Help me out?

[hey_there_pal]

I am 16 and I can't eat v well. I struggle with actually eating as in my actual meal and a lot of the time I want to purge, and I go through periods of binging. I am not receiving medical help (medication OR therapy) because my parents won't pay for it. How can I work through it better than I am?

[crazycrossstitcher]

Can you talk to a school/college counsellor or nurse - I think you really do need to talk to someone about your thoughts and feelings. A trip to your GP is free of charge - as is counselling on the NHS - so there are no charges for treatment. Visit the ABC website of ring the helpline - they have good advice and pointers towards getting help.

[hey_there_pal in reply to crazycrossstitcher]

I would but I don't want my parents to know that it's that bad because then they'll force me to talk to them about it and it makes me super mad because it doesn't help me, it makes me work.

[Agora1 in reply to hey_there_pal]

Work in getting better that is....crazycrossstitcher has given you good advice that you need to take. x

[hey_there_pal in reply to Agora1]

No, it makes me work on being worse, instead of just feeling like every other person does in everyday life. They made me dissect every feeling I have.

[Agora1 in reply to hey_there_pal]

hey_there_pal, There are many layers to an eating disorder and that is why it needs to be dissected in order to get to the root of what started this all. My daughter is anorexic. She has lost many doctors who will no longer treat her for physical ailments caused by the anorexia. The reason being it was not a physical problem to begin with but a deep seated emotional issue that needs to be addressed. And so I wait for her to take that first most important step and that is accepting that she does need help. From there it will open many doors to her recovery. I wish you the same. Know that I care xx

[hey_there_pal in reply to Agora1]

Thank you XxX

[Agora1]

hey_there_pal, anyone who is self harming and is suicidal needs to reach out to someone who will listen to their cry. I can't believe your parents wouldn't be willing to get the help you need if they knew how severe your situation was. Please heed the advice of this forum. Maybe a family member who you trust and they can speak to your parents. Right now you are spiraling down, someone needs to hold your hand and guide you to safety.

Keep in touch with this forum. Others who understand your fears will support you as well. Keep safe. We care. xx

[hey_there_pal in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, and I regularly talk to my friends when I feel down and want to cut or make a suicide attempt. They understand a lot better and can somewhat keep me safe. But I will be active on the forum.

[Agora1 in reply to hey_there_pal]

Oh friends will be as supportive as they can because they care about you. However, nothing takes the place of a professionally train person in the medical field. Our goal is to keep you safe. We will be watching for your posts on the forum... xx

[hey_there_pal in reply to Agora1]

Thank you