27th November 2020
I went to go pay a visit to my brother to day to have check on how he is doning he was not well at all he was shaking he had no breakfast he told me he was feeling light headed now because my brother has learning disabilities he can't pick the phone and ring the doctor's and say doctor can you make me an appointment i am not feeling well has i say he has learning disabilities he has not seen a doctor face to face for i am suggesting for 4 years now when i ring the doctor's for him they tell me my brother has to do it for his self has it is data protection now my brother would not have a clue and where to start about how to ring the doctor's now he is on medication i would like to know how this has been proscribed with out my brother seeing a the doctor face to face has everyone his telling me it is data protection so who is making these decisions for my brother it want be my brother and it certainly not his family we need answers to get to the bottom of this situation someone has put us in now on to the day i visited my brother Antony his flat was in a mess no cleaning had been done by my brother and no supervision was there for him his support worker turns up at any time he feels like that day it was about 10.45 that morning where no supervision was there for my brother to be supervised to do his daily routine which is you know showering making sure he has a wash and put his clean clothes on and to do his breakfast and to make sure he uas had a balanced breakfast because my brother dose not think of these things for his self he has mental health issues where it blocks his brain from living a normal life has possible so i keep telling everyone who is involved with my brothers care and no body is seeing this any way back to that day now i went to go and speak to mandy in the office and put my concerns to her and she told me he was out of it the day before they could not do a thing with him he was not listening to them at all and he was tripping up the stairs because my brother needs someone to be in control of him to tell him what he can do and can't do he needs this in is life because giving him freedom of his own life is just causing him more arm then good because my brother has not got control on how living a day to day independent life works and why nobody is seeing this is beyond me the way things are going here i can for see my brother will just not be with us anything more this is very heartbreaking to see what is happening and the people who suppose to care for my brother is just letting this happen it is tho they want something to happen to him and that will be another of there care list not good at all when they to can see what is happening and will not back me up i don't know what they are scared of because i am trying all ways to have the voice for my brother and nobody is listening to me any way this day i rang the safeguarding team agin and told them what had happened they told me to ring social care and again still nobody is listening to me i had someone come and talk to me that day she come up to his flat and she could see what i was talking about and still nothing is beeing done they are not caregivers to me they are zoo keepers because this is how they are treating my brother like a animal and the are really neglecting him and my brother his self neglecting because my brother needs guidance in all aspects of his life because he can't do this for his self this place they have put him in no good for my brother needs i am sorry to say they have turned my brother in to a alcoholic because my brother dose not understand that drinking alcohol is not good for his health he asked me why he was shaking and why do i feel lightheaded i told him you are a alcoholic and your body is craving more achol and he doesn't understand what this ment bless him he was just asking to have more achol that day i can't say to him you need help you are not well at all he thinks that drinking achol is good for him he doesn't understand it is bad for him bless him i can't say to him you need help because his mental illness has blocked him thing about his normal needs for living his life as independent as possible he needs i am sorry to say a guardianship were someone else has to think for him and to take control of all aspects of my brothers life because making independent and letting him do it for his self it is not working for both me and mom and my brother it is bring very stressful times for all of us because my brother is not getting the right care for his needs now i would love to have him live with me where i could care for him and know he is being cared for by me but i can't has he has aggressive behaviour and he is very unpredictable and starts to throw things he has at hand now i have grandkids who visit me i would never forgive my self if my brother throw something and it hit one of them because my brother. when my brother has one of his outburst and goes into one of these out bust there is no reasoning with him has you can see without achol he can be aggressive and now he has achol he is ten times worse and they can see this where he is living because i have been through when he has add achol and the aggression that day was like nothing i seen before now his support worker was there to and seen all of this and he just walked away and left me to try and calm him down on that day they don't now how to control my brother they have not got the right training to care for someone like my brother they are leaving him to his own decisions has they know he his unpredictable and they are scared of him this is not good on all there parts to me i can't be there 24 hours a day i have to look after my mom with her needs has she is house bound