Am I mad to do it all again???

[kelm]

I have just found out I am expecting my third child but this wasnt planned, now we are debating what is the best decision for all. We have a 9 y/o and a 7 y/o both who would be delighted with a younger sibling. I am in absolute turmoil cos my head says one thing and my heart another plus I just got a new job.

[gemmw]

things happen for a reason.. the only question you and your partner have to answer is.. can you kill you own child? a morbid question.. but thats what an abortion would be.. and do you know how far you are?

plus your kids are at a perfect age to have another baby.. whats more important your own child or a job x

[rmh2012 in reply to gemmw]

I'm sorry gemmw, but I find that offensive. That's the second time you've talked about killing one's own child on this website. This website is designed to be supportive, and if you can't be, then please withhold your opinion. Abortion is legal, and is a deeply personal decision never taken lightly.

[amidra]

I think you shud be happy dat ua expecting a baby so many out here cant wait to be called mummy . Dnt take any decision that you will regret later whateva happens that baby shud be your top priority for now your job can wait.

[stowsettler]

Contrary to the rather tasteless, self-righteous and downright offensive answers above, I believe that the decision as to whether to have this child is yours and your partner's alone. It may or may not be right for you, but I am sure that you will both come to the right conclusion for your own circumstances. Good luck. For what it's worth, I suspect you already have your decision, but make sure it is your own.

[mum2nearly4]

I SO agree with stowsettler. I am having my 4th baby and got pregnant at the wrong time as I was starting a new job. The decision is yours and your partners not narrow minded peoples. Good luck in which ever you decide todo x

[rmh2012]

This is terribly difficult decision for you, and I don't envy you. Weighing up finances, new job, and more importantly how your existing family dynamic might change ... it's not easy. Harder still for anyone to give you effective advice that takes the complexity of your circumstances into account.

All I can say is take your time so that the shock of finding out has settled before you make your decision. That way you'll be able to think through it a little clearer.

And if you decide to go ahead, I'm sure you'll manage - just not in the way you had planned for your immediate future. And if you decide the other way, it will be because it's the best decision for your circumstances at this time in your life.

All the best

R x

[charliesangels1]

I agree with Rmh2012 - that is very offensive, abortion is a choice and isn't about "killing your child" If anything early on it isn't even a baby! you should do what feels right and if you want an abortion then that is your choice, it is your life and you need to think about what is best for you, who's to say in a few years time that you might want to have a baby and can try then? Don't listen to everyones opinion on here though because that's what it is! Just an opinion!!!!

[Allyemo1985]

It's your choice Hun you have been gifted a child. Use your head and heart together to make the right choice. (GL)