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[Maesy]

I've just joined last week and am having a hard day today, since my accident 2 weeks ago I've had loud tinnitus, it's so distressing. I had a couple of quiet days but woke up with it screaming again.

I've received great advice on here and am so happy I'm not alone.

I've had tinnitus for 6 years but after a long while it seemed to not bother me.

Then I had an accident with my right ear, spiked it with a garden plant, it's been loud ever since.

Just wanted to tell you guys.

My son says I act like a little girl when lm like, this... He's right😔😔😔

[Happyrosie]

“Acting like a little girl” he says - is he a little boy then? That’s not how you show sympathy! He doesn’t know what you’ve gone through and going through!

[Maesy in reply to Happyrosie]

Bless you, no he doesn't.

[doglover1973]

Hi Maesy Tell your son he'd act like a girl if he had troublesome T . Then give him a clip around the ear - the cheeky rascal! 🙃 On a more serious note - hang in there. Spikes are tough but things will hopefully get better as your T settles.

[rabbits65]

Hello Maesy , I understand kids funny ways . I would give anything to see my grown up children and 6 grandchildren at the moment . Since I’ve had my tinnitus I would love their company and it wouldn’t worry me about their comments. My family live 90 miles away and I miss them so much.

[Hidden]

Hi Maesy.

Having grown up with 3 not-very-subtle- brothers in the not-so-enlightened 70's I can almost hear this out loud! But sometimes we need to pick our battles. Choose a day when you're feeling well to tell him firmly that there will be times you need to slow down and focus on reducing the noise levels and stress.

Just a suggestion...

Families eh! Take care. Glad you had a couple of quiet days. It is horrible when it rears back up. Mine is a steady buzz just now after a quieter spell. Night.

[purenostalgia]

Hi Maesy

I am sure your son did not mean any harm, we all say things that sometimes we may come to regret.

My Mam 75 used to live on here own and was not very well health wise, I only went to see here once a week, and on the way used to think I wonder what she will moan about today.

Then one day I found her collapsed on the floor laid in her own urine and could not get up, a moment I will never forget.

She came to live with me and I looked after her for the next 2 years of her life.

That comment " I wonder what she will moan about today" I will remember for the rest of my life.

Tinnitus screaming in my ears I find a perfect description of what it is like.

So do not be too hard on your son, we live and learn.

Take Care

Mike

[Suz_2]

have u tried supplements - I am taking Magnesium ( supposed to be good for tinnitus) and L- theanine ( which calms brain ). You should watch Pure Tinnitus Meditation videos on youtube as these help you to focus away from the tinnitus - Does yr tinnitus go up coz of music or background noise in general

[NoiseBeGone]

Hi Maesy, I feel your pain. This T is so bothersome and we all have to learn how to cancel the noise out. At one point my noise was so loud I had my hubby put his ear up to my ear too see if he could hear it😂, of course he thought I was cra-cra. Anyways I really hope the sounds dissipate for you. I’m so happy I found this site and that I am not alone here.

[surreycccfan]

Hi Masey, I think these type of comments can really hold us back when we are trying to cope with our T. I am sure didn't mean to be harmful but this is not uncommon when folks are either clumsy in their response and/or dismissive. T is a very hard thing to explain and if folks don't have it then there is no way for them to be empathetic, at best they can be sympathetic. I posted earlier about helping someones family understand their T. I posted the following :

" I think the best thing to help them understand your T is a little education. I suggest you search YouTube for T sounds and find a sound that is similar to yours (there are lots out there) and have them listen to it and then explain how often (if not constant) you are hearing this and how this makes you feel. I would also suggest you have them have a look at the BTA Take on Tinntus page as this is a really concise resource explaining what T is, how it effects someone with the condition and what things can be done to manage it tinnitus.org.uk/takeontinnitus . The BTA also have a resource on supporting someone with T which may be useful tinnitus.org.uk/supporting-... "

If you had your son (and support network) listen to the sound of your T he may understand your suffering and this could help as (1) not only does he (and others) understand where you are (2) you are able to articulate more clearly how your T is effecting which may help you decompress.

I hope this helps in some small way