When to tell your family?

[hello_world2]

Hi all,

When did you tell your closest family or friends that you were pregnant? I’m only 5 weeks, but planning to stay with my sister-in-law over Christmas when I’ll be at 7-8weeks. It will be so obvious I’m pregnant, since I won’t be drinking (and I’m nauseous all the time), and we’re very close so feels weird to lie.

Did you tell anyone early on? I know I could miscarry, but wonder if I’d like 1-2 people to know in that case to support me through it if it did happen?

[Purpledoggy]

I told my parents and 3 friends the day I got a positive test, but they all knew we’d gone through IVF, and when, so it seemed reasonable to tell them. If anything had gone wrong, I wanted their support, and they are all people if I needed some space if something did go wrong I could tell them just that and they’d respect it. Early pregnancy was a bit rough (unrelenting nausea until 22 weeks) so it was nice having a bit of sympathy TBH!! And of course some tips on dealing with it. I’m not superstitious so didn’t feel telling people would ‘make it go wrong’. But, do what you feel is right for you as your relationship with those around you will dictate who to tell and when xx

[Seb9]

I told my mum, sister and a few close friends as soon as I tested positive. I knew I would want them by my side if anything bad happened so knowing I had their support made it much easier.

[SRA8]

I told my sister the day I took the test. So 3 to 4 weeks. The rest of my family when I say them next. All my close friends well before 12 weeks. If i was going to miscarry these are the people i would want to support me.

Unfortunately i had to tell work nearly straightaway which i did not like.

[ToniaB123]

I had a really similar situation to you recently, I was going to wait until 12 week scan but went on holiday with my parents when I was about 7 weeks and was having some awful morning sickness! I did say it was too early to tell them really when I told them but it’ll probably make your family’s Xmas to hear your news :). Hope all goes well for you ❤️ Xxx

[ELB2022]

We told my grandparents and partners parents when I was around 6 weeks we thought even if something did happen we have a support system around us. Miscarriage doesn’t have to be a secret!

We then told close friends a few months in and everyone else after 20 weeks 😊 congratulations on your baby 💜

[KayRays]

Congratulations!! It’s a bit of a tricky one but I’ve told some friends and my parents as it’s really good to have the support, no matter what the outcome. It’s a personal choice as I need support whereas my partner less so. He’s waiting to tell his friends/family

[Rebekah_29]

Oh my goodness, I'm in exactly the same situation! Seeing my brother and my parents over Christmas and it'll be obvious because I'm not drinking (wish I was usually tee-total!). Me and my partner have discussed it a lot and agreed to tell them as we don't live nearby so will be a good opportunity. Hopefully it'll be a nice Christmas present! Good luck and congrats! x

[hello_world2]

Thanks all! Was emboldened by this group and told my in-laws this weekend, who were overjoyed but also offered so much help that it made me really glad we told them:).

[Sally300]

Hi. I told my mum when i was 4 weeks as we are close and i had symptoms i couldn't hide. Everyone else we waited until I had my first scan and tests. I would recommend telling the people who are close to you.

[Chicky86]

I didn't tell any of my family until I was 12 weeks! But then, they also didn't know we were having IVF. There was a chance I could have been pregnant last Christmas, but luckily we were hosting so I was able to hide not drinking pretty easily, I replaced my glass of champagne with a glass of appletizer and it really looked the part!! No one was any the wiser.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and with whatever you decide to do xx