Lonesome night of feeling sorry for myself

[777sigh]

Does anyone feel like something is wrong with them? Like your one of those children's toys where you have to fit a shape into the matching hole. But your just not the right shape. They try so hard to fit you into the incorrect mold... until you break apart, and are thrown away and forgotten about. I try to blame that feeling on my ADHD, but often I feel like its just me.

[dgs2018]

OK, I can hear you plain and clear on that issue. Yes, it's true those of us with ADHD will never be a regular Joe or Jane in this society. Our brains are wired differently and the way we see life and solve problems is therefore different. Of course, "they" try to fit you to their mold and to hold you to some orthodox standard, but you were made to function outside the box. You are made for problem solving and creativity, not to draw inside the lines. I wouldn't sweat it too much, but find your passion and skills and grow into them. Be your own advocate and find others who can identify with your style. Well wishes in your life.

[happy_kitty]

To use your own analogy: You are a round peg and society is trying to fit you into a square hole. You're not stuck on the outside, you just need to find the round hole.

You are not broken and there is nothing wrong with you. You're just different.

Being different can be hard, and you will be told that different is bad or that you need to be fixed, but the people who tell you that only say it because they don't like that your different or because they don't understand.

You are just as capable of reaching the same destination as someone with a typical brain, you just have to take a few detours.

[rach1402]

Yeah I feel like that a lot of the time and I remember feeling like that when I was a kid as well as at home. We're different and society states that it's a bad thing but it's not. We may be different but we're definitely not lesser. I often feel like I'm out of sync with the world around me but I didn't realise that until I started on a medication that works for me. Finding the right medication at the right dose really can make all the difference to your quality of life. A lot of people have got strong opinions about medication, mostly people who know nothing about it, but you should do what you and your doctor think is right for you.

[Tandees_Daughter]

I often describe my tour through life as a series of people trying to shove my square peg into a round hole. I cannot tell you how many times I have been told to stop xxx behavior and be more like everyone else at school, work, group, etc. I have cried so many times asking the universe why I have to change to match other people's comfort level, but no one is asked to change to accommodate me. My mother was ADHD, she gave it to me, and I have graciously handed it down to my daughter. I try to help her understand the path that she is on, but she will have to discover most of it on her own. All I can hope is that the world will become more accepting by the time she gets into the workforce.

[Better_Life]

Oh yes. I think a lot of us (myself included) know this feeling. I believe that this ‘is not you sigh (or anyone else for that matter). Least not doing it on purpose. In the beginning you think its you but try as one might, to change how you do things. Nothing seems to change and its not from not trying.

All the best