When do you find love

[Jamesi87]

Being hiv feels so lonely at times when do you actually find that special guy. Miss the hugs and have a gen boyfriend x

[Griffon]

Relationships are difficult for everybody - look around you , how many really happy long term couples do you know ?

Gay relationships are even harder .

[pauldecle Partner ForumLink]

I have to agree with Griffin - relationships are hard regardless of your HIV status. But they are possible. I met my, now husband, 27years ago.

I was foot lose and fancy free and definitely not looking for a boyfriend. I had recently come out of what turned into an abusive relationship of seven years and still trying to find my feet again. It was Gay Pride and I was there for a good time. Then, out of the blue, I met the man I would fall in love with and want to stay with for the rest of my life.

Years later we both contracted HIV and it has never bothered us who got it first but rather a journey we are taking together. That journey has gone from being a terminal illness to a chronic condition, we have had good times and bad, we have been sad and happy, we have found tremendous strength in out partnership.

Look at some of the previous posts about telling dates about HIV. Being upfront about it can really help sort the 'Wheat from the Chaff'.

If a guy is going to freak out about your status do you really want to be with him? One of the reasons I have been with my husband for so long is that we truly respect each other and each of us is as valuable as the other both in, and for, the relationship. As Griffon said, "Relationships are difficult for everybody" don't waste your time on someone who is not going to value you as an equal partner, warts and all.

Lots of love, and hugs

Paul

[Hidden]

Depends on the type of relationship you want. I don't think it's hard to find someone willing to be in an open relationship, which I have never understood. Finding monogamy just seems impossible these days. It can get very depressing. The most important thing to work on is the relationship you have with yourself. I know, there will still be loneliness, but hopefully you will feel it less. I hope you meet the type of guy you want and that you have the type of relationship you want.

[Jamesi87 in reply to Hidden]

Awww thanks. Think I was just abit upset last night as I had a drink lol x

[Hidden in reply to Jamesi87]

Drink or no drink....Don't be embarrased to be REAL! Vulnerability and admitting loneliness seems to be frowned upon or looked at as needy. I admire your post and will freely admit to finding my life and love life increased in loneliness. We should state these things so we spend more time supportimg eachother and acknowledging certain realities that people don't want to discuss.

[Jamesi87 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah absoulety x

[Newby70]

I would love a relationship / bf

[Davidthomas06]

I'm waving from the other end of the boat.

[Chrissuffolk]

Inbox me

[Jamesi87 in reply to Chrissuffolk]

Hey hey