Cup of tea

[Annh17]

Is it okay to give my 1 year old a cup of tea??

My husband gave her 1 this morning, which she loved, he put 1 sugar in (I would of preferred her too try it without first) but his response was, my mum gave me it with 2 sugars in for years and my teeth are okay.

They will give her biscuits as snacks, lunch and after dinner, where I’m more strict and will just give her 1, as a little snack after her nap.

I don’t want her too have made teeth and then always want sugary snacks.

My MIL is really doing my head in lately and I can’t even look or talk too her

[Purpledazzle27]

My daughter will drink the tiny bit left of my tea if I leave it lying around but that is a very small amount. I did once make her a cup for herself but she hardly drank any. I don’t think the occasional drink of tea is bad. I wouldn’t let her have it all the time. I’m more concerned about the caffeine than the sugar. Biscuits are much worse. I don’t like to give biscuits every day and usually it’s just one. My daughter is 20 months now. If you don’t want her to have any just tell whoever is caring for her that she’s not to have them that day or just one. If they disregard what you say then ask them why they are doing that. If you don’t stand up to them now they will always try and do whatever they want. My mother in law has been absolutely brilliant as she knows I will say something if I’m not happy. I’m not rude or argumentative. We just talk about things. Good luck xx

[Annh17 in reply to Purpledazzle27]

She loved her tea, only a few mouthfuls lol. I try not too put biscuits in her lunch box when she has her, instead I will put fruit, cucumber, breadsticks, cheese sticks as for snacks. I saw she can have 1/2 a biscuit, but she won’t listen and nor will my husband, they just say it never hurt them. But all the sugary stuff wasn’t around then 🙄

I just say to myself, when I have LG she hardly has any sugar, so when MIL has her, 1 biscuit won’t hurt her.

But she just judges (even though husband says she’s not the judging the type) 🙄 I have too be so careful of what I say though, as I can’t say anything bad or negative about his family. So I get it all of my chest to my family.

[Cheekymonkey85]

My son likes a brew now & then, I drink decaf so caffeine isn't an issue. It's the tannins in it you need to be careful of as it can interfere with the absorption of iron so just avoid near meal times or after taking vitamins etc xx

[Octoberbaby2019]

I've just attended a weaning workshop and they mentioned Black tea stops absorption of iron. So maybe only give it as a treat now and then for now?

[Bakingcupcake]

You shouldnt be giving caffeine to a child under 5-6 so no tea no coffee..and with sugar??? Thats absolutely ridiculous!!think of your childs health not what your parents gave you...your just encouraging her to get the taste for sweet things...sorry but i think thats really bad, children want to try things adults have all the time, a clear no should suffice!!

[Bakingcupcake]

You also need to stand up to your husband and his family...its your child too!!!

[LKT1]

It’s tricky grandparents will always spoil their children maybe you can provide some healthier favourite snacks when she visits them and say ‘Iv brought these as a treat as she absolutely loves them’ maybe they will give them instead if they think they will still be popular?

Re the tea situation I personally wouldn’t as the NHS say on their website that you shouldn’t give your baby or toddler any caffeinated drinks. I think we forget caffeine is actually still a drug. Maybe refer your other half or in laws to the nhs guidelines if they are being difficult about it. Definitely put your foot down if it’s not what you want as you are her mum.

Good luck hope you can sort it x

[Annh17 in reply to LKT1]

Thank you.

I don’t want her having tea especially with sugar in, otherwise she will always end up having it with sugar. I hate the thought of her having caffeine and sugar.

I don’t mind her trying foods, all in moderation and a little bit here and there is fine. She only had a few mouthfuls, so luckily she didn’t drink the whole cup.

Yea I always give healthy options, which is working well now. He was giving her a biscuit after dinner aswell, but I have now managed to get him too stop that, which is good.

I’m hoping the tea situation was just a 1 off x

[MydogBrandy]

In my opinion decaf tea is fine but I would not put sugar in. Getting used to drinking tea without sugar is great and much easier than trying to cut it out later in life I feel.

[IMDb]

Hi!

I hate my MIL too!

What is happening here is wrong. They are undoing all the behaviour you have implemented against. She is your daughter and nobody has any right to go against your wishes.

She is your daughter regardless of if his mother gave him 2 or 60 she is your child and if you dont want her having lots of snacks and sugar you have a right to put your foot down.

It is a bad habit and your little one will pick up that she can get snacks ect at your MIL.

[VloandKmp]

My daughter kept trying to drink the last bits of mine and her dads teas and coffees so now we make her a small amount of decaf tea with half a teaspoon of sugar in she only gets one a day max an o it if she asks for it. She is 2 years old. We are very vigilant with where we keep our cups now and never leave it out once drank for her to reach