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How many days a month do you suffer depression approximately.

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I constantly feel depressed and I just want to feel happy!

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Evelynarnold

Hi I feel like that some times I don't want to get up because I feel know better I am on diazepam for anxiety attacks and I don't have any one near all my cousins live else where and my friends backed of so I have know backup

Evelynarnold
Evelynarnold
in reply to Hidden

I'm so sorry! And truely understand as we all need support! If we lived near each other we could get together and fight it. Message me anytime as I need to relate my feelings and not feel so alone with it. Talking helps and keeping busy! I'm so sorry your friends aren't supporting you. It takes all my energy and I just want to hide from life. You have friends on here who understand.

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Hidden
in reply to Evelynarnold

Thanks for that most appreciated where do you live we could keep in contact to see how we are both doing it would be nice to just have someone there thanks

mlow67
mlow67
in reply to Hidden

I know that feeling love, I am in the same position as you, no friends and I spend my life in bed. I just can't shake this off.

sara10kids
sara10kids
in reply to mlow67

I feel scared to show love I want a friend who understand me just for me,I can't talk to people as I've got this paranoid delusional that they think I'm a freck

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I am the same cry all the time

Difficult really, as sometimes just feeling fed up or a bit down can be put down to ongoing depression. The line between the two becomes blurred.

Yes you are so right, do you some time feel sad for no reason, not depressed,

Every morning I sob my heart out. Gets bit better as day wears on. No time limit--constant.

?need to define depression for this

I wish I remember what the old bubbly chatty me was like as I've been suffering with PND for the past 13 almost 14 years now and I cannot remember what the old chatty bubbly me was like now.

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Used to constantly but now just odd days here and there.

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All the time because i suffer from alot of pain from my illness. i think i probably have had depression all my life. I dont have friends nearby and family is near but not that supportive feel like i have to get on with it.

Sometimes it's hard to get on with it!! So many people suffer with this? I hide it from people which is so tiring!!

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it is i end up hiding it and say i am alright most the time.

Does n't work like that. Since age 35 (and probably earlier) I have spent periods of a solid six months or so of depression followed by say roughly 18 months when I am not depressed. Since being diagnosed with bipolar 2 about 6/7 years ago at age 66 I assume the 18 months I do not have depression consists of part hypomania and part normal moods. My normal is pretty outgoing so I can't really split the hypomanic periods from the normal periods. They both feel pretty good. Never had a manic period.

For career reasons I never told anyone I suffered depression ,just my wife and doctors knew. Hiding it is very tiring at times but on balance if one can do this I believe it is worth doing although the ethics of this are very complicated.

Olderal

Blueshirt
Blueshirt
in reply to Olderal

Me too

Can't help myself at all

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Hidden

It is horrible I have both aniexty/depressiom

SweetieLove
SweetieLove
in reply to Hidden

Yea same here. It's soul destroying just want my life back feel trapped in another person's body mind and soul as it's also contributed to me gaining loads of weight

I can so relate to this. I have gained 3 and a half stone since not working and not being able to be as active as i used to be. I have used food as a comforter, and alot of the time, boredom aswell. On tuesday of this week, i decided enough was enough, and started eating more healthily. Eating more fruit and veg and totally cutting out chocolate, sweets, cakes, the list goes on.

how are you doing these days

Every day, it's so hard to carry on with depression, I constantly battle with it, I often just want out x

So do I

That's exactly how I feel I just want it to stop. I'm constantly depressed 😢 in the house all day every day as I suffer with anxiey and self-hate. What is happening to me

me too, how are you going these days

I suffer with depression and anxiety. I haven't been too bad in the last week. I have to have things to look forward to and people around me. If i am on my own alot of the time, which most days i am, i have to much time to dwell on things, which drives me crazy! I had to give up my job because of health issues and don't really get out of the house much, as i have limited mobility. I went from a very active person, to hardly being able to do alot. I felt as if i was being punished for something. Now i just have to accept the fact that i am always going to have health issues and just live with it.

This is me to and I just can't take anymore. None of the antidepressants are working. I hate myself so much

I had a really bad night on Tuesday, I have a sheet listing all the positive things I have done, it helps to ground me, as I can read it over, I also have one that lists my safe things, these may sound strange but again it's a safety net, one is cuddling into a blanket, another is doing art, I am trying to push my limits out further but the anxiety takes over, we are all on here for the same reason, to help one another x

how are you doing these days

I am the same as I was, I am paying for a counsellor, it's hard but she is helping me to work though things.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all!

