Limbo Land

[ITSINTHEBAG9]

It's very odd but at the moment I feel like I'm in a sort of no-man's land really. All heading to the operation and can't make any life decisions until after. I expect we all feel like this?

[080311]

Morning Jane, I think what are describing is spot on, I was in hospital the lead up to my op but I felt every day was going no where. Just another test they thought I needed. Used to say to the others on the ward another day in Paradise 😂. Once you have your date than you can start planning, you can map out next year and the plans for your flock! At the moment it’s a bit like marching on the spot.

You will be great once this is done,

Take good care Pauline

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to 080311]

Thanks so much, Pauline. Yes it's the fact you can't make plans without a date.

[dunestar in reply to 080311]

When I was admitted to hospital recently after being taken to A&E I felt like I'd checked in to Hotel California. You can check in but you can never leave. 🙄

[080311 in reply to dunestar]

Your so right, I ended up in for 7 weeks then transferred to the specialist heart hospital where I had my op. Went to see my GP ended up in the back of an ambulance 😩 thought she would give me some water tablets and send me on my way even though I did feel quite poorly. Never thought it would be 2 months before I got home again. Sometimes life doesn’t half give us a curveball.Best wishes Pauline

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to 080311]

Poor you Pauline xx

[080311 in reply to ITSINTHEBAG9]

Being in for so long I had the best MOT you can imagine, think I had every test you can think of 😩 cameras down throat up bottom 😩 Twice! From everything they did I new apart from my heart everything else was working 😂

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to dunestar]

Oh dear, how long were you in for?

[Flowerfanatic]

Oh I feel exactly the same - you’ve described it spot on.... been told my operation will ‘most probably’ be between mid December to mid / end January so cannot even really plan much at all. 😕. Guess we just have to ‘keep on, keeping on’ for the time being. All best wishes

Sarah

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to Flowerfanatic]

Exactly so Sarah. I'll be glad to get it out the way.

[Mikedabike]

Hello, I think what you are describing is actually spot on, and I’m sure the majority of us have felt this way prior to the ‘big day’. I only wish I had known about this forum prior to my own AVR. If I could offer a little advice without trying to sound condescending. In my own case, I knew that something was wrong and that I needed the surgery. Once I was told I was getting the surgery, although a little worrying, for me it was a huge sigh of relief. I hadn’t taken into consideration my wife’s reaction. My reaction was relief that something was finally being done, my wife however was mortified, and understandably terrified about the possible outcomes. As I was kept in hospital for the 2 weeks prior to my own operation I was never really able to fully discuss with her the situation even though she visited every day, and the hospital were superb with their pre-op information. If I had my time again I would make sure that she was much better prepared for the ‘big day’. Forums like this are invaluable. Good luck in your progress.

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to Mikedabike]

Thanks so much for replying Mike. I have gently prepped husband for the fact there will be probably no visiting due to the Covid situation. Thankfully we are tech savvy. Strange times we live in.

[Tessie28]

Yes that is how it is. Hopefully you will not have too much longer to wait.

[ITSINTHEBAG9 in reply to Tessie28]

Aww thank you Tessie

[Astronomyrules]

Perfectly described. I've felt like that for the past year, since diagnosed in need of an urgent valve replacement. Prior to this news we planned to sell our house to move somewhere less rural, but put this on hold due to the impending op for which I'm still waiting, due to Covid ,and two cancellations thus far. I also remember,from many years ago, what it is like to be in hospital being sampled, poked and prodded whilst waiting to be transferred elswhere for various heart proceedures, but all this will pass and recovery is on the horizon even though it can seem very far away at times.