Does anyone knw how to deal with the daily ve... - FASD Support
Does anyone knw how to deal with the daily very arwkward behaviour that I get frm my 5 1/2 yr old jus been diagnosed? Plz?
Good morning, just wondered what sort of behaviours? Is it getting angry? Just absolute awkwardness, recognise this one very very well?
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My youngest is 6. She is similar, we use humour as much as we can, make getting dressed fun etc . Lots amd lots of patience is required
Praise the good behaviour and try and ignore the bad. Pick your battles.
( hello, poppy, you will know me from Saturday)
Hi, what are the behaviours, I agree... DEFINATELY humour...the only thing is if its attention seeking behaviour usually ignoring is best as laughing just feeds it ... Be more specific and we can try to Help more xx
Hi,
Try checking out the Canada FASD Research Network's KnowFASD website by the Intervention Network Action Team: knowfasd.ca/ There is a wikipedia-like feature with a page on intervention suggestions for negative behaviours: wiki.knowfasd.ca/Negative-B...
Hi and thanks. Well I don't really knw where to start. I say black he says white. No matter what I say or do he wants the opposite ! I can see he gets pleasure frm annoying me or myfriends children, peers are very wary of him. I feel so sad , guilty and helpless. I'm a single mum I suffer with back problems and am often in pain. I would really love to be able to have some Paitience with him. Also his meal times are a battle as he takes so long, bout hour ish ( that's with incouragement !) . It s just a battle to get him to comply and just do what I ask rather than the opposite and then look to me for a reaction!!
Hi Gstar
We have a 3 year old foster son who nearly broke us with very similar behaviour. Nothing he did seemed to be natural & nice - we stopped visiting friends/family because it got too stressful. For someone so young he was so knowing and provocative. Every one of his actions were purely for an adverse reaction. Then one Sunday evening we sat down as one last attempt to make the placement work and decided to completely ignore the aggravating behaviour - we would all get up and walk out of the room leaving him alone with no 'audience'. However, we would all make a big happy fuss if he did something positive. It took a few days to break the really bad bits and a little longer to get rid of the smaller niggling things. We still have some issues (like mealtimes) but I don't rise to it and if he doesn't eat his meal and in good time then his plate is taken and he gets no dessert. The no dessert is normally a good prompt for us. We learned the hard way that attention is attention even when it's bad. It's not easy but try walking away and counting to ten. Don't argue with them because you will be feeding it. It worked for us and he's happier for it too. Good luck x
P.s. I have also taken to drinking camomile tea (I'll try anything to stay calm) lol
Ok, good idea ! Ill try anything at mo! Thanks x
Hi, thanks , that all sounds like very good advice, glad it's worked for you. I will be putting it to the test this eve! Sounds like our boys are both very similar !! X
Thanks all will try that this eve, x
I have 5 children the two eldest (both boys 10&12) were diagnosed around 3 years ago, after a lengthy battle, mainly because the younger of the two had similar behaviour that you described and always had. He loved attention good bad or otherwise i tried everything but after advice from the gp we tried ignoring bad behaviour which culminated in him walking into the living room in front of everyone and 'relieving' himself on the tv. We realised then that despite praising the good and ignoring the bad he craved attention for EVERYTHING he did. We then sat down and worked out what was the thing he enjoyed the most (food) and used that to both reward and punish him. 3years on and although he's not fantastically behaved (what child is??) he is however a lot more manageable and there hasnt been anymore repeats of that incident. My best piece of advice is just find what works for your son and dont get disheartened.
