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[Tiredtiredtiredxo]

Hi,

This is my first baby and he’s 5 weeks old. Last night was our first trip to the A&E because he was vomiting between feeds, had a bit of diarrhoea and also seemed quite different in himself (lethargic). He had tests : temperature, bloods etc and they were happy to discharge him as theres less risk at home due to covid-19 but if anything worsens or symptoms continue to return for him to be admitted. I just found that I’ve been in a constant state of panic since before going in last night & the whole time was just terrifying. I know everything is generally heightened for me as I suffer with panic attacks & anxiety which I get help for however I just wondered will every visit be like this? How do I calm down at home? How often did everyone else’s newborns get sick etc? X

[Tiredtiredtiredxo]

I forgot also he seems quite bunged up as well

[WobblyCaroline in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

Oh bless you. It is a very worrying time. Keep checking on his fontanelle to make sure he is not dehydrated and feed him as much as he will take even if he does vomit. Hydration is key in little ones. Can you tell me do you live in a town nearby the hospital?

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to WobblyCaroline]

Thank you so much for the reply

Okay! I will do

It’s just disheartening knowing that I’m gunna feed him and some will come up! Thankfully he’s doing tons better today he’s definitely taking in way more milk than he’s bringing up so I’m not too concerned about that anymore.

I’ve started using saline nose spray to clear out his nose a bit to help him with breathing through the feeds

Yes I do live super close to the hospital but I’m very put off going in this current climate!

[Hidden]

I know what you mean. I become really worried when my son's ill or has anything wrong with him. I feel like I must have caused it. I'd love to know how to be able to calm down about it all and take it all in my stride.

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to Hidden]

I felt like I was just going absolutely crazy but I’m starting to realise almost all mums have been in this position so for once I shouldn’t be frustrated with myself for panicking x

I do think I have mastitis but I’m not entirely sure so combined with him being ill and extremely painful breasts and feeling under the weather I think I’ve just been overwhelmed

[LauraJ85]

I'm the same. I think I've got better as he has got older but the first few weeks I was in a constant state of worry. I'm a single parent and remember when my son was a couple of weeks old ringing my mum in the middle of the night as he kept being sick and I just got in such a panic and didnt know what to do. It does get easier but once you start going to baby groups etc it seems like they constantly have a cold! For being bunged up, snuffle baby is really good and I'm pretty sure it can be used from newborn, asda also do a vapour bubble bath for babies, and just sitting in the bathroom with the shower on hot so its gets steamy can help. I hope he feels better soon and that you are doing okay x

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to LauraJ85]

Single mama over here as well! Ended up going with my mum as well- shes been my support system but it’s incredibly hard with the virus situation because I can’t get as much support in my panics as usual.

It’s such a relief to know that I’m not the only one who felt like my world was ending 😂

Thank you so much for the reply, he’s doing tons better, I’ve used saline spray up his nose and that got rid of a lot of the congestion and he’s keeping a lot more feeds down. In general he just seems a lot more like himself

X

[Hidden in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

I just read your a single Mum. I am a single mum too but through IVF and sperm donation. Are you a single mum by choice or with a ex partner. It would just be interesting to know. I know it nothing to do with your current situation. My cousin has had twins and her husband is supportive but still worries alot.

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to Hidden]

Oh that’s super interesting! How old is your little one?

My ex and I were separating before I found out I was pregnant. I was on the pill and continued taking the pill - found out I was pregnant like 3 months along. Had no idea- didnt miss a period or pill.

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

He wanted to help out after I had my little one hut because he lives with his sister who’s a key worker, I’m not comfortable with him coming to visit and definitely even less comfortable with him living with me

[Hidden in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

My son's 6 months old and love him to bits. I live in the West Midlands.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I like you was getting abit of help from my mum. I am currently on maternity leave fortunately. But, because of cronona I can only talk to family on the phone.

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to Hidden]

Awww lovely!! X

Yep maternity leave kinda sucks though , definitely not how I envisioned it to go but I guess everyone’s in the same boat.

Not sure if they’d be of benefit to you but I enjoy taking part in the live Facebook mama classes . I’m in the North west x

facebook.com/mamatribeuk/

[Hidden in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

Thanks for this link to the facebook. I will join, it look interesting.

[LauraJ85 in reply to Tiredtiredtiredxo]

Glad he is doing better. It's such a worry and being on our own we haven't got another person's opinion on anything or to keep us rational!

I know it's so hard not seeing my mum atm too, can't wait for this crazy time to be over xx

[Beccl93]

Does your next to me crib tilt? That can help with congestion?

Have you got one of those, SnuffleBabe Nasal Aspirator? They are much better then the bulbs, that helped my little girl

[Tiredtiredtiredxo in reply to Beccl93]

Unfortunately it doesn’t but I do end up keeping

him upright to help with the congestion and also to stop him from choking on his vomit

I’ve just ordered one! Thank you so much x

[Health4]

My first LO was in hospital at 3 weeks old. I was panicking as LO was not waking up after sleeping a long time and I phoned 111. Aambulance came and I bundled everything and took my baby to hospital. Turned out doctor said that it was urine infection and colic and reflux. I had already explained about the reflux as I was in tears when my milk didn’t come despite trying soo hard.( The formula milk was difficult to digest so my LO would vomit at EVERY feed. Tried another brand which helped a little.Later even domperidone didn’t help me produce breast milk, they aren’t allowed to prescribe it now).

Anyway they gave my LO antibiotics- it was horrible as my LO had to have a needle put in the back of the hand! I was in tears. The antibiotics gave LO rash so nappy changes were full of screaming and crying as it was soo sore. Those days were really hard for me. It just felt like my LO was going through soo much. I even got upset when on my LO first vaccination the nurse put a massive 3 inch needle in my LO thigh!! I questioned my health visitor that how big should the needle be as this needle was 3 inches!I was furious and next vaccine I booked another nurse who used a much smaller needle. This really made me angry as the previous nurse had used a needle that I have never seen used even in adults ( and I have had a lot of needles put in me. Then when LO turned one, LO fell and hit head and it was another trip to hospital. Those days were hard and stressful for me but it definitely gets easier. I had support from my GP, my midwives were excellent and my health visitor visited me up to a year as my mental health team recommended the extra support for me. My pharmacy round the corner we’re soo helpful when I would ask what I can use for baby stuffy nose etc. Now my LO is a healthy little toddler, running around and it’s a joy to see! It does get easier, I get almost a full night sleep now with one milk bottle roughly 3 am as LO gets thirsty at night. Hang in there and God bless!