Hey! It's a bit difficult for me to open up on this topic here, but I'm getting so anxious that I just need to get it off my chest....
At the beginning of July I had my laporascopy and removal of ovarian cyst. It took me nearly 4 weeks to recover, now I feel quite OK. For more than half a year before the operation I was experiencing quite painful intercourse. My partner was super understanding and supportive. I'm not on any pill now (why-that's another long story) and I have to say my libido got really HIGH. I tried to talk openly to my partner that I'm ready to try again, we are close and, how to say it, we show each other a lot of affection constantly the problem is though that it seems my partner is completely blocked by his fear he will hurt me if we try sex with penetration. It's silly, I know, because it seems we just should try to talk openly. But it just doesn't work and we both get more and more frustrated and anxious. I even started getting crazy, that maybe I just don't turn him on anymore, what I know it's stupid, cause he shows me every little day how much he loves me... I just don't know what to do... we are always talking about how much impact this f*** disease has on us, but actually, it f*** up our partners as well... I don't know how to overcome his fear, how to just get back to 'normality'...
I'm wondering if anyone experienced similar problems in their relationships? Maybe you have some tips how to talk, how to convince that it's worth trying at least?
I know it all may sound silly, but I'm just desperate...