This was triggered by UniGirl's post about jobs/uni and asthma, and by an experience I had today.
I was at a close friend's hen do today, with some other friends from uni but also some of her newer friends from work.
I really enjoyed myself in general, but part of the day was spending time at my friend's work friend's house (she organised the hen do so we ate and played games there). Really nice people, but problem is, the work friend and her two housemates all smoked. They did it outside but as the doors were open it came right in.
I thought I might be ok - I've been a bit better recently and hadn't needed any reliever at all till that point. But I wasn't - 14 puffs in the second half of the day and needing more; not at needing help point but definitely worse than before grr (hope it goes soon as I""m about to move and have lots to do).
I am just a bit cross with myself as I feel since I am not a shy teenager I should have been adult enough to ask them nicely if they could not smoke while I was around. They seemed like very nice people so I'm sure they would have done, but I felt, however irrationally:
a) It's their house, they're hosting something, the two housemates weren't even part of the hen do so me coming in and asking them not to do something in their own house, however reasonable it is. just for me, felt a bit rude/OTT
b) I didn't really want to raise it with uni friends around - they kind of know stuff but ask about it sometimes and I don't really like talking about it with them - didn't want to have the whole 'so how is all that? discussion (they're my friends, they'd prob want to know how it's going, how I am etc but by now I really don't like talking about it with 'non-asthma' ppl)
c) I didn't want to feel like I was drawing attention onto myself/making a fuss after they'd started smoking by saying what I felt like was a bit of a 'look at me' especially when it was my friend's hen do.
Am I overthinking it all or do others have this problem? I feel like I should have been able to deal with it easily and maturely with minimal fuss by just saying 'do you mind holding off till I leave as I have asthma?' and it should have been easy, sorted, but for some reason I thought it would be easier to just take my inhaler quietly and not say, because I just didn't want to bring it up, and it got harder after they'd smoked a few (they'd probably have felt bad about it and it would have become more of a 'thing' at that point).
I also wasn't sure how they would have reacted as I didn't want to be a drama queen about it but some people do then have the 'oh well it's *just* asthma' thing.
Not sure this is very coherent but I feel like I really should be able to just deal with this kind of thing easily by now and wondered what others' thoughts/experiences are. I'm sure there was a much better way to handle it without making any fuss - I don't think anyone is necessarily interested in discussing me and my lungs! But for some reason it did feel awkward and I wondered how others have dealt with this sort of thing.