Sorry this is a rant! What is it about babies that turns perfectly nice people into the most frustrating person on the
planet! My OHs gran has been the most fantastic help throughout pregnancy and in some ways since. In fact we couldn't have managed at some points without her, but biting my tongue is becoming very very hard!
My OH had said even before we went to hosp for labour 'do not let her know there can be 2 birth partners or she'll be trying to come in' as she was most likely going to be the person taking us. We didn't really have a choice as she'd moved next door, but in fairness was helpful and we weren't seeing anymore of her than normal so I wasn't to worried. I mean she stayed til was all over in the waiting room, took OH home and that's when started!
He was fuming when got to hosp following day but didn't say why, shook it off and spent the day getting to know his son. I was then asked if wanted to be moved onto ward as was supposed to stay another night and I asked if could go home. after some time the doctor said ok. OH rang his gran as she'd been insistent she was picking us up, he'd forgotten the car seat but his (her husband but they live separately) granda had a spare key it was just by the door to pick up. 3 hours later no sign. He rang again and they were sat in ours waiting to be told when to come. Have to say he is very calm ordinarily so was a surprise to me to see him so mad. Turned out in the morn she'd been bossing him about, telling him what to do hence why he'd forgotten the seat. Finally they arrived, and had the scariest journey home ever. Turns out she can barely see to drive in the dark and trust it to be a wet and windy night. Anyway got home hadn't had anything to eat so OHs aunty ran him out to get some food as she'd brought us up a nappy bin, and I could see they'd been in 'tidying' and when I saw the amount of gifts had already I'd made a comment about my OH as he'd been determined not to let John be spoilt, never thought anything of it until I'd picked John up when he'd cried and she'd made a nasty comment about that being spoiling. Thought it was out of character, we're all tired, so ignored. Since then though has been constant snide comments or advice.
My OHs mum has been good at keeping her in check, but she works away and so lately been left to deal with alone. So this the list - we only contact her when we want something (I've only had chance to invite her once) If we don't ask her she sulks. We don't let her see him - because one day (just one) our buzzer broke and so we didn't hear it, she didn't think to phone! She should have been allowed to be second birth partner - I would have punched her, I know I would, and I'm not a violent person in any way. We don't use the clothes she gave us. we've been given so many I wouldn't know who gave us what but turned out was because we weren't using a snow suit (which would have been to big anyway) that she hadn't bought just thought she did. The latest is what are we getting him for xmas, she wants to buy a travel system when we already have one! Told her not to and that's us pushing away, and every time she sees him. Its always 'oh he has a sore belly, he has colic' 'when are you going to start feeding him food' he's 10 weeks old for goodness sake. And he doesn't like her. I don't know why, but he just doesn't. So mean but after her comments over Christmas and again about feeding him yest was so tempted to tell her that and then she'd really be in the huff. Anyways just wanted a moan, shes going to super sulk when knows we are going away for xmas after all x