Hmmm now that got your attention..... or did it. Lets get it on with some real topics and stuff, after all this is what this blog is about!! To help and support one another I think its important that we open up a bit and try to be helpful and constructive about things that really affect us.
When PD hit, my life had a shock wave. A big one. When I dusted myself down I thought heck if this is it, then I need to get straightened out, no more time wasting, filling my life with noise, no more tolerating rubbish, I have to and still do be selective, make choices, design my life. It was no easy task and many things changed, well everything...
I found myself, by design and also sheer bad luck a 40 something living with my Dad, no job, no money, no car, no house, no partner and ill. Wooooo wooo ! I'm just going to type about the no partner bit. It was my choice to end a marriage of 21 years, a huge decision, very heart wrenching but I had to. To then find myself single was daunting and it took me a while to think about what next. When I did I decided to dip a toe into internet dating, it seemed safer, was cheaper! I could go at my own pace, be selective, etc etc. still it took some courage. I was candid I explained everything..... but I was me, positive. I asked for people not to hit on me if they thought they couldn't handle someone with x x x x side effects, x x x physical condition and an unknown future. I said don't hit on me out of curiosity, pity or because you think I am vulnerable. But equally I was good at saying all the best things about me. I didn't know this but was told that the site had a top 10 most popular women list and after 2 weeks I was number 11. I was inundated with good will messages and inundated with dates. Actually I got overwhelmed, and was about to cancel when I saw him, and he saw me. That is my now husband, of 7 weeks and man of 3.5 years. He has taken on a lot, but he gets a lot too. He knows it won't be easy, but we make it as easy as we can. He loves me. He is a rock, and allows me to fly. It is a perfect pairing. Oh the sex bit is another post but I will do one, its important. Don't stay single if you feel incomplete. Give it a go, the most important thing is to write a good profile, that sorts the wood from the trees. If you need any help, its right here. Oh and if you want to read about a real stars adventures with dating here's my dear friend Sophies blog sophiebrain@wordpress.com