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I really need advice if anyone has or is going through all the questions...where's the kids,where's the baby,we need to go home,and packing her bags what to tell her day after day we try n get her to a place that we think she feels good with the answers we give her but some days its not enough the look in her face just breaks my heart she just looks so lost,any advise Will help.

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  • I hope you can give us a little more information so we can help you. Is the person you want to help your mother? It's good that you have others helping you. Are they family members?

  • Yes it is our mom....and its my brothers that help as best they can,my dad is there 24-7 so mainly dad n I gets hard like that bit it gets done,just same questions all day, if were helping with our answers.... Same answers everyday, do you have suggestions any would be appreciated.

  • Repeating questions over and over is very common in people with memory lost. All you can do is repeat the answers you've given before as if you're saying them for the first time. Have you brought your father to see a doctor?

  • Hi, my heart goes out to you. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's just 6 weeks ago so we are only in the first stages. I know we will get much worse as time goes by. I can only imagine how it is for you, but one thing I do know that we all have to remember is that their minds are set in the past. So when we try to give them answers based upon the present, they cannot understand. I don't advocate lying, and this is just a suggestion but ry giving her answers that would explain the absence of the kids, or why she can't be at home now. Tell her the kids are at camp, or visiting a relative, or she needed a break so the kids are playing at a friend's house. Anything that will satisfy her and give her some comfort. Tell her that she is visiting you at your house, or her house is being painted, or again anything that will let her mind rest for a while. In a little while she may ask again but hopefully it will give you a little rest too from the questions. She keeps asking because she doesn't understand your answers. Like I said, I have no idea if this will work, but it is worth a try. We are in the middle of a move right now but once we are settled they will start in-home services for us, and they have explained that part of that will be helping us, the caregivers, to know how to handle things like this. I have a lot to learn. Talking with people here have helped a lot. My prayers are with you.