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[rockett777]

would have been hubby's birthday. He should be here.

[pergola1]

rockett - you have my big sympathies - the hardest thing facing me at the moment, is seeing my husband so ill and know that one day soon.....The important to know that we were lucky enough to have known and married them. I cant come out with all the usual platitudes but wish you well. xxx

[rockett777 in reply to pergola1]

Ahh pergola, lm so sorry, not wanting to distress you, just got no where else than this site to turn to today. Yes we are very lucky, thank you for your thought. Take care both of you and your love ones.xxxxx

[badham in reply to pergola1]

Such have a lovely way to put it, I am too watching my husband slowly slipping away each day, have had such a bad day today and just couldn't stop the tears and made such a fool of myself at work but they all tried to cheer me up, but just don't want to face it. Take Care x

[newlands]

I agree with Pergola It's going to be a horrible day for you and others to come

Thinking off you love Dorothy

[Hidden]

Sending you a big hug,grieve today my darling,but do remember the happy times xxxx

[rockett777 in reply to Hidden]

hi Wendells, l so want to remember those times. Hope you are doing ok today? Hugs sent your wayx

[casper99]

Oh Rockett, I know your heart feels broken right now and I know nothing anyone says can make it better so, I'm sending you the hug I'd give you if you were close. x

[DozyDormouse]

A very Happy Birthday to your husband. Yes I know you are watching her.

For you my darling a big warm all enveloping comforting hug, wrapped in a cloud soft cuddle blanket infused with his favourite aftershave.

After the screaming and shouting at the fates, make a big chocolate cake for when the kids come in.

Love you

Dozy x x x

[pergola1]

This is such a friendly, kind forum. It gives me the company that i need so much BUT I need to give something in return BIG HUGS to all xx

[Louisiana]

Sending a BIG hug.

[huggs]

Hi rocket,

My heart goes out to you today, and to others facing the same situation. I know its really hard, but I am sure your husband knows how you feel. One of the greatest things in life is to love and be loved. You have had that and all the happy memories to keep you going. I wish I could take your pain away, but I cannot, so am sending you lots of virtual gentle hugs ((((((((((((((rocket))))))))))))and love to keep you company. Be good to yourself, so tomorrow if you can, why not treat yourself to something that you may have wanted for a while, or something that you wouldn't normally buy. I am in no way saying that this will ease your grief, but it will be a distraction for yourself. Some people light candles on anniversaries like this, so if that is your thing you could do that. I will light one for him, if you would like me to. Also sending you warm peaceful thoughts. Take care,

hugs from Huggs xxxxxxx

[rockett777 in reply to huggs]

Thanks for hugs and candle. Yes l can light a candle too, l forgot, couldnt do so when hubby here.

Got up at 4am made tea picked flower from garden then realsied he not hear, felt hit by a truck and am in pieces.

Doing something good tomorrow, ab.b.q and music party to celebrate. I invited 40 and thought 15 would come and have 30. Soo it better not rain.

Huggs sending you a hug backxxxxxx

[huggs in reply to rockett777]

Hi rocket,

You must have felt hit by a truck. That feeling is absolutely awful, and the devastation you felt can only be imagined.

I am lost about your references with the letters regarding music!! LOL Must be older than I thought! Oh dearie me. Its good to have a party in your late hubby's honour, and he will be so proud of you, and you can take great comfort in knowing that he must have felt so loved by you, and you by him.

Hope the party goes well, I am sure it will, and I will be there too in spirit. I am not missing out on a party, so a virtual one will have to do. LOL Are you having the party outside? Its just that you mentioned the rain. I don't know where you live, but I think tomorrow is not too bad weather wise. It has been very windy here today.

Thanks for hug,

Take care,

more hugs from Huggs (((((rocket)))))

[rockett777 in reply to huggs]

Hi Huggs, l live in Hertfordshire.

My hubby is 68 today. I am 16 years his junior. I kept him young lol.

When we were told he had 2 weeks max left, l did a life surprise party.

All our birthdays, anniversary's, easter's e.t.c. in one.

So we had cards and gifts given for all the celebrations we wouldnt have.

I did music he particularly liked, but this time lm doing more what l would like lol

Think he will be in heaven with his hands over his ears.

Take care as well

Hope you have a restful evening.xxxx

[huggs in reply to rockett777]

Hi rocket,

I have just been looking back at your old posts, as something was niggling away in my memory, as I was sure we had corresponded before, and we have. It is not long at all since your hubby died, and it takes a lot of time to adapt. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it takes as long as it takes. In time you will adjust, which I know you cannot imagine doing right now, but slowly you will.

Are the children rallying round, because I remember in a post before you felt you had to be strong for them, but you can all support each other.

Never been in Hertfordshire, but I am sure it is lovely.

Enjoy the celebrations, and give yourself time to grieve, as its not long at all since he died. Very early days.

Take care,

hugs from Huggs xxxxx

[Hidden]

He is here with you rockett and always will be. Just because his body is no longer here doesn't mean his essence isn't. I hope that's a comfort xx

[Hidden]

when I saw your post to say your husband had past away I felt for you I know you are more sad today as you cannot share the birthday together but draw strength on those wonderful memories you and hubby had all the years he was with you year 1-2 is hard then it starts to get easier this is when you need to draw on your memories.

[rockett777]

Hi ant64, l guess this true but oh my so much sadness, l'm numb and all cried out for now. So glad for all the help and support.

[medow]

Hugs and kisses to you rockett, have lite a candle for hubby, and you x x x

[Hidden]

Hi rocket, big hugs for u, everyday is hard but special days are always harder, we are the ones grieving for loved ones, just imagine the big party in the sky they are having, ur hubby is always with u no matter wot, and I'm sure he'd take away your pain if he could. Big big hugs rocket, x Sonia x

[Puffthemagicdragon]

I know we all believe different things and my belief is that we just use the body in this life and it's just the body that dies, not the person themselves. It's also the good memories of those left behind that makes it all worth while.

[RibvanRey]

Hi Rockett I hope that today has not been too painful for you and that the support of others around you has eased your terrible loss. Rib

[Hidden]

Hope you got through the day Rockett. Big hug !

[barnowl1]

Hoping this new day and putting your energies into the party will help you through. Kindest thoughts barnowl

[Tazzy2]

Big hug and prayers xxx

[Dragonmum]

It's too soon for the platitudes - a lot of us have been through this and we know words are pretty useless, but I try to find place in my heart for all those who have never known the privilege of loving and sharing life with a wonderful partner. Grief is the price we pay for Love - but it's a price so well worth paying.

[victoriablue]

Big hug for you I felt the same take each day as it comes.

Feel for you as do all the good people on this site I walked the legs of my little dogs on my husbands birthday good job they are small I can't walk far. ((((Hugs)))))

[rockett777]

Good morning everyone. Thank you for all your kind words and thoughts. The party went well, the music mad. Singing along to 6o's,70's and 80's music. One of my son's managed to get here and promptly took control of the bbq, He said no burnt food mum, dad would of hated that.

So today the sun is shining and lm glad to have celebrated his day. What next? A cup of tea, a good book and rest for this day, oh my the tears are flowing again.

Bless each of you todayxxxx