HOW DO PROVE TO A SPOUSE THAT YOU ARE STILL VERY INDEPENDENT WITH MEDICATION AS A PWP?

[GBAMIGOD]

Hi, one or more pwp on this forum,probably would have experienced situations,where your partner or spouse,decided to take over some of your daily activities,like chores,writing checks,signing documents e.t.c.These are things you have been doing before PD diagnosis and you can still do,with or without medication depending on the activity.I am still in the early stage of this disease,and can function pretty well with medication,and off medication to some extent.How do you convince your significant other that you are still able with meds,despite having PD? I feel that I don't need no help,if I can still function.Please share your experiences.

[Hidden]

I feel sorry for you as I have for myself. But, please get over the frustration and the feeling of inadequacy. Your ego will take a beating at first but then once you and your spouse come to an understanding, everything will work out. In the beginning it's a challenge for everyone. The key is the communication. Hold nothing back. Be open about everything and I mean everything!

There are only two options for the families of those who are afflicted. Walk away and suffer and regret about what might have been or stay in and fight together and rejoice!

I will pray for you and may peace be yours.

[GBAMIGOD in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Malayappan.Peace be onto you too.

[Hidden in reply to GBAMIGOD]

Thanks. One more thing. It helps to give the benefit of doubt to your spouse. Most times they are just trying to help. Otherwise, they are just trying to keep the family safe. After all, awareness of Parkinson's is very low. Most people don't know what it looks like. You are both trying to figure it out together and navigate it as you learn more. In my case, my wife immediately took over all car driving once the tremors became very prominent. As the years have passed, she "gave" me back my "driving privileges" and I drive independently and drive my daughter to school and other activities.

[MarionP in reply to Hidden]

Put your feet up and relax, you are being served. Serving and caretaking a spouse is a big pain in the ass, be thankful you're not doing it alone. More than one friend (widows now) has said "never marry or date again, being a caretaking spouse has been more than enough." Your spouse will more than make it up to you soon and for the rest of your days.

[ddmagee1]

Since I am a caregiver to my wife, who suffers from metabolic syndrome, which involves diabetes, heart failure, and kidney failure, I don't have that problem. I'm so glad that the sinemet has helped me with my Parkinson's symptom's, so that I am able to help my wife, with most things. There are some days that are more challenging than others.

[Hidden in reply to ddmagee1]

Wow! And I thought I had it bad. I marvel at your fortitude, courage and resilience, ddmagee. This just goes to show that superhuman actions are possible when the need arises. May you be blessed.

[GBAMIGOD in reply to ddmagee1]

ddmagee, Amazing, may God strenghten us all.Keep up the good work.

[Danasr]

Be happy he wants to help...I am lucky to have chosen well too but many have no help.