i can't ask my brother for help with my mom and ask him to pop down and see if she needs anything he can't do that because of his mental illness and also i am looking after my 95 year old mother inlaw has she needs a lot of care has she has got dementia and she can't do anything now for herself but i have got a care plan in place to help me with her now with all this going on i need a lot more help with my brother i have tried to get a care plan set up for my brother and i can't get anywhere because they say he has his own mind and should be able to care for him self sorry not going to happen with my brother and never will he is in this until the day he dies sorry to be so blunt but this is true and if nothing gets done to help my brother it will be sooner rather than later my brother needs someone in authority to take control over my brother's life and to keep him on the right track has at this moment in time we all seem to be in a deep dark place where there seems to be now way out i am sure this is not right to have been put in this situation authority to me have no heart at all doing this to people's lives they are playing devil's advocate what gives them the rights to do this there is a lot of heart ach in the world at this time and everyone is supposed to help each other sorry but i am getting no help from nobody this is so sad we have to be treated like this shame on who ever is calling all the shots here me and my moms Christmas present would knowing my brother is getting the right care for him and i hope it is not seeing him at Christmas because he was let down by all the care he should have been getting and this is the truth of this matter i do not want my brother to be another number to add to the covid19 list if anything dose happen to him it won't be saying covid19 it will be saying another one social services have let down because they had no duty of care at all for my brother because they all think about wealth befor health wont look good in the press will it i will get this story out to the press and i will make sure all the care that should have bee put in place for my brother will be named and shamed for how they are treating my brother and his family i hope this hepls and gives you an insight has to what we would like done for our relative my mom gave birth to my brother she should have the right to make decisions in my brother's life after all she had to go through all of this when he was younger now if a mom can't speak for her own son and no one is listening to a moms journey with here son many years ago and that my mom was told my brother will never be able to cope at being independent there is something wrong with the way the law is looking at this situation and there is a lot more people out there in the same situation has we are there relative are to being let down because no one is listening i am sorry but the law needs to safeguard all vulnerable individuals and to put the right checks in place and make sure the these vulnerable adults don't end up slipping though the net just like it seems my brother has has the has been now assessment done right for my brother and where there should have been a family member in formed and been at these assessment with my brother they have just taken advantage of my brother because he can't stand up for himself he should have had the rights to have a family member there with him because you know if our selfs had to have appointment with any one you have a friend or family member there to support you my brother nevere had this choice has his family have been kept in the dark the last four years not looking good is it someone with my brothers mental health should always have support of his family at all times and someone has taken this away from my brother and i would like to know who because who ever it is says to them you can't have no family member to support you if you need any medical assistance you have to do this for yourself and they say to you no family or friends can be with you for support what would they say so someone like who needs all the support form family and friends to be denied the opportunity to have support by his family and friends have not got any heart at all shame on them and this is immoral to do this to a human being this is just braking the law and everyone is entitled to have support at all what life has put down to be your destiny in life and all the obstacles that gets thrown at you it just so happens my brother was born with these mental health problems but he is still very much loved and to see him going through this difficult time in his life and someone is saying he can't have any support from his family really is braking my moms heart and my heart to i really need someone to pay for what is happening to Antony and his family but this will come later has at this moment in time we need Antony in a more safe environment and they have just taken advantage of my brothers mental illness and i am sure there is a law against this. me and my mom need all this to come to an end before something happens to happens to Antony we want all this to in the best interest for Antony and not go the other way were we fighting for justice for his death sorry to be so blunt this is the worst case scenario i do not hope it comes to this has we need Antony in a more safe place for his own safty and his health i do hope something can be done soon many thanks from Antony's heart broken family please dont let it get to the point were we are planing something else i am sure you know what i mean i don't have to spell this out for you thank you so much i hope you have the time to read this i have put together for you many thanks
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