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Bones, Backs and Mattresses

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Given the unfortunate relation between Pca and it affinity for bone, many in our community have been coping with bone, including spine issues.

I am interested in any of your experience/advice regarding which mattress you feel is best.

So far, I have heard that beautyrest black is a good contender.

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I’d go for the foam (mattress-in-a-box) mattresses like Cocoon or Nectar. You really need to go try them out at a place like Rooms To Go and determine your preferred level of firmness. My Cocoon Chill is quite firm IMO. I’m thinking of going to a king size bed so just might buy the Nectar Premier.

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podsart in reply to 6357axbz

Thanks

I’ve been sleeping on California king water mattresses for decades…… they give you perfect support for every part of your body ( even as you turn from sides to back ) and you can easily dial in the heat or cool to suit your changing needs. Dial it in to 86-89 degrees and sleep under a ceiling fan. Keep a light cover on the bed. Covering or uncovering regulates your temperature comfort. Size is critical for best results, smaller waterbeds don’t give the same experience.

I like the ultra luxurious feeling 80% waveless padding fill.

The downside is that after sleeping on this bed , everything else feels crude and uncomfortable…. even memory foam doesn’t come close. Just My take , everybody is different.

I’m currently severe adt zombie-ized and this bed is a miracle for that condition.

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podsart in reply to Kaliber

Thanks

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Kaliber in reply to podsart

❤️

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Lettuce231 in reply to Kaliber

Kaliber you didn't say, does this particular bed come with water wings and a wet suit ? Just askin 😉

Phil

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Kaliber in reply to Lettuce231

Yayahahahaya yayahahahaya put a zipper on top and use it for a kiddie wadding pool.

Sadly, most people allow their waterbeds to become “ naturally waveless “ through “ fill it and forget it “ thinking. After a few years it becomes “ smelly jelly “ ….think 1800 pounds of soft tofu ….. long as you never open it, it’s fine tho.

Just say’in 😂😂😂😂

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monte1111 in reply to Kaliber

Never thought water beds could be so funny. Remember sitting down and watching wife's dinner fly about eight feet.

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Kaliber in reply to monte1111

Lol 😂😂😂😂

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monte1111 in reply to Lettuce231

Zing.

I've slept on a Tempur-Pedic mattress for many years and highly recommend it. It is a bit expensive compared to some other memory foam mattresses but it's very comfortable and has good back support.

Thanks

I have always had problem shopping for mattresses. Trying them in a store doesn't work. And trying then returning is so awkward and inconvenient.

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6357axbz in reply to cesces

Many of the mattress in a box makers offer a long trial, like a year, and if you’re not happy they arrange for it to be removed, usually picked up by some non-profit

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podsart in reply to 6357axbz

Thanks

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podsart in reply to cesces

Thanks

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podsart in reply to cesces

I agree it’s very challenging and returning, even under a warrantee is tough and your old mattress is typically gone by then

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podsart in reply to cesces

Yes! I agree

Hello, Tempur-Pedic all the way!

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6357axbz in reply to RyderLake2

My wife had a tempur-pedic before we were married. We never did like it much and she bemoaned the fact that it was so expensive.

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RyderLake2 in reply to 6357axbz

Before you were married? Probably couldn't stand up to all that activity! 😀

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6357axbz in reply to RyderLake2

🤪

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monte1111 in reply to RyderLake2

Funny. After you're married you realize the 20 year warranty will work out just fine.

Hello,Just a heads up on this one. I live in Texas and if a doctor provides you with a prescription for a mattress, you don't have to pay the taxes on it. I saved couple hundred bucks when I bought mine.

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podsart in reply to Z06505hp

Does the dr give any advice as to type or brand to get?

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Z06505hp in reply to podsart

No, during a visit I just mentioned I was looking to buying a bed for my back issues due to my prognosis and he wrote me a rx. Told me to present it when making the purchase.

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podsart in reply to Z06505hp

Ok , understand, thanks

We went with a Sleep Number bed so that we can change the firmness/softness as needed. We got the split king adjustable bed so we can each have our own setting and can adjust the head and feet. It’s expensive but I think worth it to have comfort. 😴💤

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LeeLiam in reply to Avanat

My wife and I LOVE our Sleep Number bed. Went in to get the best one they have. Ended up with the lowest price because it was the firmest one. The more expensive ones have several layers of foam. While there, check out the Dual Temp pad. It blows cool air up through the lower sheet all night so no warm spots in the bed. We LOVE it also.

Glad that you posted this, I thought it was just my problem, not sleeping well due to bone, back, knee joints etc and any other problems.

We just got a massive memory foam mattress, naturally the memory is better than mine. It's so big I have to walk around the other side of the bed to kiss my wife good night. She being on the petite side had a step ladder to get onto it, when I get on she bounces and hits the ceiling.

But it's very firm and I find that better personally, my wife is getting used to it as well, there's a kind of no mans land in the middle, which is a bit odd after all these years 😉.

I hope that you find a mattress that suits you.

