Hoping for better days

[kenbren]

Just over 2 years ago I was diagnosed with IPF at the start of the first lockdown in 2020 I lost my Dear Wife no words for the Grief,in just over eight weeks I lost over 30lbs I was told it could be a combination of the IPF and Grief. Spoke to GP over the telephone and was prescribed Fortisip drink which I have been taking daily gained back 5lbs at the most having no immediate family living alone it has been difficult to say the least. Unlike most I want to gain weight it has been a hard road and IPF does not help. Everyone take care. I have just had my 4th vaccination (Booster)

[CDPO16]

Thinking of you kenbren. The loss of a spouse is so very hard. It's also very hard to try and gain weight when living with chronic lung disease as I know from personal experience. Don't struggle alone if coming here to chat from time to time will help you. Best wishes Carole x

[sassy59]

So sorry to hear of your sad loss. Sending heartfelt sympathy to you. I hope you can gain a little more weight in time but please stay connected to the amazing people on this forum. We’re here to help support each other. Xxx💜

[skischool]

It sounds like you need a little more help there than just a telephone call from your Gp and a prescription for Fortisip Ken.Please ask your Gp to refer you to the community Dietician service who may be able to offer you some more varied products and some advice on helping you to gain weight in a healthy way.

Best wishes

Ski's and Scruff's

[Ergendl in reply to skischool]

Definitely. They can give a lot of good advice. If you go to bda.uk.com/resource/malnutr... you can download a helpful food fat sheet from the British Dietetic Association.

[RoadRunner44]

Hello kenbren,Just saying heĺlo. Words won't help much I know but just letting you know we all empathise with you on the loss of your dear wife. Its time to take care of yourself now, just as your would want you to. Get into a simple daily routine. Eat as well as you can and if possible go for little walks in the fresh air. Being close to nature helped me and is good for the mind and the body. Its not easy I know but these simple things can help during these difficult early days of your loss.

Please let us know how you get on and keep in touch as many of us are in the same situation as you. Thinking of you.

Xxx

[Damon1864 Volunteer]

Hi kenbren, it hard to lose anyone especially your spouse, it must have been so hard for you. Please keep posting as they are all friendly and helpful people on here. Have a good night and take care 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx

[peege]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dear wife, there are no words to ease your grief. Just know that we're here and thinking of you. Verybest wishes to you and good luck with the weight gain. P

[HollyBoyd]

Hi kenbren. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear wife. Obviously grief will have played a large part in your weight loss, compounded with the diagnosis of IPF. It's a slow road trying to gain weight but necessary to be as healthy as possible. Skis suggestion of a dietician is the best way forward as they have so much more to offer than a GP. Best wishes and do let us know how you get on xxx😊

[kenbren in reply to HollyBoyd]

Thank you all for your support there are a lot of lovely people out there especially on this site. This is to say thank you to all who responded, I will mention the Dietitian to my GP God Bless

[HollyBoyd in reply to kenbren]

Good luck with the GP, and I'm sure I speak for all who have responded, you are mostn welcome and come back soon to let us know how you are getting on. 😊

[Carnival567]

Sorry to hear of your grievous loss, and realise how difficult it is for you. I take fortisip daily, and all I can say is that it has kept my weight stable so I hope it helps. I think you would find the dietitian would be very helpful as they can support you with a variety of ideas. All the best xx

[Patk1]

Mustve been v hard with no family.hope it's perhaps a bit easier now.we're here 4u x

[Beachballs]

Sorry to hear of the loss of your wife , wishing you the strength to cope in these difficult times. I am under the community dietitian at the moment and have found it most helpful.Good luck and best wishes. 🙏

[Izb1]

Thinking of you kenbren and Skis suggestion to see a dietician is good advice, let us know how you get on x

[helen1946]

dear kenbren so sorry for your loss and health news.there is little I can say to ease your pain but do try to get to see your Dr who should know what you have been going through.I hope your memories will be a solace to you and maybe as your health improves could you perhaps think of little things that your wife liked doing and maybe try to spend some time doing it yourself.may your god bless and keep you safe and ease your pain.xx

[Biofreak]

So sorry for the loss of your dear wife. You have been going through a difficult time and still are. A dietitian is an excellent idea. There's another milkshake type drink called Nualtra Foodlink Complete which come in sachets of powder which you mix with milk and come in different flavours. My husband preferred them to Fortisip . I think you would also benefit from a referral to pulmonary rehabilitation which may help with your breathing and would be an opportunity to meet other people with lung conditions. The British Lung Foundation is also worth a call for advice and support for your specific condition. Good luck and come back to the forum if you want any support anytime.

[katieoxo60]

You must really be struggling kenbren, losing your wife is a big loss and takes much time to get over. Loss of weight is not unusual after a major loss. Unfortunately many of the options to talk of your loss have gone because of the virus. So do join us on here as many of us know the feeling of loss and living alone with illness and the pandemic risks. One day at a time is the only way through , stay safe . Speak again soon

[JJ_7]

Hi Kenbren. I read your very moving post and feel so sad to hear of your wife. I wish I had a magic wand to take away your grief. I can pray and will do so. I hope you will keep posting here and I hope to hear of some weight gain and solace. Best wishes from me xxx

[Mrbojangles]

Hiya,I too was diagnosed 2 years ago and did, possibly due to the shock, lost quite a lot of weight.

Gradually i started to regain the loss and thanks to a couple of pints of Guinness a day and Mrs B’s shepherds pies and broccoli i continue to do so.

Stay safe..

[Dedalus]

So sorry you have lost your dear wife Kenbren. I hope you're successful with the weight gain and I wish you good luck with everything going forward.

[Thinkhealthy]

Hello Kenbren . So very sorry and condolences. My uncle lost lots of weight (dr orders) by avoiding everything he loved to eat. Hopefully you could do the opposite? Find all the lovely foods you like. But as others have suggested - a good nutritionist ??Hope you do have better times ahead . Spring is coming and hope comes along with it.

Best wishes

[Ergendl]

It never completely heals when you've lost your wife. My sincere condolences.It is no surprise that you have lost so much weight in your circumstances.

While waiting for an appointment to see a dietitian, visit this page on the British Dietetic Association website, bda.uk.com/resource/malnutr... where you can download a useful leaflet to help you with your diet in the meantime.