Providing care

[14th]

Can someone please help me. My daughter was awarded compensation following a rod traffic accident.

I have applied to the court of protection to buy a house for her so she can leave residential rehab.

This has been going on since May 2019. The official solicitor is now involved. My daughter is one of 5 children and I am being asked what the care regime will be at home and what are I am her siblings will being provided.

I feel like I should be saying we will provide most of the care to justify why we are living with her (even that she would require a 24/7 care team if she didn’t live with her family)

Has anyone else been through this and can you advise what I should say please.

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You need help with this. Go to your CAB or contact Headway for advice. There are solicitors who deal with these sort of cases, you need someone with experience. If all else fails, contact your local mp and ask for help

[14th in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[AndrewT in reply to 14th]

Dear 14th,

I quite agree.... Do 'Get' Professional Help/ Advice, filling in, these Forms. 'Mere Mortal (wo)MEN' like us, ARE unable, to Master these Issues..... I Jest you Not!

As said above, Headway, the CAB, or perhaps your MP's Surgeries might, be able to Help/ Advise. (Remember that all our Members Of Parliament, should be, in 'Far Better Spirits', post election. Why not Take Advantage?)

I know that we ALL, send you Both, our Very Best wishes 14th and Pray that, this all, Turns Out well.

Our love, to both, of you.

AndrewT

[14th in reply to AndrewT]

Thank you AndrewT

[14th in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your really helpful advice

[Exhaust]

Hi . Can I ask how severe your daughters BI is ,what support she needs and how long did it take to receive compensation . My daughter has a BI following RTA. At present she lives at home with family . Independent living is being looked into by her treating team even though as a family we arent keen . Her accident was 2017 ,no idea how long it will take to reach a financial settlement ?

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

My daughters accident was in 2014 and she got her compensation in 2019. She was minimally conscious for 2.5 years and has major cognitive and mobility problems. The local authority mentioned independent living to us but we wouldn’t consider this as we know she would want to be with her family. I hope that is helpful

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

How is your daughter now ,what is she capable of ? It is looking like we wont have a choice regarding her living accommodation. As she was over 18 and we dont have health and welfare power of attorney the court of protection make decisions.

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

My daughter is 26 (20 at the time of the accident) she can now talk, eat, is starting to walk but has very little short term memory. I applied To the Court of Protection and became her lay Deputy but as I understand it, as my daughter doesn’t have mental capacity we can make decisions as parents in her best interest. When you,say the COP make the decisions why is that?

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

I dont no ? The case manager and solicitor informed us that as she is over 18 and at the time of her accident we dodnt have power of attorney that's is how it works !

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

My daughter was in exactly the same situation do you want to apply for power of attorney?

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

My daughter has no physical injuries ,she has severe facial injuries and lost one eye . Her memory is improving ,she has very little concentration she needs to be occupied all of the time we have support workers 8 till 5 ,5 days a week . Her friends are amazing she sees them every weekend as a family we support her all the time s/w arent on shift . Her treating team (who are brillient) feel she will benefit from a

independent living environment. As a family we are not ready for this . We are still coming to terms with the way things are now . She was initially given 24 hrs but thankfully with an amazing medical team pulled through . We had 6months in hospital then time in a rehab unit which was a waste of time tbh . Then home . I am going to speak to the solicitor about COP ?

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

I know, you just can’t accept it can you. Would your daughter want to live independently?

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

That is difficult to say tbh ,she does not have capacity ,she has very little emotion . She is happy most of the time but is it really happy ? She is so vunerable, she sees no wrong in anyone or anything . I think maybe one day it will be right but I dont feel any of us ate ready as yet ? Can I ask what area you are in ?

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

I hope so for you all. We live in Essex, where are you?

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

We live in Surrey. My daughter was in Brighton hospital then in roehampton rehab .

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

My daughter had her accident in Kent and spent 3 months in a hospital in London and has been in rehab ever since

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

Sorry to be asking so many questions . It's so good speaking to someone who understands . Why was your daughter in rehab for so long ? Was it not possible for her to come home ? What was the rehab like ?

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

They kept her in rehab because she continued to get better with tgerapies

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

Do you get support ? Is your daughter able to live at home ? You said she wouldn't want to live alone. How is she in herself ? Does she have quality of life ?

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

She will becoming home as soon as we have a house she can live in. No we dont currently get any support and was wondering about you said about your daughter having people 8-5. WhAt do they do with her to keep her stimulated.

Billie has a quality of life but would love to have her old life back and gets quite angry about this

[Exhaust in reply to 14th]

We have 2 support workers who are brillient . It was not easy to find the right people they are employed by an agency who specialises in brain injury . We have a busy household Ellie has 3 older brothers with partners and children, 2 of the brothers live at home . As a family we share the support before and after support workers .Ellie has very little concentration ,she paces all the time and wants to be out walking ad much as possible roughly 35,000 steps each day . Neuro psychologist say her behaviour is a combination of OCD,ADHD,and signs of tourette's. As I said before her friends are amazing and take her out at weekends and I clued her ad much as they can . Evening g a activities dont happen she is asleep by 7.30 she gets very tired also she is up very early ,normally 5.30 . She does a varied range of activities with s/ws ,swimming ,dance ,badmi ton golfsessions she is taken to the headway center in Lewis once s week ,she visits national trust places ,zoos,farms, I can say the support she receives is amazing. But I'd give anything to have my daughter back. Learning to accept the new Ellie is heartbreaking

[14th in reply to Exhaust]

My heart breaks for you and I feel

exactly the same. You torture yourself with memories of your lovely daughter pre accident and what could have been. My Billie has 2 brothers, 2 sisters and 2 nieces and they have been amazing. It such a hard thing to adjust to, if you ever do. Sending you all my heartfelt best wishes.