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I refuse to use the school toilets as they are dirty but have had several accidents.Anyway to avoid having accidents without using the toilet?

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It's actually a really bad plan to restrict urination to the point that you are having accidents. Long term this can lead to UTIs, incompetent bladder, and loss of urgency sensation. The usual things that people do to reduce the need to urinate are not good for your health either, this usually involves restricting fluid intake and / or increasing salt consumption. You can minimise the need by ensuring that you go before you leave home and as soon as you return, but a healthy body will usually need to go between these times. I would suggest you are better off putting your efforts into getting the school to improve conditions.

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The teachers obviously know I am not going to the toilet but they have not done anything about the conditions.All they do is send my home afterwards.

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If I were you, I would approach the school governors directly. You can usually find contact details for them on your school's website. If you get nowhere with the board, you can always corner the OFSTED inspector next time they come round!

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My mum won’t complain she says I need to go to the toilet even if they are dirty and stop wetting myself

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In a way, she's right, but that doesn't mean the situation should stay as it is! Schools have a duty of care to their students. If toilet facilities are unusable, they are failing.

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They are usable but there is water all over the floor and bits of toilet paper.

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I see, it's unpleasant but not actually a health risk. The thing then is to try to work on your aversion. There are things you can do to help, like using anti bacterial wipes, maybe get some of those single use seat covers, or the shoe covers you get in swimming pools if the floor is always wet. In all honesty, it sounds like you may need some assistance as it could be extremely inconvenient long term if you can never use public facilities.

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I can’t.I just need to be able to hold on.

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Unfortunately it doesn't really work like that. Short of having a catheter fitted there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. You can partially increase bladder volume with incremental training, but it takes time and will require you relieve yourself more regularly initially.

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How do I partially increase my bladder?

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Please please please use the toilet, don’t avoid using it even if you do have to squat even if it means putting toilet roll around the toilet. It’s worth it in the long run, even if that’s not an option maybe speak to your school reception and ask if you could use staff toilets every now and again they may understand if you explain.

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The school obviously know I am not using the toilets but they have never said anything.All they do is send me home afterwards.

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Please don’t hold it..

please use the toilet

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Why???IThet are disgusting.

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In the long term I’m afraid it will lead to urinary problem :)

I don’t want that happen to you dear

Like me i always bring detergent in small container, if i want to use the toilet i will flush the toilet with the detergent and will use wipe to clean the toilet a bit and place the toilet liners

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He whole bathroom is a mess and the floor.

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No cleaner? Why so dirty..

Mmm

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Cleaners don’t come in until after school.There is always water on the floor and toilet paper everywhere by break time.

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Oh no!

... and the smell must be strong

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What do you mean???

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I totally understand your situation, I find it impossible to use public toilets due to a condition called Avoidant Paruresis sometimes known as shy bladder syndrome. I started wearing nappies at the age of 12, and I approached my employers to tell them of my condition and I was given a special key to the disabled toilet for my own personal use at work which is very clean. I wear adult nappies whenever I’m out so I don’t have to worry about using any public toilets. Ok I shower regularly I don’t have any problems dealing with my problem in this way, but I’m guessing nappies wouldn’t be a solution for you to go to school in

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Not really.I need a way of holding on as my mum is getting annoyed with me and I would smell of pee and I have to change for pe so everyone would see.

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I figured out why I am having accidents all of a sudden when I have been able to wait the school days for years.Its cause I am pregnant.

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