Hi everyone , funeral went well upsetting obviously but very tiring , almost fell in the grave had to wear mask in nearly 40 degree heat. Now gutting the house. Slowly. But took time out for coffee.
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So sorry for your loss Daveyboy ☹..I hate the house clearing bit hopefully you can get it sorted and then rest and quietly grieve..The weather is pretty pants here in England so when you can later find a nice shady spot somewhere open a beer and drink to your mother 🍻.Thinking of you x
in reply to Ravey
Thank you , I sat outside last night and had an extremely large jack Daniels before returning to house clearing but it seems bottomless twenty years of junk 😂😂😂
Damon1864Volunteer
So sorry for your loss it's hard to clear the house, but please do take se the out when you are finished to relax and think of your mother Make sure you have a long cold drink with you. Try and have a good day and take care 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx 🌻🌻💖
My experience with clearing my grandparent's home (clothes from between the wars in the attic) also my dads, what do you do with a baby grand piano, the other side of the world, when you live in a small flat in a high street in the UK? Anyway, it has meant I have started to declutter mine, so no one should have to do a dreadful clearance from a hoarder (me). I now have to live long enough to manage this herculean feat. 😱 my local "man with a van" will earn quite well.
in reply to SORRELHIPPO
Think I should book a small tribe to help me 🤣🤣🤣
SORRELHIPPO in reply to
I forgot, with my grandparents, under the stairs, masses of tinned food and a small primus stove, put there during the Cuban Missile crisis (just in case) thought they could see out the nuclear winter there. Talk about living history!!
in reply to SORRELHIPPO
😂 we all have our quirks it's what makes us human
I think the same..keep thinking ill have to start decluttering so less for sons to do whn i pop my clogs x
in reply to Patk1
Always best to be light 😂😂😂😂
It’s all very sad Dave and clearing the house can be difficult but thankfully the funeral went well. Take things slowly if you can with plenty of breaks as required. Xxx💕
in reply to sassy59
Funeral went well , emptying a house well I like minimal unlike my parents who seems to accumulated enough for twenty house's 🤣🤣🤣
I'm so glad u managed the funeral Davey..I'm glad u didnt fall in!Maybe keep a box big or small,of momentos,photos,nic nacs,jewellery- even if u keep in box in wardrobe.
Does yr village have a charity shop?
Hope yr taking rests xxx
in reply to Patk1
No second hand shops or charity shops the Greeks put everything at side of wheelie bins that way people know it's stuff to use not rubbish
Do they have house clearance people/companies there? If so you could sort out mementoes wanted and just get rid of rest……??
in reply to Bevvy
😂😂😂 no unfortunately no second hand shops either
Bevvy in reply to
Sorry. That could have made things so much easier. Try not to be bullied by house landlord. It WILL take time for you to clear premises. How long had your stepdad paid up to? You certainly shouldn’t have to clear house before then. If not long enough could you pay an extra month rent? You need to look after yourself as much as possible.
Thinking of you.
Ps are there no animal charities who may do eg car boot sales, sell second hand goods etc.? There are often this type of charity on Mediterranean islands, and they would be glad of items.
in reply to Bevvy
The landlord hasn't got a leg to stand on because he's not given my parents a contract which means he's not declared the rent to the tax office for twenty years plus he's running a holiday let behind my dad's house and running the electric from my dad's meter and my dad was paying electric for both and knew nothing about it
Bevvy in reply to
Am horrified! Definitely don’t be bullied, of course it will take time to clear house. It would even if you were well. Can any Greek friends help you both physically and dealing with landlord.?
in reply to Bevvy
The landlord is well known to the locals because he's not from the island he's not liked either I've spoken with a Greek lawyer who as said he can contact the tax office and electric company and he can face server conciquences
I don’t envy you one bit Dave. I hope by now you are feeling a bit better. Just take it easy you don't have to do it all in one day.
in reply to Mavary
I've been on it since returning from the funeral 😂😂 it's like looking for a pebble in a quarry of pebbles 😂😂😂
Thinking of you Dave! Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve! It must feel quite tricky sorting everything on your own! Remember we’re here with you as much as we can be!
in reply to madonbrew
I know and I thank you . Yes it's being a struggle because the culture is different, the whole system here is strange to deal with and being here alone it's hard not having anyone to bounce ideas off and you have to be here to actually be able to do that to see first hand. It's easy to say an interpretation of how the system works but words really can't explain it.
