorrow you will be able to see the sea, have a lovely time xxx
sorry but you seem very ungrateful towards the person who brought you into this world. And lucky you going on holiday when a lot in this forum are worried about real health issues. 🙇🏼♂️
I don't mean to sound ungrateful. There are reasons me and Mum have a difficult relationship, which I won't be posting about on here
I do have several health issues and the holiday is a way for me to de stress.
I have previously posted about my health issues and most of the comments on here are from people who have seen my previous posts. I felt this to be a safe place to post about my frustrations
sorry please remind me exactly what your heart issues are. As on this post I cannot find one part about heart problem to advise on. Hence my reply is about life with a heart problem
Valentina I have read several of your posts and you will and have received good advice. But this post is not really about any health issue but more about your relationship with your mother. I just find a BHF forum is not about that. Well not why I have participated for three years. Good luck in your future and enjoy your holiday
When you get to the hotel, ask if they can switch you to a twin. One problem easily solved.
I joined this forum to exchange ideas on heart related health issues and hopefully contribute so that others may benefit as they see fit. What I do not expect to see are members describing fellow members as cretins or obnoxious. Anyone who thinks it is appropriate to publish insulting posts like that, and indeed 'likes' such posts thereby condoning insulting behaviour, should consider why they are here. There are far better and more civilised ways of communicating your disagreement with what someone has said, and if anyone cannot find a way of doing that I suggest they should refrain from posting.
if sharing a double bed with your mother is bothering you, I would suggest you ask if a twin bedded room is available as an alternative ; most hotels are quite accommodating. Don't let little annoyances spoil your chance to relax and unwind, it'so important to destress .
I also suffer from stress and the worst thing is when one is in a negative frame of mind, one is focussed on some of the unhappy times forgetting that during the period of childhood, adolescence and adulthood you spend many more happy times with friends, near and dear ones than some negative times. Why it happens, I do not know but it makes sense to talk to somebody who knows about the human mind. Just talking is a therapy. You must not forget to check your body because even long term mild illness can make you more susceptible to lack of wellness. That is why exercise to keep the body in good shape is important. During winter and bad weather, something simple like an exercise bike will stimulate your cardiovascular system. Have a nice day and we must understand and help each other.
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