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monte1111 in reply to Lettuce231

This post just gets better and better. Did I read that right.... there used to be a man in the middle?

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Lettuce231 in reply to monte1111

Don’t ask me Monte1111, I was asleep 😴. What are you suggesting ! 😂

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Kaliber in reply to Lettuce231

Monte knows all about the man in the middle yayahahahaya yayahahahaya.

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Lettuce231 in reply to Kaliber

How do you know Kaliber ? I'm getting worried 😱

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Kaliber in reply to Lettuce231

Lol

We have had a memory foam for about a year. Don’t like the pothole my 275lb body that is indeed in memory. Recently got a latex topper and flipped the mattress even though it’s not flippable. Better. We’re moving from a one-bedroom apt to a three-bedroom house so this one is going into a guest room and we’re going to find a latex mattress. Latex springs back rather than leaving a permanent indentation like the memory foam. Recommend you shop carefully and avoid the chain mattress stores in favor of a traditional full-line furniture store.

Curious on how you chose to look for latex and which company(s) have you researched!Your thoughts appreciated

Do a google search for “latex vs memory foam” — I’ll leave it up to you to judge whether the various sites are credible or not. Got the latex topper from Amazon to test its recoverability. I’m a believer. With the help of 3 mg of melatonin and lowest dose gabapentin (for neuropathy in hands and feet) i have been sleeping 7-8 hours every night and wake up refreshed and ready to drain the little lizard. I have been on CPAP for more than 20 years and several months ago added oxygen for IPF, so sleep is a powerfully important subject for me.

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Mikeski in reply to Fastingguy

I also feel latex is the way to go. I’ve been sleeping on this…eliminates pressure points. Latex gives more of a sleep on top feel than memory foam where you feel locked in to your position on the mattress

avocadogreenmattress.com/co...

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podsart in reply to Mikeski

This link is for their topper; so you didn’t want to get their actual mattress?

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Mikeski in reply to podsart

Our mattress is fine, just too firm. This topper was all that we needed.

This is the topper we’re sleeping on. No bells and whistles. 100% Natural Latex Mattress Topper - Medium Firmness - 2 Inch - King Size - Cotton Cover Included. amazon.com/dp/B07Q1K3H5Y/re...

I have a terrible back. In 2012 had surgery to decompress several vertebra. Had 6 herniated discs, spinal stenosis, severe sciatica, etc…. I had not slept well in years prior to my Prostate Cancer diagnosis….

When I found out about the cancer, I said “F this” and bought the best bed I could find. The Rest Performance bed with the Purple Grid topper. Stupid expensive, but hands down the best mattress I have ever had the pleasure of sleeping on…

We just got a Tuft And Needle hybrid, about 4 months ago. It has springs with memory foam on top. No more hip and shoulder pain. It’s more on the firm side. Some of the memory foam mattress’s would “egg crate” me and I hated that.

Just put a memory foam mattress topper on my bed. Changed everything. No more pain when getting up or even sleeping. Used to be able to count on the pain every day, but no more.

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marinoperna in reply to ppulatie

Which brand please

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ppulatie in reply to marinoperna

Just got a cheapy 3" foam topper. Can't remember name. Worked great.

I was in the hospital last year and found I could sleep better with my head elevated. We bought a sleep number with the adjustable base. They also have a mattress addition called the dual temp. I haven’t had night sweats since adding this to the bed. It is expensive but when you consider you spend 1/3 of your day in bed it’s a good investment. The wife likes that she can adjust the firmness on her side as well. We have no regrets in making this purchase and love the sleep number.

We already have a very good mattress, that my wife thinks is great, that has become too firm for my coccyx and hip areas (even with me sleeping with a special therapeutically-designed pillow between my knees), podsart.

I just ordered a GhostBed Memory Foam Topper >>> ghostbed.com/products/mattr...

At $269 It will not cost nearly as much as replacing our original mattress.

If you wish, I will keep you posted on the results, after I've had a chance to test it.

Fingers crossed.

Much better mattress pads for better prices from less devious suppliers on sites like Overstock.com

I am impressed with the number of great replies. This group/ you guys are so kind and helpfulThanks

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6357axbz in reply to podsart

Well this is a fun posting. A reprieve from more serious issues.

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Kaliber in reply to 6357axbz

Yea …. It’s bedlam …. 😂😂😂😂

As I thought from first reading your post there isn’t one mattress that’s right for everyone with pain. We’re all different. What’s right for one isn’t necessarily right for someone else. At least all our responses should give you a good idea of the available options.

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podsart in reply to 6357axbz

Good point ; thanks

Yes. I agree. Great post. Remember when you could flip mattresses? Remember when a bar of soap lasted longer than one shower. My new pet peeve. The new bars of soap are about the size of what I used to throw away. I guess I could super glue them together. At least there isn't any inflation.

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Lettuce231 in reply to monte1111

“ Bars of soap are about the size of the ones I used to throw away “ Chocolate bars, let’s talk chocolate bars, now when I was a kid ...............

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