To find two or three REAL friends in a lifetime is good fortune, to keep them is a blessing,and don't worry about your mistakes,we all make them... Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view your future.Most of us have many acquaintances but they are not necessarily friends,the word friend is bandied about so much on social media that its lost its true meaning.
You have a choice each and every single day. I choose to feel blessed. I choose to feel grateful. I choose to see goodness. I choose to be thankful. I choose to smile whatever the obstacles
I'm grateful for past betrayals, heartaches, and challenges... I thought they were breaking me, but in fact they were making me.😌
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I could not agree more! Bitterness is a negative, ugly emotion and only damaging for the person experiencing it. Far better to let it go, move on and look to the future with hope and positivity 😊
Lovely post secrets. I have 3 true friends who would be my go to for sharing a problem. I like the idea of past betrayals and challenges making you. I would draw courage from that
Hi secrets road runner it's full moon did you see it, great post as always secrets to be honest I am very choosey whom I befriend I only have one friend apart from friends on here that is, I have known her since about age 4 5 we've had our fallouts in the past even had a break up of about 2 years when very young and I had many friends when younger drinking buddies I called them we went our separate ways I'm a bit of a loner and sounds weird but my best friend has always been my mam and my cats over the years, I have friends in nebourhood whom are friends and do have invites now n then some relations not blood are friends, so I guess on writing this I have more than one friend,at one point in my life I thought my best friend was a bottle of something which ended up been quite toxic and luckily I soon realised this, I also think when alone we can have other friends that aren't people like the TV the phone internet I feel is a big friend, and without that I'd have hardly any friends as most my friends are on here,I find friends in the natural world like a squirrel I see every morning and my nebours spaniel Tilly, whom is always so fussy to see me, sounds silly but I find the moon is my friend and find comfort in looking at it,and photos of my dead loved ones, sorry gone off track a bit best stop typing I could go on🤔🤗🌞🌝🌈and I value your friendship and am your friend 😊
Couldn't agree more about real friends secrets22. When you find a true friendship, treasure it and help it blossom and grow. Over 70 now, I can count on one hand how many real friends I've had in my lifetime. Plenty of acquaintances who have come and gone. My few real. friends have supported me no matter what went wrong and have really cared about what's happened to me, good and bad, throughout the years. And it's reciprocal. Some of the choices we make in our life will also really influence those who are drawn to us, and if you want a positive friendship, then be positive. It's a well-known saying and a truth that 'misery loves company'. To attract positive friends, give out positivity and the facets of daily life you'd like to receive.
Up until the end of 2015 I had 3 really fantastic friends, 2 I've known since I was a teenager, the third for over 20yrs. When I rang them to let them know I was being registered blind 2 were fine with it, but the third, who I've known since my school days, was completely different, she openly doesn't deal with health issues and her attitude towards, me has so changed, she said something to me about vision loss which, at the time I was physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted, I can neither forgive or forget, she had no knowledge of people with vision loss, and can't understand that I can still see things. On that day she stopped being a friend and she's just someone I've known since my school days and I feel that if I see her again it'll be too soon, she also said other things about my health issues and about my mum's dementia which was difficult for me to deal with
That's why we are friends and get on my dext and you for instance as we are obviously similar in nature, well on that note I must finish getting dressed lol and I feel sick after eating so much lol hummmm now what's for tea 😁😁😁😁actually I'm going to force myself to go for walk I know I'll feel better for it xxx
I do agree with how important positive thinking can be, but I feel I need to make an additional point. I know that the post was a general comment and not one specifically about mental health, but I want to raise awareness about how it relates to mental health. I hope you won't mind.
I am sure that you all know how widespread mental health issues are in our society. Many people have these difficulties and are receiving treatment and support, but other people don't even know that their ongoing difficulties are part of a mental health problem.
I just want to say that while positive thinking can be a very important part of tackling a mental health issue, there are some mental health difficulties where simply trying to think positively won't be effective without other interventions. This is in cases where the problem is not easily accessed because the subconscious mind is affecting the person and they are not aware of this. In particular, people with conditions such as Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can have the causes of their difficulties completely hidden from their conscious minds.
While encouraging positive thinking, we need to be aware that people can have such conditions, otherwise we may come to think that a person isn't getting better because they are not trying hard enough to be positive. The person with the problem may blame themselves for their lack of progress.
I just want to raise awareness that it isn't a lack of effort in being positive that stands in the way of people recovering from mental health difficulties, it's a whole lot more complex than that.
Sorry for getting on my soapbox. I completely accept that I am commenting on something that the original post was not intending to address, but I am trying to do my 'raising awareness' thing.
If you have read all of this, thank you.
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So glad you have some good special friends on whom you can depend secrets.I agree that this is a blessing and something to appreciate.
You sound very resilient in that in spite of the very hard knocks you've experienced in the past that you've survived, bounced back and even become stronger for it.
I would echo Marnie though in so far that for some it's not quite so straight forward.
Once again very pleased that you have that inner strength and reserves to fall back on.
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