loneliness

[Hondabike3]

Drove 300 miles return trip yesterday to see a dear friend who has suffered a heart attack broke my heart to leave her to come home is there anything much worse than being poorly and alone ?

[mahunamoon]

I'm not sure there is, I am alone with all my conditions, some days i'm ok other days I do wish I had a companion, so I can get out more, I do not drive anymore just dont want to. But then when I am in agony I think to myself, good job I havnt got a partner, the language that comes out of my mouth is unrecognisable lol, but we cope, like everyone, I'm a plodder. I am sorry for the way your feeling tho and of course I feel for your friend.

Joan x bless

[Hidden in reply to mahunamoon]

Hi Joan sorry for your difficulties, do you have a local breathe easy group you could contact, there maybe someone who could hook up with you. Check with the help line for further suggestions.

I know if I get really desperate I can call on the local churches who are only too willing to help with shopping and chat especially if they think they can recruit a new one into their fold.

[mahunamoon in reply to Hidden]

Yes BC I joined BE group last month met at a place for lunch, but this month we are a having a proper meeting and mabe I will get to chat to some of them, its a bit hard when you are eating lol, then they dont meet anymore until feb due to weather ect, I get most shopping online in fact I live online lol. made me laugh about the church lol thanks for your help and response, Joan x

[Hidden in reply to mahunamoon]

Good luck with this months meet up From previous life experiences, if you live anywhere near a hari krishna centre, they will feed you well and educate you about krishna as you eat and send you on your way with a load of krishna teachings all for a fiver I thought that was a real good deal Actually it was the North Shore Centre in Sydney, Australia I visited when I was too tired to cook one night on way home from work, and it only cost me $5 now that meal I could highly recommend :D. The Krishna teachings were quite fascinating too

[mahunamoon in reply to Hidden]

Oh really no I dont live near any of the centres, I do remember in the 60s they used to chant through the streets of london in robes. I know at the moment we have the festival of light Dwali not sure if thats how its spelt, my grand daughters tell me these things there friends at school at keep them informed, and they always put both hands together and say Namaste, its a very nice welcome, I looked on web cos they didnt know what it meant, lol thanks again BC Joan x

[Hondabike3 in reply to mahunamoon]

hi Joan you always care fore others such unselfishness is admirable we are west midlands where are you if ever we are out on our travels would be nice to pop in for a cuppa xx

[Hondabike3 in reply to Hondabike3]

would love to

[mahunamoon in reply to Hondabike3]

Hello again, you are welcome to call in anytime, I live in Hinckley not sure if thats near you. I am originaly from London, thanks for your kind offer, the funny thing is I used to care for the elderly as assistant matron for the WVS then changed to the WRVS lol now I am one of them lol.... oh well never mind I am usually a very positive person. thanks for you kindness. Joan x

[Hondabike3 in reply to mahunamoon]

hop skip and a jump be nice t meet you June x I loved that saying on here the other day the past is history the futures a mystery today is a gift that's why its called the present be nice to tie the visit in in with some help for you maybe shopping and or lunch xx

[mahunamoon in reply to Hondabike3]

I have sent you a pm Joan x

[Hidden]

So sorry about your friend I do hope she is on the mend real soon and that she has some help from the community around her.

I guess the worse thing would be not having a friend who would care to call.

I expect she was very pleased to see you and sorry to see you go, hopefully you can keep in touch via Skype, text or phone.

That would be pretty bad, being in that situation in the days before Skype, text or phone.

[Hondabike3 in reply to Hidden]

ah yes the wonders of technology today my. I phone was absolutely invaluable when I was in hospital it saved me having a mountain of emails to delete and kept me in touch with good friends on here and elsewhere e

[peege]

No Honda, there aren't many things worse. Losing a child perhaps?

I'm sure your friend was comforted by the fact you travelled a great distance to see her, she will have felt valued, cared for and less abandoned. You did a lovely thing xx P

[nannyb]

Sorry to hear about your friend, hope she is on the mend. Bet she was over the moon to see you. Nannyb xx

[rick1]

I'm also on my own apart from chatting on my lap top, which is a God send really apart from when it starts miss behaving itself, then there is the phone television and books to read, so I suppose it could be worse. Richard.

[newlands]

I think it would be worse if you didn't have anyone, i am 71 and on my own lots of health problems ,have lots of good neighbours around and a friend who comes most days see my daughter twice a day school days when she drops the dog off then picks him up again so not really alone with so many people around ,but i do feel a burden on my family take care

Dorothy xx

[katieoxo60]

Sorry to hear about your friend hondabike3, that's a long trip to make but shows what a good friend you are. I like many others on here am on my own and it can be a bit frightening when a crisis occurs in your health, but speaking from experience of many crisis we do get through with or without assistance. But it is nice to have someone who cares. I have many friends and a family but they have their own lives to lead, I also have a couple of good neighbours but admit to feeling lonely on occasions. As you say modern technology can be a godsend, anytime phone packages are good too, plus free airtime on mobiles which allow you to talk longer without big costs.Hope your friend picks up soon one day at a time as they say.

[Hidden]

Hello Honda...it was a wonderful thing that you did for your friend and I'm sure deeply appreciated _ do hope she is on the road to recovery. Like some others here I also know what living alone and ill-health can be like. Some days seem empty and scarey but other times I 'm reasonably content or at least able to go with the flow.

Do think some of us who live alone might benefit from supporting one another more...not thinking of a dating club , more a sharing of feelings that living alone can bring - the highs and lows Lovelight

[Hondabike3]

must have been awful my friend I am glad you came through it, my brother is terminally ill with cancer and he posses a mental strength that is amazing but having met several very poorly people they all posses this strength, not sure where it comes from but I hope I have it when I need it

[junespoon in reply to Hondabike3]

Great support you have given your friend, this will leave her very happy, may be the pick up she needs along with the rest, If ever you are around Shropshire area, you are quite , welcome x

[KingoftheCocktails]

So sad to be in such a position

KOTC

[Suzy6]

I sometimes suffer a feeling of loneliness and I don't live alone and have many good friends. I do have the ability to snap out of it. Frustration I suffer with when I realise certain things I enjoy doing I'm no longer able to do.

[Hidden in reply to Suzy6]

Can so relate to that!! xxx

[Shadwell]

So sad so many people on there own but sadder people feel lonely could it be an idea people put there area on here so people could meet up if they wanted to what do other people think.

[Wreckedmummy]

Since I've been ill, I've never felt so lonely. You find out who your true friends are when you have a chronic illness that's for sure. Your friend must have been delighted to know you had taken the time to go and see her.

Even with friends around, I still feel lonely and isolated, as no one can truly understand the desperation and yearning I have not to be trapped in this breathless hellhole of life sometimes.

I wish more people thought like you did honda.

[Hidden]

What a lovely gesture Honda,it would have been warmly recieved I'm sure.I do hope your friend recovers well,& also I do hope your brother remains strong,with his mental outlook,I'm sure you will be very supportive to him also.

Best of luck,take care xx