Anyone find that own company feels better,no one to speak too or have to converse with?

[Rockyblue238]

Being alone

[cat3]

Definitely Rocky ! I'm really sociable and like to pass the time of day with neighbours and passers by, but I start to panic if visitors or phone callers talk for too long. My brain can't cope with processing long detailed stories or being 'talked at' and when the restlessness and panic set in I usually become impatient and offhand.

It's an uncontrollable issue, despite my trying hard to focus on the conversation or to simply go with the flow. My family are great though and know just how far to go so we can relax together and maintain the old repartee and quirky humour we've always shared.

I'm happy just pottering or walking alone and enjoying the heavenly silence ! 🥴 x

[Pedal2]

Well Rockyblue238 like in all aspects of post brain injury there is not a simple answer to your question. Despite trying consistently I find "small talk" excruciatingly difficult to participate in and as many people grade "small talk" highly and participate in it every day this is yet another social life barrier to climb.

I too find myself deliberately separating myself from other people on occasion to avoid conversation and feel I have to have time alone on occasion. The reason for this is kind of unknown to me, maybe to recharge my batteries or something but it is definitely a necessity.

I have had 20 years plus of so called recovery to get used to these social issues but sadly feel I have only improved slightly during this time. Regrettably conversation skills in particular fit into the area of only slight improvement if any at all. However, in my experience some things get better and some don't, a hard pill to swallow but something I have kind of got used to.

[Kirk5w7]

Quite simply yesJx

[Pairofboots]

Yes, but miss that special familiar company of a partner where it is comfortable to just be in silence. 🍀

[twice]

Yes most definitely, sensory overload can happen quite quickly for me and I feel more in control if I am in my own environment. Plus most people don't understand about life living with brain injury and tell you what you should be doing without having any knowledge of what it's like.

[Leaf100]

Hi Rockyblue238In the begi ming, definitely. I could not understand well enough to even bother wondering if I were keeping up, I was not.

Now it is harder when people talk a lot about nothing, I guess that would gethe small talk thing. Also if they are word salad people and do not really say what they mean.

I am better with conversation that means something on a topic I care about, otherwise the brain does not seem to make the effort.

Isolating cane feel nice, but we also need other people to survive. Not being around them I thing means you either lose skills or don't get them back.

I have lost a lot of social skills and realize even the 2ay people language things is changing and I am not keeping up to date.

[Headshrink]

Absolutely, i feel at peace alone. I finfmd mindfulness really helpful. People are just unpredictable if people are nice im very happy with that but i really struggle with challenge and kids problematic behaviour

[haverfordwest]

As the Churchill dog says "Oh yes"

Short chats I can cope with, anything longer and I can feel myself getting restless and wanting to "escape" . I am still learning to cope with so many things 2.5 years on from tbi, I think I will always be learning !