Unwanted Visits?

[Dubba61]

Does anyone else get this problem? i have a couple of friend who know all about my Lung Problem and are normally sympathetic. last weekend, they came to my House, all eager to tell me about the New place the have bought. Well...I let them in unaware that they both had streaming colds and they sat for a good half-hour, coughing and sneezing,and spluttering, in a most unhygenic way. Of course I,m now feeling unwell, Chesty, and tired. People really dont think it through. do they?

[sassy59]

Oh dear Dubba that’s not a very friendly thing to do. We’ve had people do that to us too but I always make a point of asking them to leave. Pete doesn’t need a cold and neither do I.

Hope you feel better soon. Xxxxx

[Dubba61 in reply to sassy59]

Thankyou, sassy. Yes, i,ve definately learnt my lesson. In future I shall be on the alert before I open the door. Or I could have a sign in the window saying "You are welcome, But, not if you have Colds" x

[sassy59 in reply to Dubba61]

👍😘

[Annie31]

I just shout at my lot, "don't come near me, you stay that side of the room and I'll stay my end". Luckily its worked until now, touch wood, and we have a very long kitchen/diner lounge! 😆 I'm relegated to the sink end!

People just don't think sometimes!

Hope you're feeling better soon.

[Dubba61 in reply to Annie31]

Thankyou, Annie. I live in a very tiny house. Think my only option is to shout from behind the door! 🗣️🎺😷

[Hacienda]

I am Ready with my Mask wherever I go. My grateful Friends/family are considerate, as there are lots of toddlers in the family, they know to tell me in advance if there are runny noses or worse. Hope your feeling Better. xxx

[Dubba61 in reply to Hacienda]

Good idea, I must buy one of those. 😷😊👍

[Stumpy55]

Oh yes I know what you mean about people being thoughtless and over generous with sharing their germs etc. I was over the hospital this one time waiting to be seen when this man started a conversation with me, leaning on my wheelchair and coughing without putting his hand to his mouth. After a few coughs I asked him politely to go and sit somewhere else as I didn't want his germs, he replied "oh be like that then" and huffed off. And then I went in to see e doctor and low and behold he had a flaming cold . I tell everyone family and friends not to visit when not well. We are subseptable to all colds and the like so you need to be direct, if they love you, they will be back, if not stuff em ha! Ha!

[Dubba61 in reply to Stumpy55]

Hahahaha yes, think I,ll have to do that. 😊👍

[Jeanne1125]

You would think the doctor would take a sick day and know better!! Lol

[Stumpy55 in reply to Jeanne1125]

I know, ha!ha! It dose annoy me tho when some people feel the need to share their inner most germs 😳

[skischool]

i would be very wary about turning away visitors,when my wife suffered her stroke our so called friends disappeared for fun because or her inability to talk,i have experienced years of isolation and loneliness and still do,i am sure with sensible precautions and good hygiene we can accommodate people with our conditions otherwise we would be in danger of isolating ourselves from the outside world though i do agree that surprise visits from poorly people can be quite challenging.gloves on mask up do whatever but don't turn friends away.....Ski's and a friendless cat x

[Caspiana in reply to skischool]

*Hug* 🌸🐱

[Judith41 in reply to skischool]

Hugs and warmest wishes skis and scruffy. Keisha sends purrs and a virtual can of tuna🐈 xx

[skischool in reply to Judith41]

thank you keisha for the tuna,very yummy,oh sorry scruffy it was for you. xx

[Hacienda in reply to skischool]

Missed you recently Amigo y Scruffita, hoping your well. Abrazo y Besitos xxx❤❤xxx

[karenjenna1146 in reply to skischool]

Just had to say

I love reading your replies Skis and cat. My close friends and family always steer clear with bugs bless them. Unannounced visitors with bugs Alan chucks them out nicely, if I am in on my own I let them stay and mask up. Hope you feel better soon Dubba61. I am in hospital at the moment. I have pulmonary fibrosis, pulmonary hypertension, CREST syndrome which consists of scleroderma of Raynaud. Hope to be able to go home soon. Glad I have joined this site. Take care all Karen

[skischool in reply to karenjenna1146]

Karen,sending you the warmest of wishes,hope you are well enough soon to go home...ski's and scruffs xx

[karenjenna1146 in reply to skischool]

Many thanks Ski’s. Take care Karen

[Dubba61 in reply to karenjenna1146]

Hello Karen, ooh! You do have a lot of problems. Puts my Chesty Cold into prospective. Hope you can go home soon. When I've been in Hot all I want us my own bed! 🛌👍😊

[karenjenna1146 in reply to Dubba61]

Came home Saturday 2 June, relief !!!! It's great to talk about our problems - no matter how big or small. Take Care Dubba61. Regards Karen

[mskpjb in reply to skischool]

Couldn't agree more Skis. In the past I've been so lonely I'd have invited Hannibal Lecter in for a cup of tea ( on second thoughts maybe not him ! ) Now that I live near to my son he drops in every other day. Although I'm severe I've never worried about people having a cold etc near me . I can catch just as much at a hospital appt. Sheila x and xx to Scruffy

[skischool in reply to mskpjb]

hi Sheila.good that you are close to your son so he can keep his eye out for you,i never turn a visitor away but i can see Dubba's point of view.Hannibal would be alright but he would get under your skin after a while ski's and thank you from scruffs xx

[Jansy16 in reply to skischool]

When you have Lung problems, COPD etc, it's crucial to stay away from people who have colds because it can be dangerous for them as they suffer with shortness of breath & possibly end up in hospital, I know because it's happened to me.