I only feel depressed for parts of some days in a month. I keep busy and turn to God as needed. He's always there. I have good family support and I give of my time to others including a nursing home and my parents. I don't wait for others to come to me, I reach out to others. This is an important step that some people don't take. You can't isolate yourself and then wonder why you feel alone and lonely and depressed. I push myself to get things done and reach out to others. I do understand that there are some extremely depressed people who can't push themselves to do anything at all. Hopefully they are in good hands and trying out effective medications plus good counseling (CBT).

Trying to reach out to others, instead of one isolating themself, for most people is very difficult. I suffer with chronic pain on a daily basis, this is why i suffer with anxiety and depression, and am not always able to leave my house, so alot of the time i have to wait for my family to come to me. I had never suffered with depression until i had health issues. I have read quite a few posts on here, where people suffer with chronic pain and how they struggle on a daily basis, myself included. I would give anything to be able to keep myself busy, instead of the life i have to live now, due to constant pain. I had to give up my job because of my health issues, which i could not deal with, as i have always worked. This itself was the start of my depression. I was reluctant to take any medication for this, as i was 41 years old, and would not believe that i was suffering with depression. How could i be? I had always been ok, but when it hit me it hit me in a very big way, and there wasn't any way out of this black hole, no matter how hard i tried, it was always there. I am still taking medication, aswell as all the painkillers i have to take. I am 45 now. I try to think positive alot of the time but it is difficult most days.

I understand how your situation can be depressing and cause anxiety. I, too, had many years of tremendous pain but I kept on going and going despite the pain. I would push myself to keep going because I wouldn't accept being limited by the pain, even though the pain DID force SOME limits on me. I couldn't work anymore, just like you. After years of pain and meds and massage therapy to help with it I slowed my life down quite a bit and after many months found I was in less pain. I accepted a less than perfect home and life and found time to chill and the pain lessened and I liked my new existence. I now live my new less-than-perfect existence with much less pain and less meds...something I never dreamed could be possible. My husband passed away and the tremendous stress he caused me is gone. I'm now in a place of drastically reduced stress that I never could have imagined. I've discontinued several drugs and reduced others. If you told me this was possible 2 years ago, I would have told you that you were crazy and just didn't understand my health problems.

I'm sorry that your pain doesn't allow you to keep busy and you aren't free to work and do things you want to do. That surely is very frustrating, a very limited existence. I hope there's a change coming soon for you, that you catch a break soon, maybe something like I did, where your health improves and you are much happier and healthier.

Sorry to hear about your husband passing I use to push myself aswell, If my pain levels weren't as bad on certain days, i would try to do too much in one day. Which in the end didn't do me any favours, as i then would be unable to do things for many days. Even the clinic i attended, told me i was doing too much and just to do a little everyday. I get very frustrated and unfortunately i will have my health problems for the rest of my life. So i can't even see a way of reducing my painkillers. If i do too little or too much, i have constant pain. It is good that you have been able to reduce your medication. i wish i could but it just seems impossible. I have quite a few health issues, it might make things a bit easier if i only had the one to cope with. I try to stay positive and keep thinking things will get better, but it is so exhausting.

I hear you. I have many different issues, too. They will be with me all of my life, but still some have responded well to less activity that specifically aggravates them. My fibromyalgia is a good example of this. I can't do repetitive tasks for long and must alternate arms or hands or legs...whatever takes the strain off of my dominant arm/hand, etc. I write with both hands and use my computer mouse with both hands, etc. I have to rest my arms when styling my hair and other common tasks or I will pay a dear price for days. There are many activities I have to stop and take regular breaks from if I don't want to be in pain for days. I can be in the middle of multiple tasks around the house that I'm taking breaks from and rotating from one task to the other and all are spread out around the house and in the process of being done. Sometimes I have a deadline and simply have to put up with the pain to get the job done. And that's just one disorder among about 9 other disorder/diseases.

