My Mother-in-law shared with my husband and I tonight that she truly believes my 10 yr old son has Disassociate Disorder š³ and she believes it with all of her heart. My son did experience trauma when he was first born; he was a micro preemie (born at 24 weeks and 5 days, weighed 1lb 9oz and spent 106 days in the NICU)She says she thinks he āsplitā during this time. I am so sick to my stomach. I donāt know what to say, how to feel or should I even entertain this theory of hers.
Has anyone in here have any experience with this?
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I am not familiar with disassociation disorder but unless your mother-in-law is a psychologist or psychiatrist I wouldn't necessarily give her opinion much weight. If you have your own concerns, you should talk with your pediatrician. I tend to ignore the opinions of others and get advice/diagnosis from trained professionals.
My MIL has Bi-polar herself. She also has friends with ADHD and other diagnosis. She had shared how my son has been behaving with a friend of hers who is also ADD. She then showed her photos of my son that were taken 3 days apart from one another. The friend commented that my son looks like a completely different child in the photos when compared to each other. So, this is what they based their ādiagnosisā off of. And because my son did experience trauma as a newborn and preemie; they truly believe with all their hearts he has multi personalities š My husband just laughs it off and saysI should too. I know in my heart my son does not have multiple personalities. It just makes my heart hurt that my sons own grandmother would think this about him. My son has a beautiful heart, he is highly intelligent, heās fun and has a better than average sense of humor....and for someone to think this....just made me upset and feel sick.
I agree with denak that this diagnosis should be left to you and a psychiatrist! I will share though that for years I worked with a psychologist who thought I had dissociative disorder and it was not until MY daughter turned 8 and was diagnosed with adhd that I realized I had ADHD and NOT dissociative disorder! It was adhd for me all along. I actually still see the same psychologist but we both agree it is adhd that is my issue. Adhd and dissociative disorder can look similar is some ways. The extreme spacing out to the point of being unable to function can look very similar and that was my issue growing up and well into my twenties. Sadly i see it in my daughter now.
In reading up in dissociative Disorder; I can see how similar the symptoms are, but my son does not experience the ācoreā symptoms of this type of diagnosis. It was just hurtful to suggest something like this. Especially when she knows weāve been struggling over the past couple of months.
I have bipolar and my son has ADHD. I don't know the mind of your mother-in-law but honestly living with bipolar myself I can tell you it puts me on a pretty negative track. It's very easy to see the dark side of things. I know you are hurting that someone so close to your family could say this but put it in perspective. She has a mental illness. Hopefully your son's psychiatrist does not. Wait until a professional tells you this diagnosis and do not put stock in what your family says, especially your mother-in-law. Bipolar by definition makes us feel either extremely depressed or fabulous and all-knowing - either situation is not a good time for you to take your mother-in-law's words to heart. Don't stress. Shrug her off as best you can and if necessary tell her it is very upsetting and we can talk about this and this and this but please keep your input as to your grandson's diagnosis to the doctors who are trained. Get your husband on board. Him laughing it off isn't helpful either if it hurts and scares you. Good luck.
My father likes to make comments. Iāve had questions like what I ate when I was pregnant. People just donāt understand, even when they are your family.
Ignore your mother in law comments. Being bipolar, disqualifies her instantly for any kind of advice.
I just realized that Iām ADD, myself, and now everything makes sense of how I have forgotten so many things and the troubles I got into in as a teen. This is a serious disorder and now I know how to advocate and fight for my child. Back then, there were no diagnosis for this, nevertheless, medications.
Iām fortunate to have the means to get my child on track and help Her deal with it.
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