Dementia means your mum-in-law, who you care for and lives with you, asking your husband in front of your children "Why aren't you courting?" despite you having been married to her son for 32 years. It also means knowing she is tucked up in a warm, clean bed with a full belly (despite her protestations...) safe, loved and cared for every night.
Some days are purely so hard in every respect. Emotionally and physically draining. Lovely when she has lucid moments, I want to shout to my children to come and enjoy them so they can be 'with' their nana again.