Married and loving the journey

[Lenocker68]

Life is a journey of learning, healing and being a better you. Marriage makes the road easier to travel, hand in hand.

[sassy59]

I agree with that and wouldn't be without Pete. We've been married nearly 44 years. Xxxx

[cofdrop-UK]

A bit too drastic for me to have another bash at! Pleased for you though and for dear sassy.

cx

[Granny56]

I wish I could agree but I can't. My conditions are stable at the moment but when they are not, no one helps me but myself.

When I slip down from my tower of pillows during the night and find myself struggling to breathe, choking, coughing or gasping for breath, my husband has yet to offer me as much as a glass of water. When I reflect, there were times when he should have called for an ambulance. Instead, he called for me to sleep in the guest room as I was disturbing his sleep.

My husband is healthy and has no understanding of illness. He has no interest in learning about my conditions or what to do in an emergency.

You are truly blessed to have found caring partners in life.

[ericwood992 in reply to Granny56]

Dear Granny56,

It grieves me to read your very sad post. At the end of the day though, I suppose when we are really suffering we are all on our own a lot of the time. True, it is nice to have someone fussing you in an attempt to comfort you sometimes, but there are times when all you really need to do is retire to your own room and try to relax.

My wife is a true reflection of the sentiments expressed in Lenocker68's post and I am very, very lucky. But when I am really ill, I prefer to retire to my room (our spare room) and relax. It works wonders. Try not to be too hard on hubby.

Love,

Eric. xxx

[mauschen in reply to ericwood992]

Thank you Eric, I have learned to live with my situation and to be honest normally would never give it a second thought. That was until I read Lenocker68's post. Obviously it bother's me more than I thought.

I suppose my husband doesn't have it easy either, he sleeps with elephant woman. I have a face mask and 2 metres of tubing attached to my CPAP machine which is a life saver for me and a turn off for him.

You are right though, I do cope better on my own. I prefer to be alone when I am struggling for breath. On the few occasions where I have got into difficulty in public, people asking 'are you all right" or wanting to pat me on the back put the fear of God into me.

At the end of the day I am managing ... That's important.

[Hidden in reply to Granny56]

hi Granny56 if i had a partner who was such a thoughtless person like the one you have just described , i would bang them on the head with my oxygen cylinder to help them get a good nights sleep and they would be out of my life before i had finish my breakfast.

[mauschen in reply to Hidden]

You have made me laugh and brightened my day however, I picked him so no one to blame but myself.

Lenocker68 describes how it should be and so if the majority of people with illness have someone like Steve in their lives then their problems are truley halved.

[Lenocker68 in reply to Granny56]

So very sorry😔

[ericwood992]

Dear Lenocker68,

At 82, I couldn't agree more. This is a lovely way to look at life, especially for those of us fortune has smiled upon. Thank you for posting.

Eric. xx

[Nicholatracy]

I quite agree

[Lenocker68 in reply to Nicholatracy]

So sweet of you all, thank you so much. Steve is a very doting husband, always making sure I have what I need before he goes to work. I feel blessed to have him in my life, now that I'm sick he's very concerned. For those who are trying to heal and get better without a thoughtful mate, surely God has treasures in heaven for you. Love , camie

[mauschen in reply to Lenocker68]

I am so glad that you have good support. Steve sounds like a gem, a wonderful person to have around when your day is not going great and a kind person to share your good days. May you both have many happy years ahead of you.

[Lenocker68 in reply to mauschen]

Hugs to you , so kind of you to say!