Hi has anybody found themselves quite angry with what's happened to them? If so how have you dealt with it?
I am not openly angry there is no rage associated with it, but it's there under the surface; the frustration the why me questions the what did I do wrong questions
100% I felt so angry inside for months after my HA you will feel better in time and come to terms with what happened I still have times now when I think why did it have to happen to me
I do feel anger sometimes and 'why me'. I've always been fit and healthy and eaten a sensible diet. Worked flat out for 40 years with little time off sick - and now this!!
I pass McDonalds and see folks stuffing their faces with junk food and wonder why they aren't queuing at the Cardiac Centres. I'm sure these feeling will pass once I've got myself sorted out. We can't undo whats done - just work towards making full use of every day ahead.
I still have exactly the same feelings. As you say it does not change anything.
Good to hear I’m not the only one
Neil
Yep, I’ll join as well. I know someone in his 60’s and he lives as though he’s a teenager, McDonalds, curry’s, beer, fat belly syndrome, no exercise, smokes, just junk food eater, yet he’s always joking around. He’s said never had heart problems or takes any medication.
Hi,
I had cancer (recovered I hope) only now have to have heart op. I have developed my own coping strategy. I take the big three: anger, fear and sadness and I try NOT to avoid them but to track where I am in my little Venn diagram. I can have all three, I might have two of them, one or none. But I find it very useful simply to say to myself eg "today I am sad". I don't think I want to pressure myself not to be sad, but to acknowledge it. So for my heart thing I have to admit I am frightened. I spend most time in the sadness part. But yes I am sometimes angry. A childish way is to say, "oh hello Sadness ... how are you today?" with the obvious answer "bloody sad". It helps.
Good luck
Otto
Definitely. I did everything right for decades to keep healthy and still had a H. A. so anger is one of many emotions. I feel exactly like Lancs-1 with regard to people stuffing their faces with junk food. I still haven't dealt with it properly 4 months on but this forum 's great for support and advice and I keep intending to try meditation.
It's hard too when a cardiologist reminds you that all the close members of your family died of heart failure. His face seems to say "what did you expect?". They are not around to be angry with and it wasn't there fault either. So I try to turn anger into resilience and make it work for me. It does more so as time passes.
It does eventually go, but it has taken me until this year to stop worrying. Had HA 2017 and bypass x3. My anger stopped when I eventually realised I can't change what happened. This was not a conscience thought, it was only when I looked back over last few years to see how far I have come , its surreal. Don't get me wrong I still have days when it catches me unawares. Then I read stories on here and it puts me back on track, as people are posting stuff that I felt. The journey only heals when you reay to move forward and the only answer is in time you will get there.
Hope this helps
Fran
PIP issues
I’m absolutely fuming! 😡 Cardiology appointment cancelled. 
similar feelings and issues
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Newly diagnosed with moderate LVSD