I've cut my anti-anxiety medicine in half and my anxiety disorder is a lifelong one. I never knew I would be able to reduce the meds so drastically. I found myself dropping off to sleep while sitting up and started cutting back on this med a little at a time until I arrived at this half dose with no falling asleep while sitting up. This is near miraculous for me. My dose hasn't ever been this low since I started on this med 26 years ago. TWENTY SIX YEARS! This is a phenomenal change! So there is hope for anybody if this can happen to me.

Now may not be the time for you to be able to make changes, but the opportunity may happen sometime in your future. You may be surprised like I was. So I just encourage you to keep an open mind for the possibility of a change in your circumstances in the future.

Wow 26 years is a long time! I am pleased you have been able to do this, i hope one day it will be possible for me. It helps me reading other peoples posts on this forum, i haven't been on here that long, but have realised recently i have got to try and stop feeling so sorry for myself, which i am working on. I have got a bit more of a positive outlook recently, which some days is hard, but hopefully i will get there, I have to. Thankyou for taking the time to reply, take care

when im up im up. but doesn't last long . then i feel like i have steeped of a cliff .

iv had 4 hart attacks. and 3 strokes and also need new hips .and they wont do because of my hart troubles. and on top of the government thinking im scum as disabled and a scrounger of the state. some days i just feel like walking in to the sea and end it.

BonnieSue
BonnieSue
in reply to docbrown

Who cares what the gov't. thinks? You aren't a scrounger because you are on disability. Look at your health history: heart attacks and strokes and bad hips!! You BELONG on disability. And it doesn't pay all that much anyway. It's just a bit of help.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Why not go easy on yourself after all those incidents of health problems and take it easy so you don't have any more heart attacks or strokes? You may not want to walk into the sea if you go easy on yourself and quit being so hard on yourself. Be gentle with yourself. You've had some tough breaks and deserve to take things easy from now on. Take care.

I have recovered a lot this year; but nevertheless feel depressed most days at some stage if not throughout. So I guess proportionately about 3 weeks out of a month I am depressed. The counselling helped; but I've had my 8 sessions so kinda not moving anywhere now. Just hope it doesn't get worse. Pretty much every morning I still wish I hadn't woken up. I lie in bed and think I could just drift off and never wake up. I feel I've had my time and that there's nothing much left. Had my chances and I wasted them. My fault. But probably time to go.

It's continuous I get no ease. All I want is to feel happy and normal

me too, how are you doing these days

I was on a 10/11 month high, working out eating healthy, got a new job, became very out going, even tried new things such as bushcraft, brazilian jiu jitsu and kickboxing.

But just before christmas hit a brick wall mentally and everything has felt like a a mixture of high,low,normal,mixed,num one week or one day down the next ok one week down the nxt two or three days fine then the odd days wherei just dont feel anything

Just plain ol sucks,when you dont want to come across as mean cold hearted or anything to family members but just cant control how you feel i suppose.

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I have lived with depression so long I don't know what's normal anymore. What makes me feel worse is the feeling that now I am 62 and have outlived my usefulness to society I am ignored and discarded like a piece of rubbish. No pension for another 3 years due to the changes, very little money, and turned down for NHS counselling. I have no support, nothing. The world has now turned it's back on me.

I am trying to teach myself not to care anymore x

BonnieSue
BonnieSue
in reply to Hidden

At 62 you have a lot to give to the world. You have life experience and knowledge gained only by having lived through many different experiences and highs and lows that life brings. Add to that your work experience and people knowledge that you've picked up along your life journey. I know the workplace can be cruel in not recognizing these things because a younger employee can be hired for less money than an older, more experienced and knowledgeable employee. The almighty dollar is put before the quality of the employee.

Can you reapply for counseling? Could it be that they try to make it hard to get and you have to apply a few times before you get it? You can try to not care, but in your heart you will always care so that's doomed to fail. Why not recognize that the policies and attitude of many workplaces and the gov't. just stink?? It's not you that is messed up, it's THEM. And you are getting hurt as a result of their 'stinking thinking' and policies. You and a whole lot of other people.

Why not stay connected here and any other places you can talk to those of us who recognize that the problem is in society's attitude toward older people and younger, cheap labor and all related subjects? Let us be a support system for you. I'm sorry to hear that you are falling in the cracks between a job and your pension. Is there some job that you can do just as filler between now and your pension start date? Maybe outside your field but just to keep income coming in? Can you take an early retirement? I'm sure you've thought all of these things through. I'm just trying to stir up some ideas for you because you may have a good idea for yourself that you haven't thought much about yet. Sometimes we have the answer in our brain but we haven't let it come to our full attention.

