New to all this!!

[dawnlwilliams]

Hi we are foster carers hoping to adopt our 2.5 year old foster child,any advice will be gratefully received xx

[Joygirl]

Try Julia Brown & Dr Mary Mather book, amazon.co.uk/Foetal-Alcohol...

Find your nearest support group, fasdtrust.co.uk/cp8.php

And lots of lovely helpful people on here who will help along the way.. We adopted one of our foster kids who has FAS.

[Boots5623]

Hi, six years ago we adopted two children with FASD (then aged 5 and 9). All I can say is that attachment issues are a given with FASD (sometimes severe) and certainly the more attachment issued your child may be the more that will compound the issues caused by FASD. We have first hand (and oftentimes painful) experience of this. We did many things to help attachment and it worked best with our younger daughter, mainly because of her age I think. We home-schooled which might seem a bit radical but then I home educated my four birth children before that so it seemed the logical choice and i do believe it's made a huge difference to their level of attachment and self-esteem.

For your 2.5 year old? Get a sling - a nice big comfy one - and don't put her/him down! This is probably the no. 1 tip for establishing attachment in my opinion... My youngest was carried about the home and outside for almost 15 months! My Chiropractor sorted my back out.. it was definitely worth it - she's now 11 and very attached despite her FAS..and that makes all the difference i can assure you

wishing you all the very best and God bless you all in your journey ahead

[dawnlwilliams in reply to Boots5623]

Thank you for your reply we have had her since she was discharged from hospital at 4 months old attachment doesn't seem to be an issue (at the moment) at the moment she goes to a specialist childrens centre but where she goes from there I don't have a clue at the moment, xx

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Were in almost exact position, dd went to primary school , fortunate they were fantastic, met her every need, resulted in great understanding as they were willing too learn, School and home partnerships are paramount. Senior school was another area it was evident that the way she understood the world and

everything . would not work even in SEN School. She went too a Specialist Children's Centre for children with such problems and Trauma, alongside home schooling. College time was the change for her it was fast and dramatic, Even was Student of the year , learned with right support and understanding things can change , though very very slowly .