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My love of my life passed away.

Yesterday morning my life, my everything, my husband passed away. He was hoping that its just chest infection but it wasnt. It was fibrosis which covered all lungs. When i seen a scan i was shocked, lings were white. Thanks to doctors in local hospital, they made everything for him to go with comfort.

I dont know why his consultant in brompton didnt tell me when he discharged him from hospital that his lungs are very bad. Why he gave us a hope and told he should get better soon after recovery from chest infection...

I m soo sorry my love, i was fighting for your life. Sleep in peace. Xxx

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God bless you and give you strength, Mendy. RIP Colin. xxx

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Don't be angry with them, whatever they told you or could have said would have made little difference to the outcome.

Anger would cloud the memories of the happy times, the important moments and the love and joy you both enjoyed.

I wish I could say something to make it all better but, of course, I can't.

Best wishes

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Bereavement and the anguish that comes with it is often accompanied by anger and resentment. Mendy you are in my thoughts and prayers

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So sorry Mendy, We are all here for you. God bless Colin . xx

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I am so deeply sorry to hear this, Mendy. I know you fought so hard to get the best treatment for Colin. He is now free from pain and fighting for every breath...may he rest peacefully.

I'm so sorry that you now have such awful heartache and my very deepest sympathy.

Tee xxx

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I am so sad to hear of the passing of your dear husband Mendy. It must be a comfort to know his passing was peaceful. You have certainly fought Colin's corner. Please accept my condolences and may you have strength and may your memories of happy times together bring you comfort.

With love

cx

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Really sorry for your loss and my heart felt feelings go out to you and your family, and I hope your family are giving you support at this difficult time x

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God bless, so sorry for ur loss. Thoughts are with u and ur family ❤️ Xx Sonia xx

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Oh Mendy I am so sorry to hear of your husband passing. Big hugs. Nothing I could really say will be of much comfort, but know that we're all here for you x

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no words my love can make you feel better but my thoughts are with you xx

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So sorry to hear of your sad loss Mendy. May Colin RIP now. Xx

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I'm so very sad that nothing more could be done to save your dearest love. Can't think why the consultant spoke the way he did - to be given a lifeline and then it have it taken away. At least your husband is at rest now, no more struggling for breath. Your family will hold you.

xxx

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so very sorry for the loss of your much loved husband ....at peace.

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I'm so sorry Mendy to hear the sad news about Colin. You've lost the fight for him but hang on to all the memories of the wonderful times you shared together.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Rest in peace, Colin.

Sue x

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so sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you and your family

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Mendy I am so sorry, you must be going through hell. He knows you did your best for him and loved him dearly. Thinking of you. Bev x

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So sorry to read of you loss .. Consultants I assume don't want to take hope away from terminal or yourself.

Who can blame them when sometimes it's all we have SO sorry

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Hi Mendy, I remember your other posts and how you have been fighting so hard for proper diagnosis and treatment for your husband. I don't want to sound like a troublemaker but I too would be very angry about what happened. Obviously the Brompton couldn't do any more for him but they should have been honest with you.

It does seen like your husband's illness was too advanced to save him and I'm glad the other hospital looked after him and kept him as comfortable as possible.

I know how heartbroken you must be Mendy, I hope you have family or friends around to support you.

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Very sad. I'm sorry Mandy x

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Hello Mendy

My deepest condolences to you and your family at this very sad time.

RIP Colin 🌷

xx

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....I am sorry for your loss mendy..

..R. I. P. Colin.

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So sorry to hear of your loss. I can't believe that no one told you the true extent of your husband's codition. I lost a dear friend with fibrosis early this year. He had superb treatment and had fought it for a number of years until the end. May your husband rest in peace.

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I am sorry sorry for your loss, you are in my prayers.

Kim xxx

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So sorry Mendy,

May Colin R.I.P 🙏🌼🌼🌼🌼

Sharon xx🌻

Sending big hugs💞

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God bless you Mendy and keep you strong. Colin is away from his suffering. From your posts you had a beautiful marriage. Remember all the good times. The sorrow will be with you but it will ease over time. Don't feel guilty you did your utmost for Colin, he knew that.

Peace be with you Mendy

Junie xx

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so sorry to hear of your loss :(

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My heartfelt condolences to you Mendy on the loss of your Colin, may he rest in Peace and eternal love. Praying for strength for you at this deeply sad time, love huff xxx

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So sorry for your loss Mendy. No words can help but it may be comforting to know the end was peaceful for Colin. Xx

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So sorry to hear of your loss Mendy. xx

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God bless tip Colin lots of love Mendy xxx

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I am so sorry you have lost your husband Colin; may he rest in peace. It must have come as a huge shock to you & I am sorry you are going through the pain of bereavement. A big hug to you Mendy. x

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I'm so sorry for your loss Mandy, wish I could help you in some way, you and he will both be in my prayers. God bless you xxx Peg

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So sorry for your loss and thinking of you x

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Thank you dear friends for your support. For being with me all this time, for answering my questions, for your wishes to me and Colin. Today i went to see him in chapel of the hospital. I ll try to be strong and live. But he always ll be my everything.xxx

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Mendy, I am so sorry to hear that your husband has passed away. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Pete

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I'm sending my deepest condolences ma'am. I am truly sorry for your loss of your dear husband. Lord, May his pain be gone, and allow you to find some comfort in the lords arms around you at this difficult time. Your husband would want you trying to take care of yourself. May peace in knowing he's in a better place, fill your heart. Amen 🙏🏼

-Amy 🌷🌷

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So sorry for your sad loss Mendy thoughts and prayers are with you God bless naresh62x

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Very sorry to hear of your loss.

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Mendy,It is agony to lose someone you have loved for so long,lots of people on this site have experienced what you are going thru and it is the most dreadful heart breaking time. I am sure the happy memories of your life together will eventually be a comfort, with a heavy heart. Bulpit

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So sorry for your loss, thinking of you x

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So sorry to learn of your sad loss, Mendy. God bless you, and all your family at this desperately sad time. May Colin rest in peace.

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So sorry for your loss Mendy. May he RIP. Hugs and condolences to you and your family xx

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So sorry to hear your sad news my thoughts are with you at this difficult time

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So very sorry for your loss xx hugs xx he is at peace now and no more infections, RIP x

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Many, many condolences at this very sad time. So sad for you. I'm sure that your love will rest in peace: may you find peace for yourself.

Catnip

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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My deepest sympathy to you Mendy. I think the consultant should have at least warned you about Colin's lungs then it would not have been such a shock. You are probably feeling numb at the moment but it does get better with time and then all the happy times together come crowding in. God bless.

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