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I am 36 year old guy, always happy and successful what people say and know about me. I got HA in March 2020 and 2 stents were placed. Help i need from this group is to help me understand if its ok to get married after stents being placed. Will there be any consequences or i should stay single.

I was engaged to a Doctor and she left me after knowing about my heart desease. Should i look for someone else or stay single now. I dont want to ruine somebody's life.

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Kristin1812Heart Star

Hi ShahN

Such a thoughtful question.

My view ....please don’t ruin your own life either! Most people on this Forum would confirm there is a good life to be had after a HA.

I agree with StillConcerned. Counselling could really help you clarify your own wants and needs.

Of course any woman liking you will need to have to make up her own mind. And, (as you’ve experienced with your ex-fiancée), this may not always be the way you like, I’m afraid.

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EmmyLaury12

Hi

Hope you recovering from your recent HA.

I had one in April

This year and had one stent in .

I’m getting back to the road of recovery now and I’m sure you will too .

I think you should get married and xperience happiness with your partner . I’m sorry your engagement ended she perhaps wasn’t the right person if she didn’t stand by you after your HA.

Wishing you lots of happiness go online and see if you can find a nice companion .

Wishing you a speedy recovery too x

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Smerblue

HI ShahN, Live life to the full and experience all you can. When i looked at my own mortality it was a massive wake up call. Those who love you will stand by you. Think a great bit of advice given earlier was to look at counselling.

Be happy.

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MichaelJHHeart Star

Hello and welcome to the forum! Sadly many doctors while dealing both well and professionally with patients' problems are not good in dealing with their own (including family). You can only move on.

Obviously I do not know your medical history but if you make the lifestyle changes you may have a long life in front of you. A friend's mother had a heart attack over forty years ago whilst a former colleague's father had a bypass also over 40 years ago. Both are doing well despite being in their nineties.

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jowalk6

Hi ShahN. Your heart attack doesn't mean you have to give up on happiness. If somebody loves you heart and soul they will be there to enjoy the good times and be your rock through the bad times. You will find the one who loves you for all of you x

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Ghost84

Good she left you. You don't need people like that in your life. Spend time with the real true people in your life and know that there are people in the world that are in a far worse position than you, so be grateful and appreciate your life.

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Yasyass

If I was you for the moment try enjoy uself and staying healthy when the right time comes you will find someone else I’m married but after my ha most times feel sad and worried and now diagnosed with hf but symptomless it’s a lot for me to take in my husband doesn’t understand me I try to live normal but my cardio says oh your condition won’t improve my motto is anything can happen to anyone anytime so make the most of what we have got and eat healthy exercise and enjoy wh we have

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