I came out to my gf not long after we started talking and she says she accepts me but the only time she will talk about it is to tell me to man up. I know I'm not very manly and that is part of my dysporia. But it hurts when she says that. And she only calls me by male pronouns when her kids and family are not around and every time it's like a stab in the heart doesn't help that my very gay mother still calls me by my dead name and sends me cards that say 'daughter' on them. I'm so tired mentally and physically. What do I do?