How do you cope with the coming Season? - Mental Health Sup...
How do you cope with the coming Season?
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To me at my age. Christmas is the same as any other day. Usually on Christmas day and New year`s eve,and new year`s day I spend it with my partner and a very dear friend of mine. as It`s my friend`s birthday on 31st. December, we may go to a pub.
I flit between being happy and then being sad and then it seems to evoke more sadness because everyone else seems so happy in the Xmas spirit.
put on a face/hid my feelings
A lot of bad memories i try to keep them locked away and keep amongst others
I know how you all feel, but it's good to be able to share the feelings not
Sorry
Sorry ,typing error that should have said share your feelings now
Instead of just bottling them up to ferment into something worse
Here I thought I was the only person who got more depressed around Christmas time. I think it's partially because my family is about 130 miles away since we moved 4 years ago. But it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who gets more depressed around this time of the year.
Good to talk, my wife doesn't know that I'm on this site, I wouldn't want to depress her and she would be more concerned about internet security
My kids dont know i come on either and hope they never see my posts they worry about me now without them reading these posts xxx
It's really for the people who have 6 children, 25 grandchildren, 1 great-grand one on the way and a huge old fashioned house just like in the movies. (This being slight sarcasm)
Personally I wish it would go away. That said I have adult children and grandchildren and need to be present for them. I don't like the whole thing of finding gifts and the stress involved, but it's not always about me. Personally I just wish it was like Thanksgiving and a family get together without all the presents and hassle.
I agree with every comment. It's overwhelming and so materialistic. So much greed. I loved it as a kid. I'm 58 now and it's not the same! Ba humbug!
I have been so stressed because i don't have the cash for Christmas so was glad when my sister said not to get adults this year apart from my dad that took some of the strain out of it but i couldn't spend as much on my kids this year either which i hate. I have spent the past 2 years recovering from major brain surgery to remove tumours and also pancreatitis which i got due to steroids i was given i have decided to leave my house this year to go to my nieces as she has 3 young kids I don't know how much i will enjoy Christmas but i am going to try I also suffer from Dysthymia a chronic depressive mood disorder every day is doom and gloom and I don't venture out of my home very often so i hope this year will be good. to everyone who has illnesses like myself i wish you all a very merry christmas and happy new year xxx
I didn't mean I like your comment, just that I understand it. Let's do what we can. I have a 🐶 dog, everyone in my family is elsewhere.
Bless you, I hope Christmas works out good for you and your family
Hate it, alienated from my two beautiful grandaughters
This year other two little grandsons are off abroad with their mum + dad and widowed Nanny. So Bah Humbug to it all, have tried and tried. Get anxiety beforehand and have had some rough Christmases . Just want to hide but can't cuz of other half.
I don't want to but it's for the best I guess
I suffer so badly with Seasonal affective disorder, I have a wide spectrum bulb, but I can afford to buy a wake up one, and I cant sleep at night and sleep till midday having only a couple of hours of day light, half my darn life is gone!! If I get up too early I feel faint and dont feel well at all.
So christmas, well, I feel miserable like this, and stay in a lot, my family getting on with their own lives, and the boyfriend is horrid, I would rather stay alone, christmas just reminds me of how horrid my own family was, feel so alone, without family to be proud of. I would often here people cheering and just wished I could have some, just a little of that. Even new year, hurts too,,, because the same reason, no one really cares.
I am so sorry you feel this way. I don't have any advice because I suffer in different ways but why is your boyfriend horrible??
My daughters boy friends, she always chooses psychopaths, this one likes to play mind and power games, he is the one whos horrible, he stole 7,000 out of her business account and was going to do a runner, and he has a tracer on her phone and everyones , and he could see she was at the police station, she was beside herself hyperventalting ect,,,
I just had a feeling and went in a different car than I usually drive and chased him, and said to him we have you on tape you fcker, we got you know!! he went back and put the money back in,,, she threw him out, and the next thing hes living back there again,,, so no I wont be going there for christmas , I would rather , as live in a box.
Everyone hates him except my son, as usually he finds goodness in the devil. and is close friends with him. he no longer talks with me. But he was friends with her other bloke, who raped her, drove over 20 people while on drugs, went to prison, blar blar blar,,, the one before that one tried to kill her and her baby M &M style.
So when ohhhh when is she going to wake up and decide to get some therapy on her self, and stop blaming me. They say shes got dual personality disorder!!!!
So yes spending christmas Alone!
Xmas for me is just another day,i just see it as a day off work,as ill be in work the next day,that "xmas feeling" you have when your a kid,for me that died a long time ago,i still buy stuff for other people,but don't expect nothing in return,because there is nothing i can't get my self or don't already have anyway.
So it's just like any other day,if my mood is good on the day then it's good on the day,if it's crap on the day it's crap on the day,if it's normal on the day then it is normal on the day.
Bless you,,, if your meds are not giving you the wonderful feeling at all, maybe your body is used to them, and time for a change. When you do,,, wow this is the first time I have seen the wonderful colours of the trees in reds to oranges to deep reds, stunning. and I treated myself to a bottle, of sparkly stuff and watched the fireworks as pissed as a rat but enjoyed myself.
I dont take any medication, i have avoided the Drs for years so never been diagnosed any mental health issues.
I have just grimmed and bared it since 14 im 28 now and still here, im either up or down sometimes ok, dont think it would feel right my moods not being on a roller coaster.
My sibs spend most holidays with their grandkids and my mother is dead. Christmas is like any other day. I don't feel particularly badly. Just my dog 🐶 and me, it's ok.
Also, I don't have children, a husband, or any other kind of partner. Alone, I suppose, but no unwelcome feelings from other people.
Thank you for sharing , it helps to lighten the load , my wife says I'm much better today she knows now that i am unable to recognise my own mood or when i am abrupt or sharp .... Thank you so much