[skischool in reply to Jansy16]

i have very severe emphysema so i am aware of what you are saying but i believe with sensible precautions these situations can be managed.

[Dubba61 in reply to Jansy16]

Yes, that's my point Jansy. Really hate it when I land up in Hospital. 😊

[Caspiana]

Hello Dubba61 . 😊

I guess it's a cultural difference, but here people never just "pop in". So I don't experience what you have described. I think I would be pretty frazzled if someone turned up on my doorstep unannounced. I don't have a huge circle of friends living close by. In fact I have just two, who are welcome in my house. And they know all about my disease and how me catching anything would be seriously hazardous. I explained in depth all these issues when I first got ill. It really is hard because people have the best intentions (mostly). If they are good friends, being honest in telling them you are very susceptible to catching colds etc. should be enough for them to understand and not take offence. And if they do take offence, you're probably better off without them. Your wellbeing is paramount.

Sending warm wishes,

Cas xx 🌞🌷🍓

[Dubba61 in reply to Caspiana]

Thankyou CAS, of course you are right. I have level 3 COPD. N I wouldn't welcome another trip to Hospital! I do value my friendships but I think we should put our Health first. 😊👍

[Jeanne1125]

Here too. A German shepherd watch dog that loves my friend at the driveway with kids with colds and lets them in .... I will the hide in my bedroom with the false pretense I could make them sick. Having worked in a school environment for way too many years I always catch something

[Dubba61 in reply to Jeanne1125]

Ohh.. yes I worked in Schools too. Loved it but, your always catching something.😊

[hypercat54]

Oh that's not good. Don't be too hard on them as most people don't think do they and I am sure if they had then they wouldn't have come. I hope you at least kept them at least a metre away from you and wiped your hands etc. with first defence or something similar. x

[Dubba61 in reply to hypercat54]

Yes, hypercat, I'm very big on the hand gel. 😀

[hypercat54 in reply to Dubba61]

x

[Hidden]

I used to have this problem all the time ( even had people lying and saying they or their kids are fine when they clearly were not!) until I caught colds which ended up being massive lung infections including pneumonia. I had long hospital stays because of it. They realised how important it is and I myself became much more strict and firm about it , I don’t care if they get offended my health is important . Hope you feel better and fight it off

[Dubba61 in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou hope. N yes I've had pneumonia a few times. N your right I must be more firm with people n maybe ask them to call another time when they haven't got Colds. 😊👍🌻

[megshafer]

All my friends and relatives, always call first. If they sound stuffy or are coughing....I always schedule a soiree for later. And, just in case....I have plenty of Purell conveniently located.

Hope you feel better soon....

Take care,

Meg

[Dubba61 in reply to megshafer]

Thankyou megs.😊👍🌻

[toerag]

It is not inconsiderate folks that visit with colds etc, just unthoughtful.

An OLD remedy for keeping colds and viruses at bay in the house, cut a raw onion in half, and place each half at opposite ends of the room. The onion attracts the germs, and when it dried out you just chuck it, and the absorbed germs , away.

[Darceydoo in reply to toerag]

Hey that’s brill advice!

[Jansy16 in reply to toerag]

Does it really work Toerag, will have to try it, or are you joking.

[toerag in reply to Jansy16]

No joke... this trick has been handed down through the generations.

[Dubba61 in reply to toerag]

Ohh that's a good idea. I'll try it. Thankyou.

[Darceydoo]

I’d have told them to leave!

Selfish comes to mind and it’s important that they realise how serious lung conditions are.

[donut43]

Oh dear, not very with it for your problem. Try to make them aware that it is best to stay away until they are better. They know that you have this problem so.....

Dan

[Sandyeggo]

Yep humans are a selfish bunch. I’ve let it be known that I don’t live at a drop in center and almost everybody knows they had better call first or I just might not answer the door. I think if I were as polite as you must be I’d leave surgical masks laying around like coasters or I’d be sure I was wearing one. Haven’t you noticed how that scares people away- usually.? Good luck tho PROTECT YOURSELF!

[Dubba61 in reply to Sandyeggo]

Yes, Sandy I think your right. 😊👍

[Hidden]

Poor Dee..I’m sorry you caught their cold. They should know better. Still socialising is supposed to be good for our immune system even if it is testing..

Start on your rescue meds if you feel chesty. Let us know how you are getting on. Xx

Fran 💕

[Dubba61]

Hiya Fran, yes, I think when you live alone, you sometimes need Company enough to take the risk. Sitting up in bed with my Honey, Grated Ginger n lemon. 😊👍🌻

[sandy123cookie]

Yes it's unfortunate that people are ignorant to the fact that it already feels like your breathing through straws and having difficulty, I had they same thing happen came pretty close to having to be incubated, and spent days in hospital.