Support and advise....

[Hopeless84]

My boyfriend ended it after 7 yrs, and is seeing someone else. I am heartbroken, and literally have chest pains, shortness of breath, shakes and constantly cry uncontrollably. My mother preceded my father in death; after she passed my father's health declined. His cardiologist said that a person can most definitely die from a broken heart. I'm afraid that it'll happen to me. I'm devastated, and I can feel it in every part of my body. It's the symptoms that I'm having that scares me.

[Prada47]

I think the question that you need to ask yourself is " Have these symptoms come on since your break with your boyfriend " or did you have them before ? I know it's no help but you will get over it and meet someone new.

Very Best Wishes

[Nathan53 in reply to Prada47]

Prada47 makes a good point. Your symptoms are common when associated with extreme stress. There is no quick fix to what has happened in your personal life but as with any trauma it's important to keep as much routine as possible and seek support from family and friends if possible. If you are still in any doubt about your symptoms visit A&E especially if you still have chest pain. While it may sound obvious remember people always survive break ups and life does change but you have to hang in there and expect that life will be difficult at the moment.

[Hopeless84 in reply to Prada47]

Thank you for your comment. The symptoms didn't start until he ended the relationship, but got worse after he told me that he was seeing someone else. He was my reason for living.

[Ticktock61]

The symptoms you describe don’t sound heart related It sounds like your having panic attacks at the thought of being on your own and the loss of your partner just speak to your GP if your unable to come to terms with your situation

[CharlesL]

Yes it's hard to get over a failed relationship. But if you don't have a history of heart problems, then your health is probably fine.

You just need time to get over the relationship.

Forgive me if this sounds simplistic

C

[isobelhannah18]

My husband left me for someone else and I was a complete wreck for about 6 months. What he really wanted was a family (me and our son ) and her and I let him back into my life several times which was a big mistake. After 6 months of this I realised I was allowing him to manipulate my emotions and to control my life and I started to recover. It still wasn't easy but looking back it made me stronger and more resilient. I coped by keeping to my routine even though I know I was not very effective. I had no appetite but ate healthily when I did eat. I also kept up my exercise routine. I only went through the motions and did not enjoy anything but gradually you realise you are coping.

Your aches and pains are almost certainly caused by your emotions but get them checked by your G.P. if they continue.

You will get over him I promise even though your emotions at the moment will be totally overwhelming and you can feel every emotion in every part of body.

[Hopeless84 in reply to isobelhannah18]

Thank you. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It shouldn't happen to anyone. The pain is unbearable. I'm having a hard time coping, and I'm not taking care of myself. I can't eat, I can't get anything down. I'm not exercising...I go from bed to couch. I think of him 24/7, of him giving to someone else what he was giving me. It nauseates me. I can't listen to music, it reminds me of him. I can't watch TV, it agitates me. What makes it all worse is that I don't have any friends, no one to talk to. I go days without leaving my apt, I go weeks without talking to no one. I'm totally alone. My only hope is that altho I'm retired, I'm starting a part time job in a week or so. I'll force myself to go to work, I'll force myself to make friends, and I'll keep the faith that I will meet someone who will treat me the way that I deserve to be treated, who will love me for me. I wish you all the best, and I hope that you too find someone that you are so deserving of.

[isobelhannah18 in reply to Hopeless84]

All the pain and emotions you talk about are "normal" for the situation you're in. You torture yourself imagining them together and everything reminds you of him. Although I had friends I didn't tell anyone for months because I hoped he would come back and no-one need ever know. I also felt ashamed and embarrassed. When I got to 6 months I told anyone who would listen and the support I got was brilliant. Even now when I mention it to someone they usually have their own story to tell about being left, even the most unlikely people. I am so glad you are starting work - it won't help at first but gradually you will realise that you haven't thought about him for a whole minute and that will increase every day.

[Gwersey]

How are you now, 3 months down the line?