My mother was diagnosed a couple of years ago with Alzheimer's and had been living alone in NYC for the past 25 years. Although she has probably had it for several years it became unsafe for her to live alone. Anymore. We had a caregiver coming in 5 days a week until that wasn't enough anymore. The most frustrating part is that she doesn't look sick and sounds "normal" until she asks the same question 50 times. She has close to no short term memory left. All she ever wanted was to stay in her apt. Right now she is angry, blaming me for dumping her somewhere and taking her life away. She says she would rather die then stay where she is right now. Let me tell you about the place she is.... Arden Courts in west orange is a private facility that specializes in Alzheimer's/dimentia ONLY. It is a small nurturing loving environment. Unfortunately she doesn't see herself like any of "those"people. She hides things and loses them and blames people for stealing. I don't know what her mood will be like minute to minute. She is clinging on to how her life used to be. Her independence etc.... this is killing me as she sounds so convincing when she pleads to go home and swears she won't cancel her doc appointments anymore. She canceled her hypertension appt 16 times and has extremely high blood pressure. I feel like I am killing her by leaving her somewhere other then home. I feel like she is killing herself by living alone in NY. She is so confused all the time and now I am second guessing every move I'm making. I m damned if I do and damned if I don't. Any words of wisdom or encouragement are absolutely welcomed. I have been physically sick for 10 days and I feel like I'm gonna collapse myself from stress. Help!!!!!