Being overprotective?

[Mango401]

I'm currently expecting my second child in 10 weeks and I'm feeling completely overwhelmed by family members. I had a very rough start to my pregnancy and not everyone was thrilled for me due to being epileptic. By the time 20 weeks came they were all happy and starting to get excited. I'm now feeling overwhelmed, I have a huge family and with my first son they were terribly overbearing. They bought me everything for my first which sounds totally ungreatful on my part, but I literally didn't get to choose anything apart from the colour of paint that went on my childs bedrooms walls! I also had an awful birth with my son and had a seizure during labour, which put me out for two days. By the time I woke up the news of his birth had been announced to the whole family, all my friends, work colleagues etc, when I didn't even know his weight yet! They were then round at the house 24/7, and it wasn't to be helpful, it was literally just to see the baby and nothing else.

I'm now stressing as they are beginning to act the same way as last time, and everytime I explain how upset I am to my mum she gets angry with me and says I'm being horrible and ungrateful! I feel even more protective this time round as they were all not supportive at the start. I'm having an elective section this time round, and my mum is going to have my little boy when I go in, I've told her once I get my date through, I don't want to tell any of the family members. I also don't want any visitors for the first two weeks, i just want to enjoy my little family without feeling overwhelmed and pressured. Is this normal or am I just being hormonal?

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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting time with just your husband and children, stand your ground.

[EvaK82]

100% agree! It’s your baby, your birth experience and your time to spend the way you wish.

Don’t be afraid to upset them - they aren’t afraid to upset you!