Hello, just joined and wondered if an... - Domestic Abuse Su...
Hello, just joined and wondered if anyone has any advice on coping?
Hi Lele
Am so sorry that I have not replied to your post until now. Until now I have not had a chance of getting onto the Health Unlocked site and have only just noticed the Community is now fully up and running! I started this community myself due to unfortunately also being the subject of domestic abuse. Obviously your circumstances may differ considerably, as no doubt does others but I found there was very little support for people such as ourselves in being able to just talk and know we're not alone.
Please feel free to share how you feel and what you are going through and I someone will reply as soon as possible.
Take care
Tracy
Yes, don't just "cope"!read the book Verbal Abuse"! Know it's not you and go!! I know we yell in response to the unfairness, the lack of logic and confusion as to how to please and be ourselves as grown women ..
You will never be then you God intended whilst needing to please a confuser..
You CANT "cope" and grow .. Get out now before your kids learn the skills of the one who wins..
Because it is not about relating or love when there has to be a win .. Usually his!!
You are not his mate or buddy, we want love irrational as it is..
He wants YOU and he won't stop until HE WINS THE WHOLE LOT FROM YOU and your kids!!!
There is no love when your life is constantly trying to win approval or meat his never ending goals FOR YOU!!
He makes you feel guilty or mental??
Get out now! He envies you he doesn't love you !
Jealousy is fear of losing something you value, it's irrational!
Though so is love!! Jealousy, played upon is from the man
With ENVY, JEALOUSY'S COMPLETELY RATIONAL SISTER ..
ENVY IS WHEN A PERSON WANTS SOMETHING YOU HAVE..
THE ENVIOUS ARE DANGEROUS DELIBERATE HURTERS AND PREDATORS
THEY WILL TAKE ALL OF YOU IF THEY ADMIRE YOU!!
They are incomplete and will complete themselves
By sucking the SELF from you!!!
It's a power game, ENVY, is bad bad bad !!
Comes from nastiness and a desire to hurt those
Whom they admire...
JUST FOR HAVING WHAT THEY DESIRE!!
There is no love.. You will give until you are no more!
You don't need his approval!!
Like what you do keep you
AND NEVER GIVE ALL OF YOU AWAY!
You need you, your power and love!!!
YOUR KIDS WILL NEED MORE THAN HE THINKS HE IS ENTITLED TO,
HE SUCKS IT FROM YOU.. SAVE FOR NICE PEOPLE, PROPER VULNERABLES!!
If you feel confuse and guilty and in debt to him.
HE IS A THIEF !!! One day when the treasure of a beautiful person is needed for the most vulnerable, like your kids, HE WILL STEAL YOU FROM THEM TOO!
Take it from a twice timer, READ THE BOOK "VERBAL ABUSE" !!!
You can't explain it, though Patricia does! Oh so well.
-REMEMBER- The only thing wrong with you.. Is you love him, so believe his lies about you!!
Sorry, passionate KP_Flower
Just another note ..
Trusting and nice you are!
If he continues to hurt and confuse you..
Like you can't "win" or please him.. You are in the game then too
PTSD IS THE RESULT!!
The sweet trusting girl you once knew will be gone..
You won't have a God,
There will be no greater power!!
You will trust no one ..
Please, if you are confused? HE IS DOING IT DELIBERATELY!
Save yourself! Your kids! People with good hearts, who are giving should not be wondering, how can I love you enough or please you?
Find someone who has equally as much to give!
You are sinking into a LOVE DEBT CRISIS!
Love bankruptcy and a sense of not giving it again lest you gamble to much?
You are not an addict .. He just makes you feel as though you gamble carelessly!!
You are not careless! But the MOST RESPONSIBLE OF THE TWO OF YOU ..
He just takes your love and waists it like an addict himself!!
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