Some people on here are a bit abrupt. Lots of us are learning about PMR. #bekind.
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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer
I don't think anyone is intentionally abrupt...but we all have a differing writing style. That may depend on us as individuals, or what we did in our working lives....
Sometimes it depends on the question asked, if a quick answer can be given, it will be, or the poster may be directed to a related post or relevant link - with just a few words.
We all have days that are better than others, and that may reflect in the replies or the recipient's perception of those replies..but if you feel a reply is not appropriate then there is a mechanism to report it.
I have been on this forum for about 9 years and have always found it to be, on the whole, very friendly and kind, as well as informative, but as we are reminded occasionally by the Administrators, it is a health forum, not a chat room, so the language may be different.
PMRproAmbassador
I'm sorry if you think someone's reply or writing style is abrupt but there are some people on the forum who read all the replies and posts and answer dozens of questions a day. Where it is required we may write a longer reply but if a single sentence and a link provides the answer, we do that for speed.
No-one here is paid for what they do and we all have different backgrounds - and ways of presenting facts.
I can understand how sometimes a reply can sound abrupt to a person and it can hurt. I do not think that anyone on this site does it intentionally.
If you have a problem with an abrupt reply, as DL says there is a mechanism to report it, at the bottom: Reply, Like, Report. If you report it, it will be dealt with fairly, privately and swiftly.
On the other hand a private message to the person who has been abrupt to you may just solve a misunderstanding. Just like when we are talking to each other.
Like DL, I have been around for sometime and yes, some replies unintentionally, might sound harsh or abrupt, but on the whole this site has a good reputation. I have looked on other sites and I would not touch them with a ten foot barge pole.
I have only been on this forum since March this year and posted just a couple of questions. I cannot thank the contributors enough for their help and advice and vast knowledge and experience. I would have been totally lost without this. The replies and responses have been fast and brilliant and considering it's all voluntary I appreciate that everyone has good and bad days but in view of the numerous posts that are answered on the forum I really don't think any criticism can be levelled at the 'experts'.
Hi Uglow. Sometimes what may come across as abrupt in writing would not appear as such in the spoken word where tone, pace and expression make a difference, especially when face to face. I hope this reassures you.
When you say some people on this board are a bit abrupt, do you mean in reply to yourself or to others? I find that people are only trying to help.
Hello Uglow,
l’ve not been around much today so have only just seen your Post. What you must remember is Everyone on here has PMR/GCA & often has other Medical Conditions either connected or not.
There are many Contributors, who maybe feeling very unwell themselves but still answer despite that.
If you have a specific complaint use the Report Option or Message an Ambassador, you are relatively New & you will discover that this Forum is one of the most helpful & informative Forums on HU.
I was previously an Ambassador & a Moderator on this Forum but due to a Serious Decline in My Condition it was not possible for me to continue but if you have any issues you are Welcome to PM Me directly.
Kind Regards
MrsNails
It is an imperfect way of communicating but it’s all we’ve got. Everybody loves you! X
It’s going a good job. It was just an observation
Oh dear, I’m so sorry that you feel that some replies are a bit abrupt. I personally find everyone very helpful, I really appreciate their help, it’s also saved me time keep bothering my doctors or rheumatologist.Take care.
Xx 😍
Sometimes the same question can be asked many times in one week, especially concerning Covid vaccines! I’ve been unwell the past two weeks but tried to help, but found my answers got less as I had to continually repeat the same thing. Our main contributors are volunteers who do a fantastic job and do repeat everything again and again ad nauseam . Hopefully this will be helped by the new FAQ section but only if people use it. Tbh, I’m totally amazed at their patience and have rarely seen abrupt answers.
The reasoning behind the FAQs was twofold really -
One, to enable those of us on here a lot to direct others to the answers with just a quick intro or answer to a specific query, and
Second, for all members (old and new) to maybe have a look through them initially to see if their questions had already been addressed....but obviously if they hadn’t, then to raise a post.
We never mind addressing the same issue again, there’s very often something new to add, but sometimes- say you say, especially with whole COVID scenario - you can get the same question two or three times a day.
I hope people use it but as you say if the answer is there at least you can direct people to it! You are all truly patient helping people repeatedly on the same subject but I think this way people who need specific help or have an unusual question can receive more help as your tone is freed up a bit! Thanks for all you do, the pandemic has greatly increased the daily number of questions I feel! S x
I think a lot of it is the impossibility for many to get any contact with even their GP ... And there have been three and a half thousand new members since xmas 2019!
We're hoping it isn't just us using the FAQs but that YOU and everyone else will tell newer people where they are 
Wow! Lot of new members, increase in PMR, or??? Who knows. I thought the daily number of posts had increased a bit! But at least you can refer to them now and direct people to them if it’s an answer needed that’s in the FAQ’s! S x
A lot appeared during Covid this time last year - lack of access to the GP sent them to Dr Google maybe?
Yes, possibly, but I think a lot of people are not wanting to bother their doctor with questions right now because they have so much else to do with the never ending pandemic.
So they come here to ask. But they seem also not to be bothering them with real illness questions either - my daughter in A&E says it is constantly manic and a lot are things the GP hasn't seen and so they have become acute and serious.
We have also had a spate of people joining, asking a question then leaving & then coming up as ‘Hidden’ as l pointed out a couple of weeks ago.
PMRpro reads Every Post and Comment; DorsetLady is not very far behind her.
One of the Reasons we went with FAQ’s was it means we can give a quick answer so not as much time is spent only for someone to disappear!.....
I don’t Moderate anymore but l read all Posts that are in ‘My Field’ & answer when/where l can help.
Thanks Pixix for all your input and your Support too 🙏🏼 if everyone can Read/Push & Share FAQ’s it would help Everyone.
I’m up to my knees in Mud even Supervising & being Director of Operations is Muddy Work in this weather!
Back To It! 😉
I totally know what Uglow means by especially 1 person being very rude... has made me want to not visit this site... but for the most part everyone is great😊I had wondered if anyone else saw this... now I know I m not alone.
We get this occasionally but as there are thousands of sufferers on here there are bound to be people who speak more forcibly than others.
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