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HiddenAmbassador

Thank you Sue. I wasn't really expecting a reply - was just venting I guess. I live by the seaside and with copd (moderate), depression and a chronic bad back there is very little I can do round my area now. I have always worked in admin but for every job here there are 100's of applicants and I am not joking. On the odd occasions I do get an interview the employer always says they have been inundated with replies.

I am doing voluntary work in a charity shop and am hoping to get a paid deputy's job for 2 days a week in the future. Who knows? I don't like where I live - no correction, I do like it coz it's pretty but I don't like the people much. I am thinking of moving away but as I am on my own I am not sure I have the get up and go to start again somewhere else.

Meanwhile due to my death wish I am busy smoking more than ever hoping to end my existence that way. Not so bluntly as that but that is behind it I think.

I don't really see a future for me anywhere.

I hope you are ok love. Bev xx

BonnieSue
BonnieSue
in reply to Hidden

I'm sorry to hear about the amount of competition for jobs that you must compete for. I do hope you get paid the 2 days a week very soon or find the resources from both outside and within yourself to start over somewhere else that's better for you. I hate to hear you are smoking so much. What if you get a good break a few months from now and regret that you've caused more damage from the smoking?

Yes, I'm okay even though I'm only 5 months out from losing my husband. It's a struggle but I get up and keep doing what I must and trust in the Lord for my future and present. There are always challenges but I'm grateful for what I have and the support that I have. I could wish more support was available for you. You don't sound like you have any. I'm hoping and praying for the best for you. Take care.

Sue

Hidden
HiddenAmbassador
in reply to BonnieSue

Oh Sue I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband and here I am banging on about myself, how selfish is that?

Thank you for finding the time to care about me and my issues, I am humbled by your kindness and support. Always here for you if you want to talk at all. Love Bev xx

BonnieSue
BonnieSue
in reply to Hidden

Thank you for caring! So nice of you to be available if I need to talk. I am very tired and frustrated with my adult son living at home. I could use your prayers regarding that if you are a praying person.

I think your situation is very tough and I only mentioned my husband because you said you hoped I was ok. I am ok, just trying to live one day at a time.

We both have some tough challenges to live with is what I'm trying to say. I never know what's around the next corner...sometimes it's a new tough problem and sometimes it's a good surprise. I hate to see you write off your life and future as if nothing good can possibly come your way. Could you be clinically depressed? Have you talked to a Dr. about this? You don't have to tell me any answers, this is just food for thought for you.

Hugs from me,

Sue

I'm 55 now and have suffered with depression and anxiety since I was 24. I just want to give up now, I'm so fed up feeling like this all the time and frequently have suicidal thoughts. I don't get the support I feel I need due to all the cutbacks.

zerendipity
zerendipity
in reply to Offjut

Hi! I was going through similar emotions, feeling hopeless and questiong the reason for my existence. My depressive episodes just kept coming back and every time it has been harder. I have now met with a therapist who explained that long term proper treatment is so important in order to improve. Unfortunately the way most healthcare systems work is "patient in, patient out and as fast as possible". Which doesn't really work with depression.

Are you seeing a doctor? Are you on any medication?

McLaughlin
McLaughlin
in reply to Offjut

I know how you feel and I empathize. My depression started at about 27, I'm 60 now. I've been suicidal many times because I just can't wake up feeling depressed another day. I have severe anxiety disorder. Treated with multiple antidepressants and anxiety medications. At 52 they gave me a diagnosis of Bipolar disorder. Sooooo multiple meds for that! I try everyday. It is so frustrating and has so much control over my life! I hate it and don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. I keep trying for the people who love me. I've been through the aftermath of a suicide and wouldn't put my family through it. Talk to your doctor. I know sometimes that doesn't really help either. Hang in there! Check with a social worker for what's available in your community.

Every day and night

It doesn't stop

Thought i would bump this to the top as its a very good question, and might so people their not so unusual.

Honestly, how often do i feel depressed every month?

Every day, all my life, 44 years, lol, still kicking despite it!

varies. Last few months every day.

Everyday. Sometimes a good week here and there