Not managing emotions and tantrums

[Purplemango]

Hello, my daughter is 9, soon to be 10 years old. She has outbursts and toddler style tantrums. She doesn’t care where she is or who is watching. We went on a family day out recently and she had about 4/5 tantrums over things such as her brother won’t play with her, she screams and shouts, throws things around, stamps and cry’s. I find it so embarrassing and I don’t know what to do. I dread taking them all out for fear of her doing this. She did it at a birthday party when she couldnt sit where she wanted to as her brother was sat there. I had to remove her from the room. She squirms and wriggles around if she gets agitated. She can’t simply say what’s wrong she always shouts or screams. She doesn’t do this at school, or when out with other people. She is ok when it’s just me and her but as a family she will create over anything. I talk to her, remain calm and hug her tight, she will apologise later but will do it again and again. This has been ongoing since about 4 years old. She used to come out of school in reception and throw her book bag and water bottle straight at me, she refuses to get dressed, refuses to walk sometimes, refuses to brush her hair or wash her face and doesn’t care. She more often than not talks in a baby voice and doesn’t pronounce her words correctly (through choice not the fact she can’t) . I think she’s quite immature for her age in general. I really don’t know where to turn.

[Cookie2017]

I would seek advice from your GP,. I had something similar when my girl was 9 and the GP put it down to puberty but if you've had these problems from age 4 it may be something that needs addressing earlier rather than later. 4 years on from what I went through then, I now have a 13 year old who has recently started self harming. So I would definitely seek advice early. Good luck

[Purplemango in reply to Cookie2017]

Thank you for the advice. I think I will contact the GP. I hope your daughter is ok and getting the support she needs.

[RachelModerator Moderator]

Hello Purplemango ,

Sorry to hear you have all been struggling for so long.

I think as mentioned by Cookie2017 , seeing the GP would be a good starting point.

Have school mentioned that she displays any of these type of behaviours at school?

Thanks Rachel

[Purplemango in reply to RachelModerator]

At school she is well academically, she does struggle with leaving me in the mornings and the teacher says she is quite immature. I spoke to the sendco on Friday, they are going to arrange nurture for her and will observe her more closely in school. Thank you for your reply.