madonbrew in reply to
I can only imagine the differences in culture and how things are done and how much more difficult that makes things! Hang in there Dave! Sending a hug 🤗
yes mate i have spoke to you before you ok takes time went to a family burial as i told you i think i bought a lot of memoies back as the day of service my mom pat away 44 years ago same month but keep smiling you get through it matey good luck speak soon
in reply to ghousrider
I'm getting there just dealing with emptying the house at moment. I keep having food delivery each night from different people making sure im eating , last night my friend lefteri the crow whisperer brought me home made Greek lentil soup and a rich chocolate souffle . I'll let you guess which I ate first 😃😃
ghousrider in reply to
you will be ok matey make sure you do eat what your friends cook for you look after your self only advise i can give i been there cheers mate
Hi DaveyI’m glad the funeral is done and that you are coping.
Clutter clearing is a mare and often very sad, too. It took me 35 w/ends to do my mother’s place.
I hope that people take everything you put out.
Good luck 🤞🏼
in reply to Hellodolly
Total nightmare the bags keep piling up.😂😂
I’m glad the funeral went as well as funerals can. The house clearing seems to take ages. My mum died in February, and I have just finished clearing her apartment. Bearing in mind she moved from a 7 bedroom house in 2018, there was still a huge amount of ‘stuff!’
in reply to helenlw7
It makes you wonder where all the stuff comes from and seems never ending and doing it alone in 40 degree heat is not easy but have to keep stopping to go on my machine so I do get breaks 👍🏼😂
helenlw7 in reply to
I agree. In the first clear out, I found things my mum had bought to survive the potential crash predicted by some in 1999/2000!
in reply to helenlw7
It's really funny you saying that I emptied the dry food cupboard and found tinned and boxed stuff from a supermarket called prestos which closed down in the UK god knows when 😂😂😂
So very sorry. May your Mum be at peace now. Hope you have help with the clearance. A tough job. Keep some little treasured to pass on. I’m a sentimental soul so I love keeping things that make me feel close to my loved ones no longer here. Take care, Andrea x
in reply to koalaears
It was my stepfather I lost but lost my mum earlier but yes I have kept certain bits for memories silly things that people wouldn't understand why I keep them but it's the story behind them .
Hello Daveyboy1963, glad to hear the funeral went well. Its even sadder when you start doing the house clearing, memories of the good times . Keep up the fluids you need them in that heat. The coffee looks really nice. Take care of yourself thinking of you.
in reply to katieoxo60
Will do 😉👍🏼
Glad the funeral went well for you Dave and know just how hard it is to clear the house. My mum was a bit of a hoarder and loved her clothes, she had three double wardrobes stuffed full and enough ornaments to start her own shop, luckily we have chartity shops that will take these things. Its so lovely that you have good neighbours making sure that you have something to eat x
Thinking of you X
Hi Davey. I am glad that you didn’t fall in. Reading your post and responses gives me a smile. Your sense of humour is back in evidence. It’s still a long road for you with all that clearing to do. Take your time within your energy so that you can enjoy some of the things that you find. My best wishes,
Grace
in reply to Walkwalkwalk
Well grace I've always said that quote from brave heart you can take away my pride but you'll never take my humour 😂😂😂😂😂
Walkwalkwalk in reply to
Yes. I think that humour can be our safety valve in so many situations. Take care of yourself. I think having the stars and Jack Daniels for company will help.
I will watch out for your next progress report.
Grace
in reply to Walkwalkwalk
Finally finished!!! I have completed the house emptying so I now go to sleep for a few days or weeks which ever my body requires 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Walkwalkwalk in reply to
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Glad the funeral went well. Hope you get everything sorted. Stay strong 🐞
in reply to Nicholatracy
I try and that's all I can do 😅
Must have been awful in that heat to endure a funeral. Doing a clear out is mind boggling. When we began to sort my dads we found lots of money in different places !! At my mother in laws clear out my husband found out his mum was pregnant when she married his dad A shock for him. Don’t overdo it especially in that heat. Remember to rest. X
in reply to watergazer
I keep resting I have no option I have pneumonia and coughing up brown blood , so when I start really wheezing I stop
Do look after yourself. Glad you've got kind friends.
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